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Can She Help Grieving Mom Communicate with Departed Husband?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

My mom lost her second husband almost a year ago, and she is having a hard time with this. I’ve asked her to seek grief counseling, but she won’t do it. Last summer my stepfather came to me in a dream. This is not unusual – I’ve had many spirits come to me. In the dream, I was at the foot of my mom’s bed, talking to her as she cried over his death. He entered the room and I was so happy to see him. I said to him, “Ron help her! Help my mom!” He sat at her bedside and wrapped his arms around her. Then he turned to me and said, “I can’t. She won’t let me.” When I asked why I could perceive him and she couldn’t, he said it was because of her sadness. He then explained that he doesn’t understand such feelings, for they are no longer a part of him. He said he feels no sadness, regret, anger or grief – he only feels the love they still have. He wanted me to tell her he is with her every day. Every time I’m with my mom, she asks why she can’t feel him. I have no real answers for her aside from what he told me. Can I help her to be more open to him?
– Susan

Dear Susan:

This is mainly a problem of vibration. Sadly, it’s often the people who most long for contact with a loved one in Spirit who have the hardest time. This is because the emotions of grief are of a very low vibration, and in order to consciously connect with spirits, we have to reach high toward their vibratory range.

This is also why spirit contact is a relatively rare experience: when someone we love dies, we are grieving during the time when they are trying the hardest to connect with us. Once our grief has subsided, our loved ones know we’re okay and they move on. So what your stepfather told you in that dream is right on.

I’m betting your mom isn’t big on remembering her dreams, for if she was, she would have had a dream about your stepfather already. As you are very psychic, you have a naturally high vibration and ready access to your dreams. I’m sure your stepfather came to you because he’s been trying very hard to get through to your mom without success.

In order to connect while awake, we must have a high vibration, unmitigated desire, and the belief that this is possible. Then if we can stay open and trust what we perceive, it’s pretty simple to draw spirits close with feelings of our love for them.

Here are some suggestions for anyone who is grieving and longing for contact with a loved one in Spirit:

First you must give yourself some time to heal, for as you do, your vibration will naturally rise. When you are at peace with your loved one’s passing, you will be in a better position to purposefully connect with their spirit.

In the mean time, you can try for contact via your dreams. Of course, for this to work, you must be able to remember them, so begin to keep a dream journal and study various techniques for remembering and working with your dreams. Each night before you go to sleep, think of your loved one with affection and ask them to visit you while you’re dreaming. You can also ask your spirit guides and angels to facilitate this experience.

Ask yourself if you have any fear about the whole idea of spirit communication. Many people think they want this but deep down the idea of it unnerves them. That fear can both make us block our own success, and make our loved ones in Spirit hold back because they don’t want to scare us.

Further, ask yourself if there are any inner conflicts or issues you have yet to resolve about your relationship with the loved one in Spirit you are seeking. If you’re carrying any conscious or subconscious feelings of guilt, anger or any other lower emotion, those feelings can lower your vibration and prevent contact. For example, if you feel guilty because you weren’t there when your loved one crossed over, you could subconsciously “protect” yourself from facing your loved one until you resolve those feelings.

Beliefs are very important here. The more you expect to be able to connect with spirits, the more that will tend to happen. It is therefore wise to read about others’ success. It can also help to have someone else make contact. (For example, you might ask your stepfather to come to you in another dream and give you some information you could not have known. This evidence will both convince your mom that he’s really trying to come through, and show her that it’s possible to ask for a dream and have it happen.)

Understand that the spirit world is all around us, but it’s not tangible like this realm. If you expect to be able to perceive spirits with nothing but your physical senses, you will be disappointed. Some people even call the spirit world the “subtle realm.” Our thoughts and feelings already exist in this subtle realm, which means that spirits naturally come to us via thoughts and feelings. To manifest success with spirit communication, we must learn to trust that our thoughts and feelings about spirits are “real.”

When you feel you’re ready to make contact, turn on all your senses, sit quietly, and open up to a ny impressions you get. It’s rare that we sit quietly with all our senses turned on and then reach out to Spirit from a high vibration, and yet that’s all we really need to do.

As you reach out with your heart from a high vibration, watch for signs of your loved one’s presence. You may feel awash with love, sense their presence, have their face pop into your mind, hear their voice in your head, or have some memory you strongly associate with them seep through from the background of your mind. (For example, whenever my grandmother is near, I begin to notice memories of her house popping through from the background of my conscious awareness. These may be mental snapshots of the street she lived on or of rooms in her house.)

When something like this happens, let your heart swell with love for this person. Don’t focus on feelings of loss and how they aren’t here anymore, for that will bring your vibration down. Instead, remember happy memories. It may also help to physically smile, close your eyes, and turn your face upward, like you’re basking in the light of the sun. Breathe deeply and evenly, and send thoughts of love to this spirit. Tell them that you’re not afraid and ask them to draw near so you can psychically embrace them. This can lead to some very moving experiences.

Mind you, all of this is metaphysical, so it’s happening on an auric level. Sometimes you may feel things in your aura like tingling, or like someone is faintly stroking your hair. The hair may stand up on the back of your neck, or you may get goose bumps. Afterward, your head may still have some doubts, but your heart will know that something real has occurred.

In closing, while I applaud your desire to help your mom, we each have to find our own spiritual path through life, and there is only so much we can do for others. I want to reassure you that your mom is being guided and will heal in her own way and time.

– Soul Arcanum

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Using EVP to Connect with Loved Ones in Spirit

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I’ve heard that sometimes, you can hear spirits talking by using a tape recorder. I’ve tried setting up my recorder at night in order to connect with a loved one in Spirit, but nothing happened. I’m wondering if my tape recorder is too cheap or if I’m not doing something right. Do you think that electronic equipment like tape recorders can be used to engage in communication with loved ones in spirit, and if so, how is this best achieved? Thanks!
– Linda

Dear Linda:

What you’re referring to is called EVP: Electronic Voice Phenomena. There are lots of people doing research in this area, and there is a lot of information on the web on how to go about it. Try plugging “EVP” or the full, unabbreviated term into a search engine.

Thomas Edison was the first to suggest the idea that an electronic device could be used to communicate with the dearly departed. He worked for years to invent just such an apparatus, but died himself before succeeding. Since then, many have taken up this line of research, and with amazing results.

One of the most famous was a psychology professor named Konstantin Raudive, who not only amassed a great deal of EVP research and evidence, but continues to work with today’s researchers from Spirit. Some of the voices that have been recorded have been known to acknowledge the researchers by name, respond to questions, and even provide valuable information on occasion. While early experiments centered largely on the recording of audible voices, spirits now use all sorts of electronic equipment to connect with people on this plane, including cameras, video cameras, televisions and even computers.

While certainly fascinating, I don’t believe EVP is an ideal way to communicate with our loved ones in Spirit for a number of reasons. First, it tends to be very brief and faint: most messages are composed of just a couple of words, and are less than two seconds in duration. This is because like all forms of physical mediumship, spirits must summon a great deal of focus and energy to manifest in this dimension.

Instead of hoping to commune with a specific loved one in Spirit, EVP researchers are usually seeking basic proof of the existence of an afterlife. They are thus thrilled to simply receive an audible voice or other “hard evidence” of the existence of non-material beings. They don’t so much care who supplies this evidence, and aren’t longing for an emotionally healing experience. To truly commune with someone in Spirit, a less physical, more spiritual or “inner” approach to connection is advised.

Further, most EVP researchers are not mediums, and thus they may not have the spiritual knowledge essential to ensuring a safe, fulfilling experience. If one takes an experimental approach to spirit communication, the results will tend to be unpredictable. Though it is patently foolish to open oneself up to interaction with any spirit who may wish to come through, many researchers apparently don’t know any better.

As with all spiritual experiences, your beliefs, expectations and general attitude will strongly influence your results. This is true not only technically speaking, but also in terms of your subjective experience. For example, two different researchers can use the same equipment in the same way, and one will consistently manifest much more positive results than the other.

Scientific types and folks who are merely curious often encounter problems when experimenting with things like EVP, Ouija boards, etc. This is because it requires both knowledge of spiritual realms and self-awareness to ensure a positive experience. To rise above the vibratory realm of lower entities, one must have noble motives and a pure heart and mind.

If you have any fear of negativity or unconscious inner shadows, you put yourself at risk of contacting malevolent spirits. If you have a very high intention, such as emotional healing, and a strong belief that it is possible to achieve that healing via this method, then you may be empowered to succeed.

I think it would prove more fulfilling for you to find a local Spiritualist church and join a development circle there, for this would put you in contact with mediums who can guide you in developing spirit communication abilities yourself. This approach would empower you to truly commune with your loved ones in Spirit, and also provide you with help and support should you have any difficulties.

While this experience will naturally be more subtle in nature, it will also tend to be far more rewarding. This type of connection can be made personally or via a medium; either way, you will have the ability to actually dialogue with the spirits you are missing instead of simply recording snippets of phrases from random entities.

While I don’t recommend EVP as the ideal approach to fulfillment for you, I do want to encourage you to trust in the ideas that come to you, and believe that you can work magic in your own life with the help of your guides and angels. So if you feel drawn to trying to connect with your loved one via EVP, then you should do so. It is entirely possible you are being guided in this direction by a spirit who wishes to communicate with you.

Before you begin, please note that if you do receive any negative communications or intuitions, you should immediately cease your experiment, tell that entity to be gone in the name of whatever higher power you believe in, and spend some time developing your own spiritual knowledge and faith before attempting EVP again.

Since the tricky part is to approach EVP with the right spirit, that’s what I’ll focus on here. (You don’t need any fancy equipment, and can find the technical details on how to go about EVP research on the ‘net.) One thing I will emphasize is the wisdom in having an “energetically rich” environment, for spirits will use this energy to manifest in the physical. Usually this takes the form of white noise in the background, which the spirits may either draw upon or distort in order to form intelligible words. Do always begin any spirit communication effort with a prayer for a positive, uplifting, helpful experience. That is essential.

When you’re ready, just think of the spirit you are hoping to hear from with great love in your heart. (If you are grieving, don’t try this until you can remember that person with love instead of sorrow.) The love you feel in your heart will draw your loved one to you, and the energy of your deep desire to connect is what that spirit will draw upon to manifest sounds or images via your equipment. It may also help for you to have a picture of your loved one where you can see it, or to hold some treasured object that belonged to them in your hand.

After you’re flowing with love, ask a question out loud, and then sit quietly while you allow them time to answer you. You may not physically perceive anything during this time, but that doesn’t mean that nothing has happened. Often EVP will only show up when the tape is reviewed. Sometimes that is because one must play with the volume and such in order to hear spirit voices, and sometimes it seems that spirits can make audible impressions on the tape itself, even when nothing was heard in the room at the time. Spend five to fifteen minutes with this, and then review your tape.

If you devote yourself to this endeavor with patience and faith, I trust you will succeed. When you do, remember to give thanks to Spirit for answering your prayers!

– Soul Arcanum

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Can Spirits Spy on Us?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

This may sound silly, but I assure you that I’m very sincere in asking this question. I believe in the spirit world, and that we are surrounded by guardians, departed family members and so on. Because of this, there are times I feel uncomfortable. Can spirits see us using the bathroom or having sex? How does that work? I feel ashamed when I think of my parents or grandparents possibly watching me do these things. Thank you for your time!
– Karen

Dear Karen:

I used to wonder the same thing! Thank you for having the courage to ask this question.

Let me reassure you: it is highly unlikely that your departed loved ones are any more aware of your private activities now than they were when they were alive. For the most part, whatever would have been true of your loved ones while living will be true of them on the other side. I apologize for this freaky example, but if your father would not have “peeked in” on you having sex when he was alive, he won’t do that after crossing over either.

People who were unethical or lacking in moral character in life, however, may continue along the same veins in the afterlife. We generally refer to spirits of a very low vibration as “earthbound.” Hopefully, most of our loved ones don’t fall into this category, and they move on to higher realms when they cross over.

Also, whatever is emotionally important to an entity will guide it in the astral. If it is important for your father to get a message to you that he is okay, he will be drawn to do that. Unless it is emotionally important to someone in the astral to “see you” having sex or doing something else you’d like to keep private, it won’t happen. This means that just as in life, the only ones who may be “spying on us” are what we might call perverts.

Given all of this, while it is possible for someone in the astral to intrude on our private moments, it is not something that people we trust would do, for it is just as unethical on the other side as it is here.

Furthermore, when we leave behind the physical, we also leave behind our physical senses, so the nature of our perceptions changes. In the dimensions beyond this plane, our appearance is malleable – only the quality of our energy shines through.

For example, when we are caught up in fear or darkness, our auras appear shadowy. When we are full of love and light, our energy shines. Whatever is going on inside of us will suffuse our aura with certain qualities, but that doesn’t mean our specific actions or thoughts can be seen or read. Just as you might look at a person and think they look “sad” but not know why, in the astral, beings can sense the essence of our energy but not know what we’re thinking or doing to feel that way.

When spirits perceive us, they don’t see our physical bodies. Anything that is purely physical in nature is “beyond them.” So if we think of them with love while we’re washing the dishes, they will be called to the energy of our love, and probably have no idea what our physical hands are doing while we’re reminiscing about them. In the most unlikely event that they happened to visit us when we were having sex, they may perceive us in union with our lover’s energy, but it would be hard for them to distinguish if this was because we were making love or because we were expressing our affection via soulful communication or some other activity.

Lust, however, is another matter, because it shows up differently in our auras. If we have debased thoughts of some kind, the quality of that energy is easy to distinguish from higher forms of desire. Remember, it’s the QUALITY of our energy that is perceived, not the details of our thoughts. On the other hand, if we’re having debased thoughts, the only way our loved ones in Spirit would know it is if they were a vibrational match to it. When we’re caught up in some “lower” thinking, we’re too low for higher level spirits to enter our energetic orbit; only spirits that are a match to that vibration will head our way. This is why the best way to connect with loved ones in Spirit is to raise our vibration by thinking of them with great love and joy.

It also explains why it’s so important for us to purify our hearts and minds, for if we are lusting after alcohol, we’ll attract the earthbound spirits of former alcoholics. If we’re having some perverse sexual fantasy, we’ll attract the earthbound spirits of former perverts or sex addicts. If that’s not what we want in terms of metaphysical influence, then we have to choose higher thoughts. Similarly, if we focus on higher spiritual principles like wisdom, compassion, healing, etc., we will attract high spiritual teachers from the other side.

Now I’d like to address the deeper issue in your questions, and that is your sense of shame about basic biological functions. I feel the time you spend worrying about whether anyone in Spirit can see you doing things you find embarrassing may be better spent pondering why you feel ashamed in the first place. I assure you that there is no spiritual reason for your shame; it’s entirely a product of social conditioning.

In fact, shame about natural functions is a relatively new human invention, and though this truth may surprise you, it is not universal in nature. There are many parts of the world, for example, where people go to the bathroom in full view of others. Our shame about biological functions stems from the Puritan perspective that the physical world is inferior to “heavenly” realms, and thus physical desires and impulses must be “risen above” if we want to be rewarded when we leave this life.

So long as we remain in conscious control of our choices, this notion is total rubbish. This deep-seated shame is one of the many disservices the Christian religion has done to humankind. In truth, the human body is a miracle of divine perfection!

There is no natural function or endeavor that is inherently immoral. Sex above all is a beautiful reflection of divine creativity. It is the holy power of sex to create life that fuels humankind’s fearful obsession with controlling it. Far from being something to be ashamed of, it is a facet of the sacred force that created and continues to sustain life.

Sex was devised by a much wiser, higher intelligence than the society that has taught you that it is unseemly. Why would “God” have created us as we are if it was inherently bad to be this way? Since we are created in “God’s” image, it seems to me that when we’re ashamed of natural functions, we are essentially ashamed of God.

So you can rest easy knowing that only your higher spiritual thoughts and acts will be perceptible on the higher spiritual planes of the heavens. Further, it’s my understanding that the higher one goes in Spirit, the broader one’s perspective becomes, so even the things we feel misplaced shame about would not be considered shameful to heavenly spirits. To sum up your answer in one sentence, when it comes to your loved ones in Spirit “catching you in the act,” you have nothing to worry about, my dear!

– Soul Arcanum

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Can All Spirits Contact Us from the Afterlife?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

My dad died three weeks ago. He never believed in life after death, but I do. I often joked that I would prove him right one day – have I? How soon after death can spirits contact us, and is it easier for some than for others?
– B.

Dear B.:

In the words of Henry Ford, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” We each live in our own personal universe. In my reality and your reality, spirit communication is not only possible, it happens all the time. In the reality of someone who actively disbelieves in such things, it usually just doesn’t happen.

I would love to tell you that everyone who crosses over is instantly enlightened and sees the errors in all their limiting beliefs, but it’s my understanding that this is not the case. Death in and of itself doesn’t change our basic natures. While crossing over is certainly a “life changing” experience, some people are more changed by it than others. People who were staunch skeptics about spiritual matters while they were alive may remain disbelievers after death. It’s my understanding that some of them actually think that the life they’ve just left behind was nothing more than a dream or a hallucination – they don’t believe in what we call LIFE! They “wake up” on the other side saying, “Wow, what a dream I had!”

Now those are extreme cases, and no one remains like that forever. Just as our spiritual understanding is ever evolving here, it is also ever evolving in the afterlife. There are a lot of factors that may affect our ability to connect with certain loved ones in Spirit, not only from our end of things, but also from theirs. Certainly the belief that this is possible is a big one.

While there is no real “danger” in not believing in life after death, there is great POWER in believing. In order to gain the power to do something, we must believe it is possible.

We know that some people here on Earth are gifted at spirit communication while others have no interest in it, don’t believe it’s possible, or can’t seem to make it happen no matter how hard they try. Well, the same is true of spirits. Someone who thought spirit communication was a bunch of hogwash when alive may not instantly change his mind upon crossing over. While that does happen, it generally happens to open-minded folks who may have had opinions about such matters but were open to changing them in light of new evidence.

Further, just like people tend to only see and hear that which confirms their already set beliefs, the same is true of spirits. If we cross over with very strong expectations about what will happen, we will tend to have experiences that validate those beliefs. So if we firmly believe that Jesus will greet us, that is who we’ll meet. If, on the other hand, we believe we’ll float on a cloud to a heaven full of angels playing harps, that is probably what we will initially experience.

You can pretty much judge how well someone will settle into the afterlife by asking yourself how well they’d adapt to being plucked from their home and set down in a foreign culture. People who are open and adaptable will tend to adjust very quickly, while others may decide that instead of adapting to their new environment, they will adapt their environment to them.

As whatever we think about or desire in the astral instantly arises, if we’re attached to certain circumstances, we can simply fantasize them into being. This is the root of the widespread belief that we will have all our desires fulfilled when we get to “heaven,” for when we’re in the astral, we have only to think of something to have it take shape in our experience. What we call imagination is real in this dimension. All of this means that if we have a strong desire before we cross over to remain in contact with our loved ones here on Earth, and we believe that is possible, then we will find a way to make that happen.

As we retain our basic personalities, knowledge, passions and interests when we cross over, the best way to ensure we’ll have certain spiritual abilities on the other side is to develop them while we’re living. We can thus assume that the most gifted communicators in Spirit are generally those who were adept at this while alive on Earth.

There have been some amazing communications from spiritual researchers after they crossed over. Many of the pioneers of EVP (electronic voice phenomena), for example, have continued their work from the other side. Konstantine Raudive may be the best known researcher working just as hard on spirit communication from the other side as he did while he was living here on Earth.

If you have a relative who was an active disbeliever in spirit communication and the afterlife, they may not be easy to contact on the other side. That doesn’t mean it never happens, mind you – some people are delighted and amazed by all they learn about the afterlife when they cross over. Further, the power of love has been known to conquer all.

Please note that not being able to connect with someone in Spirit does not mean that they are lost or confused on the other side. As I’ve explained in a number of other columns, there are many factors that influence our ability to connect with certain spirits, both on our end and theirs. We have to have faith that if and when the time is right, this will happen.

I certainly don’t want you to worry about your father, for he would be no worse off “disbelieving” where he is now than he was when he was alive. I just want to be honest about my understanding of the power of belief, so that those of us who will cross over in the future know the value and wisdom of studying spiritual matters and developing strong faith.

If you have a loved one in Spirit that you are worried may be a bit lost, you can pray for them and reach out to them with your heart, for they may actually feel closer to you and the earth than they do to anyone in the afterlife. Tell them that they have died and should go toward the light or ask for spiritual help.

For example, to connect with your dad, work with the power of love and emotion. Just sit quietly with your eyes closed and vividly remember a happy time when you two were together. Go very deep into this memory. Recall all the sights and sounds and details of this experience. Sink into the feeling of being in his presence. The more clearly you can summon a memory of how it felt to be with him, the more you will draw him near.

You may feel like you are imagining his presence, but you have to suspend disbelief and just go with whatever comes to you, even if you feel like you’re “making it up” at first. Remember, what you imagine is real in the astral.

If you do locate your dad and he seems to be lost or not know he has died, you might want to call upon another loved one in Spirit who had faith in the afterlife and try to bring these two together. Tell him you’re going to summon someone who can help him.

If the particular spirit you’ve called upon doesn’t come, don’t worry – someone else will. Whoever is best suited for your dad will show up. Once you’ve mentally gotten them together, this helping spirit will take it from there.

While odds are good that our loved ones transition just fine into the afterlife, it can’t hurt to check in on them, and doing this will usually lead to the spirit communication we desire anyway.

If you try this and can’t seem to get the results you desire, remember that we all visit the astral in our dreams, so those spirits who may not be so good at reaching through to this dimension can almost always connect with us while we are dreaming and in their world.

– Soul Arcanum

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When we Can’t Remember Dream Encounters with Spirits

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

My grandmother died when I was 16, and due to family tensions, I wasn’t able to be with her much before her death. In fact, I didn’t get to attend her funeral. Years later while I was pregnant with my second child, I had a VERY vivid dream where I met my Grandma in some kind of station that looked like a church because of the pews we sat on. I could see her perfectly and I could even smell her perfume and Jergens hand lotion. What has plagued me for years is that I know we had a very long conversation, but I don’t remember for the life of me what it was about. I know this wasn’t ‘just a dream,’ because even thinking of it now brings tears to my eyes. In my ‘dream,’ I knew the conversation was coming to an end. I was very sad and crying and I moved into a kneeling position on the floor, resting my head in my grandmother’s lap. When I looked up, she was gone. I have tried my hardest to remember what was said during that conversation. I believe she had some very important information for me, but I just can’t remember it. Is there any way to recall it?

– Tanya

Dear Tanya:

Your experience is very common, and it’s not just because it can be so hard to clearly remember ordinary “dreams.” I’ve read countless tales of people who have had amazing spiritual experiences via astral projection, a dreamlike/visionary state, or near death experiences, who know that they were given very important information, but they just can’t remember what it was!

Even folks who are very adept at remembering regular dreams may have experiences like this where they had a very profound conversation but they can’t remember what was communicated.

This is basically caused by a big shift in one’s vibration. When we’re having this profound experience, our energetic vibration is soaring relative to where it is when we’re fully awake. Just as when we’re dreaming or out of the body, we have no awareness of physical reality, when we’re fully conscious, we lose awareness of these subtler realms of experience.

One aspect of a high vibration is self-awareness. The more self-aware we are, the more spiritually conscious we tend to be. When we’re in a very high vibration, we’re naturally open to and at peace with just about everything. We can then access information that would freak us out when we’re rooted in a more egoistic state.

When we’re in an ordinary state of consciousness and thus rooted in our “lower selves,” we will tend to suppress any insights or information we’re not ready to face or handle yet. Our conscious minds block that information from our awareness. Thus the more we work on rising above the ego, the more we’ll be able to consciously access this higher perspective.

Another tricky aspect of remembering “conversations” we have in subtle realms is the fact that this sort of communication is not really verbal. It’s a mental transference of ideas and energies; no words are truly spoken. Any words that we remember are words our own minds supplied to interpret the information given.

So remembering a conversation like this is sort of like trying to remember all the thoughts you had while staring out over the ocean. Hours later, can you recapture them all? Or are they sort of mixed up in a vague jumble? Think of a time yesterday when you were alone for at least a half an hour, when you didn’t talk to anyone. What all did you think about? It’s hard to recall such details when nothing is ever put into words.

There is a way to bridge the chasm between these dimensions, and that’s to raise our waking vibration via conscious spiritual development. The higher our waking vibration, the more we’ll be able to remember what happens at higher states of consciousness. Further, the higher our vibration, the more we’ll be able to consciously control or induce certain spiritual experiences.

So the first thing I recommend is a concerted effort at spiritual development via endeavors such as meditation, spiritual study, right action, etc. (I’ve written extensively on this subject in the past.) The more you consciously develop as a spiritual being, the more empowered you will be to not only remember “ordinary” dreams, but to lucid dream, remember out of body experiences, consciously interact with spirit guides and remember their guidance, and even meet with your departed loved ones on other planes.

There are even people who can go visit “the other side” at will, and who can help the newly departed cross over by taking them there. While I’ve had dream encounters with spirits like the one you had, as a medium, I stand on this side of the veil and press my face to the window between the dimensions, where I can see and perceive the hand signals, crude drawings and little notes of spirit communication. By contrast, there are some people who can actually consciously travel to the other side. If they can do it, I’m sure you and I could too, if we applied ourselves. This is not necessary, however, in order to gain conscious access to guides and loved ones in Spirit.

I recommend you begin by meditating for about a half hour every morning. You might try a guided meditation designed to lead you into “conversation” with spirit guides or your grandmother. Next, affirm that you will visit with her again, and you WILL remember every detail of that visit.

Visualize what you want to have happen. Both during meditation and before you go to sleep, imagine meeting with her. Recall those smells that were so vivid for you in this striking experience you had before. Remember to pray for what you want: pray for spiritual experiences that lead you to greater clarity and awareness of what you need or want to know. You can even directly ask your spirit guides to facilitate this experience for you.

You might also try exercises that involve putting abstract spiritual guidance into words, like automatic writing or plain old journaling. Anything that involves the transference of subtle ideas or impressions into verbal form will strengthen your ability to translate those energies into clear messages. Also, write down whatever you’ve experienced as soon as you wake up or finish meditating, for such experiences tend to “slip away” very quickly as our vibration shifts back to that of physical reality.

A couple more things to remember: First, our loved ones in Spirit usually just come through to comfort us and express their love for us. You had a lot of unresolved feelings because you couldn’t attend your grandmother’s funeral, and I’m sure in part she was just trying to help you to heal those emotional wounds and make peace in your heart with all that happened. This is huge! It could be that this was the whole point of this experience – there may not be any deeper message than that.

Second, when we can’t remember some insight or idea that we sense is very important, or we are just unaware of it, there is usually a good reason. When the time is right, we will know whatever we need to know. I encourage you to trust in the wisdom of Spirit and your own higher self, and relax with faith that when the time is right, whatever you want to know will be revealed to you.

– Soul Arcanum

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Little Signs of Loved Ones in Spirit

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I lost my mum a year ago, and ever since then, I have felt lost and very depressed. Sometimes I wake up thinking about her. Does this mean she’s been visiting me, or is it happening out of grief? My daughter was six weeks old when my mother passed, and now she frequently points at the wall or empty space and smiles. Could she be sensing my mother’s presence? Thank you for your time, Soul Arcanum, and God bless you for the work you do.
– Lauren

Dear Lauren:

Your mother is indeed trying to come through to you, but your depression is keeping your vibration too low for conscious contact, so she is coming through when you’re most receptive: when you’re unconscious or just coming out of that state. When you wake up thinking of her and then remember she has passed, your vibration plummets, and the connection is broken.

Further, your daughter is indeed sensing your mother’s presence. This reminds me of a similar experience of my own, way back when I first began to consciously perceive subtle energies. I’d been very close to my departed grandmother, and she would sometimes just pop into my mind. This had happened frequently over the years, but I had never really questioned it. When I started to delve deeper, I began to sense her presence. When I then “looked” for her around me, I literally saw (with my physical eyes) a ball of purple energy in mid air. Part of me presumed this was “her,” and part of me wondered if I was “seeing things.”

One day I was sitting on the floor with my son, who was about a year old, when my grandmother popped into my mind. As I had begun to do, I “looked up” for her and saw that big ball of purple energy. At the same moment, my son (who was sitting with his back to me, and couldn’t see where I was looking) looked up and just STARED at the same spot. He didn’t “talk” to it or anything, but he seemed to be in the same trancelike state I fall into during spirit communication.

This happened again a number of times. I would sense my grandmother and then “see” her, and my son would seem to do the same. Had I not been seeing something too, it would have been easy to assume that he was just staring off into space.

We are constantly receiving signs from various spiritual sources. Usually, signs from departed loved ones are designed to just let us know they are with us; they thus tend to be brief and simple. Signs from guides/angels are designed to guide us and answer our questions. A loved one might send a certain memory of them into our minds over and over again, while a guide might prompt us to get up and go for a walk just in time to meet the new friend we’ve been praying for, or slow down just in time to avoid an accident.

Our own higher/intuitive selves are also constantly guiding us as well. It’s usually our own intuition that sends up a warning flag when someone is trying to deceive us, or that alerts us when we meet someone we’re destined to know and love well.

Since we are constantly sending and receiving information at this subtle level, often it’s hard to distinguish where a sign is coming from. Here I’ll explain some of the signs that are usually from a loved one in Spirit so you can recognize them and invite more of the same.

First, understand that the better we are at perceiving subtle energies, the more signs we’ll receive, and that we will be sent signs at the subtlest level we are able to recognize. The more psychic we are, the more “technology” we have for communication. If we have a computer with a high speed internet connection, someone in China won’t travel all the way around the world to get a message to us – they’ll do it “virtually” by emailing us. If we haven’t developed spirit communication abilities at all, it’s like we’re living in a shack in the middle of nowhere. The only way spirits can reach us is to make the tremendous effort to travel to our door, so we won’t receive messages often, and only in dire circumstances.

Some of the subtler (and thus more common) ways spirits will try to connect involve visiting us in our dreams, sending feelings of love and comfort, and planting thoughts and memories of themselves in our minds.

Meeting us in dreams is one of the easiest ways to connect with us because our vibration rises as soon as we fall asleep, and when we’re in the astral, we aren’t restricted by a limiting belief system. Spirits will also just blanket us in feelings of love or comfort, but these signs are so subtle and abstract that we often assume we are fooling ourselves with wishful thinking and dismiss them. Spirits also plant thoughts of themselves in our minds. We’ll be doing something else when suddenly we realize thoughts about that person have been running in our mental background.

If spirits can’t get our attention at this subtle level, they may try to speak to us through someone who can, such as a medium. Spirits will actually plant the subconscious idea in someone to go see a certain medium for a reading so that the medium can consciously relay their messages, and that person will think this idea about getting a reading was their own.

Receptive people can also serve as unconscious mediums. If you’re grieving for your grandfather and your friend Mary is receptive, she may find herself saying exactly what Grandpa used to say to you all the time, and just when you’ve been talking about him to her, and she may never realize why she said what she did. This is Grandpa using the most open channel he can find to let you know he’s around.

If we’re unable to recognize messages at this level, then spirits may try to do something more dramatic by causing some sort of physical or quasi-physical manifestation. The effort it takes to breach the gap between the non-physical and physical dimensions is enormous, however, and it takes a lot of skill, so these signs are less common. Some of these subtler physical signs may include seeing something out of the corner of our eyes, hearing someone say something in our minds, smelling something when no one else does, feeling like the hair is standing up on the back of our necks or like the temperature around us has shifted, etc.

If none of these do the trick and the spirit has both the skill and energy to manifest more “tangible” signs, we may have a literal vision of the spirit with our physical eyes or hear them with our physical ears. We may smell them and not be the only ones able to do so. We may literally feel them touch us or feel their weight sitting beside us on the bed. Physical objects may manifest or disappear.

Spirits also use electronics to try to reach us. They often appear in photos as orbs or vague energies and cause lights to flicker, radios to turn on, and phones and doorbells to ring. Spirits have even been known to speak through radios, show up on videotape, send emails and make actual phone calls from beyond. For more information on this, search the ‘net for EVP – Electronic Voice Phenomena.

Sadly, people often reject all but the most striking signs from Spirit. As I’ve just explained, dramatic messages are rare, so the better we get at recognizing subtle cues, the more signs we’ll receive.

– Soul Arcanum

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How Can I Communicate with my Departed Son?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

You recently did a reading for me and brought through some specific details and communication from my departed son. Do you think I can communicate like this with him too? I know I feel his presence and have dream encounters with him, but this is nothing like the specific communication you are able to bring through. It would mean so much to me to be able to see things and hear things from him like you do. Is it difficult? How can I learn to communicate more clearly with him?
– Liz

Dear Liz:

I absolutely believe you can learn how to do this. It’s a bit like learning how to draw portraits: some people will have a natural artistic gift, while others will find those skills elusive. I don’t believe spirit communication is difficult, but then again, artists probably don’t believe what they do is difficult either. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to “perform” at a certain level right from the start, or in frustration, you’ll just hinder your own success.

Spirit communication basically requires five ingredients. They are: desire, openness, a high vibration, trust and skill. If you can cultivate these ingredients, you can make this happen.

Here’s what I recommend:

Desire: You have this part down pat. As I wrote in a recent column, many natural mediums only discover their ability after someone very dear passes on, because that is the first time they have a desire strong enough to bridge the chasm between this world and spiritual realms. Your strong desire to communicate with your son will carry you far in this endeavor. I believe this is the most important ingredient in successful communication.

Just “playing around” with spirit communication doesn’t usually produce powerful results. If one does not have someone dear on the other side that they long to reconnect with, a passionate curiosity about life’s mysteries may be enough.

Openness: You must believe that spirit communication is possible. This actually involves a number of related beliefs. You must at least be open to the idea that we continue on after death, and that it is possible to communicate with those who have passed on. Your personal encounters with your son since his death have of course underscored your belief in the afterlife. The reading we did further deepened your belief that it’s possible to achieve clear, evidential communication with spirits. If we believe something is impossible, it’s highly unlikely that we will experience it.

So anyone desiring spirit communication would be wise to examine their beliefs about this subject, and if they find they are skeptical but at the same time desire to experience something that proves to them that this is a valid phenomenon, I recommend they work on their belief system by reading books about the subject, visiting gifted mediums, spending time in Spiritualist churches or with people who are already believers, etc.

High Vibration: Everything in the Universe is energy, and the non-physical exists at a vibration higher than ours here on Earth. To connect with those in the non-physical, we thus have to raise our vibration.

By way of metaphor, imagine that the quality of everyone’s personal vibration can be seen as a color. Here on Earth our colors range from red to violet. Folks of a “lower vibration” here may look “red” and folks aligned with a high vibration may look “violet.” We might say that earthbound entities (those dark spirits who haunt our ghost stories and horror movies) are infrared, while spirits, guides and angels are ultraviolet and beyond.

Our vibration is not static; it is constantly moving through our own personal range. The more spiritually evolved we are, the higher our vibration will tend to be, and thus the closer it will tend to be to the “ultraviolet” band of the non-physical. To communicate with spiritual entities, we must step up our vibration and they must reach down to us via desire. Thus we meet in a middle ground somewhere between violet and ultraviolet. (Please remember this is just a metaphor.)

We can raise our vibration by being “high-minded” – thinking high vibration thoughts and feeling high vibration feelings. This is why those who are deeply grieving often can’t connect with the one they are grieving for; their vibration is just too low. It’s also why we often have encounters with loved ones in Spirit when we are thinking of them with love, for that love lifts our hearts and spirits up where we are able to perceive subtler energies.

There are many other ways to raise your vibration. Some of them are simply habits that many psychics and mediums practice on a regular basis in order to be able to do this sort of work whenever they need to. Some methods include: adopting a healthy diet and exercise regimen; meditating; doing yoga; practicing right action, kindness, integrity and positive thinking; cultivating an attitude of gratitude, walking a conscious spiritual path, etc.

I continually strive for all of the above in order to remain a clear channel. When I initiate spirit communication for a reading, I also clear my aura and fill myself with light, say a prayer, set a very high intention, and center my awareness in my heart chakra while sending love to the one I’m reading for and those in Spirit who are being sought. I basically “lift my heart” up to Spirit in order to connect clearly.

Trust: This is probably the hardest thing for most people. It involves trusting whatever you perceive and remaining mentally open to various manifestations of Spirit. While one medium may channel long verbal speeches from Spirit, there are many others ways for communication to come through, and they don’t all work for everyone.

At first, messages from Spirit may not even come to you mentally; they may come through signs in your outer experience, the words of others, your dreams, etc. You must trust those experiences in order to move into a deeper range of potential. The more you trust the communications and signs you receive, the more you will progress.

Skill: Rounding out our mediumship abilities takes a lot of practice. This is where skill comes in. At first you may only receive messages from Spirit in the way that is easiest for you and most natural for the spirit communicating, which leaves no way to “check” the meaning of the message or “round it out.” If you’re very visual and the spirit is very kinesthetic, for example, it may be very hard to ever achieve clear communication without the helpful intercession of a guide. At this point you have to begin to refine all of your skills, especially those that are hardest for you.

At this point you simply experiment with various methods and work at them in order to improve. You might try working with a pendulum for starters, then feel drawn toward automatic writing or the use of another divination tool, and in this way naturally progress. Trust Spirit to guide you via your intuition. There are lots of books and classes on various spirit communication methods; explore whatever draws your interest.

To find the best way for you, devote yourself to working with your chosen methods, evaluate your results, and keep refining your approach as you go.

May you have many wonderful experiences of Spirit!

– Soul Arcanum

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When Dream Visits from Spirits Suddenly Stop

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Dear Soul Arcanum: For a while, I was having very vivid, involved dreams of my recently departed boyfriend every night. (He died about a month ago.) Now I haven’t had a dream about him for a week straight. What could cause dream meetings with loved ones in Spirit to stop? The signs of him that I had been receiving are also starting to fade, and this is really distressing me.
B.

Dear B:

You’ve been very blessed to have so many signs and dreams as well as conscious memory of your continued dream experiences with him. While many people have contact with recently departed loved ones via their dreams, it is pretty unusual to have vivid dream visits from them every night.

I believe that these dream visits ended because it’s time for everyone to begin to move on. I know that you don’t want to and you don’t feel ready to, but if you continue to spend all of your dream time and most of your waking time trying to connect with your departed boyfriend, you won’t really be living, my friend.

Clinging to our loved ones in Spirit and begging them not to leave us isn’t good for them either. While I do understand how hard it is to let go, it’s important to realize that wanting to keep someone who has left this world with us is a selfish desire. It’s like a mother not wanting her children to grow up and leave home. While we can understand why she might feel that way, that doesn’t make it right. If she’s a truly loving mother, she knows this wouldn’t be the best thing for her child, so she rises above her own desires and encourages them to become independent and go off to explore new experiences.

Spirits may make an appearance via signs or dreams for some days or perhaps even weeks after leaving this world. They may remain close for a while, watching over their surviving loved ones and making sure that everyone is going to be okay and get over their deaths. During this time period, all sorts of wonderful signs and events may occur, including electrical phenomena, apparitions, and vivid dream visits. All of these happen because our loved ones in spirit are making a great effort to let us know that they are okay so that we can go on to have happy lives.

These events are not meant to take the place of life experiences. They are not trying to create an ongoing inter-dimensional relationship to replace the one that has been temporarily lost. They are simply wanting to comfort and reassure us when we’re reeling with grief. Since the ultimate point is to help us to get over their deaths and move on, there comes a point when all these signs, events, dreams, etc., have to end, especially if we’re clinging to them and focusing a great deal of our time and energy on them.

This is different from the case of earthbound spirits or ghosts, who may continue to try to get our attention indefinitely because they are lost and need help crossing over. So if you think about it, it’s natural and normal for these events to stop at some point, and it’s a good sign: it means that the natural process of death and continuation into the afterlife is going along smoothly.

I’m not saying that you can’t continue to meet with him via your dreams, for he can come back and visit you. Instead, I’m suggesting that by letting go, you can reclaim that ability. Right now, it’s not in anyone’s best interests to continue to keep him at the center of your life when you’re awake or asleep. Once you have healed further and opened up to new love and new happiness, you will probably begin to dream of him again.

This will happen both because it won’t be detrimental to you and because your vibration will have risen. As time does heal all wounds, this will eventually happen naturally. However, there are some things you can do to facilitate connection with loved ones in other dimensions.

The name of the game is getting into a very high vibration, for this will lift you toward their vibration and also empower you to manifest whatever you want in your life, including successful spirit communication. Here’s an article that may help: Raising Your Vibration for Spirit Communication.

Anything you do that raises your vibration, expands your spiritual nature or enhances your intuitive abilities will help you to bridge the chasm between dimensions. The more you consciously develop as a spiritual being, the more empowered you will be to not only remember ordinary dreams, but to lucid dream, induce out of body experiences, consciously interact with spirit guides and remember their guidance, and meet with your departed loved ones on other planes. You’ll also gain greater control over everything you encounter or try to manifest in life. For these reasons, I recommend you embrace spiritual development via endeavors such as meditation, spiritual practices and studies, personal growth, etc.

Some people can visit metaphysical worlds at will, and do so whenever they desire. If they can do it, I’m sure that with the right approach and development, you can too. While you’re working on that, you can meditate for a half an hour each day with a focus on finding peace within, healing from this loss, and reaching out to your boyfriend with your heart and mind. Try to think happy thoughts about him, and try to find gratitude for the time that you had with him. The more you can make your heart soar when you think of him, the easier it will be for you to consciously connect and communicate with him.

Also, before you go to sleep at night, try to get into a very high vibration like this and then ask Spirit to bless you with dream visits from him. Affirm that this is what is going to happen to your subconscious mind, and also affirm that you will remember these dreams in detail upon waking.

Visualize what you want to have happen. Both during meditation and before you go to sleep, imagine meeting with him. Remember to pray for what you want: ask your spirit guides to facilitate this experience for you.

You might want to keep a dream journal too, for this will expand your dream life in wonderful ways. We work out a lot of issues in our dreams, so if there are things happening in our lives that are more important than playing with our loved ones in other dimensions, then working out those problems or issues may take precedence. This means that the more together, at peace and empowered you are in general, the greater your freedom will be to dream of whatever you desire.

Finally, it’s important to trust that there is a good reason for all our experiences, including blocks or the lack of some experience you desire. The more you can trust that there must be a good reason these dreams have stopped for now, the higher your vibration will float, which will ironically make it easier for you to create what you want instead of taking whatever you’re given.

If this advice seems a bit contradictory, it’s because there is a tricky spiritual juggling act between being faithful and proactive that is rather magical. When we both own our power to manifest what we desire and at the same time trust that whatever happens is for the best, we step into a harmonious flow with the Universe, and then all sorts of healing and blessings flow into our lives.

– Soul Arcanum

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