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Can We Try TOO Hard to Communicate with Spirit Guides?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

In your experience, do you think that in trying to consciously connect with Spirit or our Spirit Guides, one can try TOO hard and miss the mark totally? I ask this because I make what I feel are real attempts to open myself up to Spirit, and don’t feel that I ever really do. Thank you for your insights!
Desma

Dear Desma:

Absolutely! We (including YOU) are actually in communication with Spirit all the time, but few of us are consciously aware of it. When we act on “impulses,” where do those impulses come from? When we have a “bad feeling” or a “hunch” about something or someone, where does that come from? Sometimes it is from our own intuition and inner knowing, but often it is from a source beyond ourselves.

If we “try too hard,” not only do we block ourselves from receiving what we desire, but we lock ourselves into our conscious, logical minds, which deafens us to our intuitive faculties. Psychic perception is about receiving, not about attaining. A radio does not have to try hard to receive a signal; it just needs to be turned on and tuned in.

If you think about it, you’ll realize that every psychic exercise begins with the same step: relaxation. This is because in order to perceive anything psychically, we have to alter our state of consciousness so that we’re in a day-dreamy “alpha state.” While this may not be wise if we’re driving a car or chopping vegetables, it’s ideal if we’re seeking communication with non-physical entities.

Further, when we “try too hard,” it’s like we’re at war with our goal. Instead of trying to conquer this challenge, we are wise to make love to it, play with it, experiment! If you’re hard on yourself, you’ll only lower your vibration, which will effectively prevent you from reaching that higher state wherein spirit communication is possible. Try to embrace a sense of anticipation, joy and gratitude about all the magic in the universe, the amazing things humans are capable of, how wonderful beings like guides and angels are weaving in and out of our experience every day. Try to get out of your head and open your heart and soul to Spirit. You can not logically find your way to what you desire here; you must let your heart lead you. While your head plays a key role in interpreting what you receive and in discerning fact from fantasy, you have to be willing to take an initial leap of faith and BELIEVE in order to receive the kind of proof logic demands.

Connecting with Spirit is a psychic ability, and psychic perception is not a science: it’s an art form. Like any creative process, you have to be willing to “mess up” – to be experimental in your approach.

Be light about it. You might begin by manifesting signs from Spirit that you’re on the right track, or that you’re capable of doing what you desire. Decide what your sign will be, ask with all your heart for Spirit to send you validation, and then begin to look for that sign wherever you go. Let’s say you decide you want your sign to be a “thumbs up.” As you’re flipping through the television channels, your attention may be caught by a basketball player giving a “thumbs up” to someone in the stands, or while driving you may see a “thumbs up” on a billboard, or a coworker may walk by and just give you a “thumbs up” to communicate that you’re doing a good job. These are proof that you are already dialoguing with the Universe. When you determine the form of the sign/communication, it’s much easier to spot. The more you acknowledge such experiences as meaningful, the more Spirit will say, “Hey, we’ve got her attention, send more, send more!”

I believe that many “coincidences” are not necessarily meaningful in and of themselves; they’re simply little wake-up calls to pay attention. For example, the other night when I left karate class with my husband, this total stranger struck up a conversation with us, and ended up massaging my neck and shoulders right there on the sidewalk. (He was showing my husband some great techniques). We walked on and several blocks and turns later, my husband introduced me to an old friend who was standing outside her store. In the five minutes we spoke to her, she mentioned that she used to be a massage therapist, but that now, “there is a guy doing massage on every street corner.” Zing!

The next day I was again at karate, talking with a friend about the power blackout last summer, and I thought to myself, “I’d better stop talking about this, or else the power will go out again.” An hour later my husband stopped by as I was leaving class to let me know that our power was out. The rest of the city was fine, mind you; only our neighborhood was out. Now, I don’t think I “caused” the power to go out. I think that I was nudged to think about the power outage before it happened. I realized then that I had been running my usual hectic pace through life on auto-pilot, and that Spirit had been trying to get me to stop and pay attention.

In addition to seeking signs like this, you might try just “making stuff up.” If you COULD connect with a spirit guide, what might he/she be like? Draw a picture or write a description and conversation with this spirit guide. It’s all based on what he/she MIGHT be like “IF” you could communicate with him/her. Honor whatever comes to you as VALID FOR YOU, even if you think you’re making it all up. (Even if you ARE making it up, it’s coming from SOMEWHERE. Just like dreams, it’s all meaningful and valid for you personally.)

The more you communicate with these deeper/other parts of yourself, the more your awareness will expand.There is a whole lot of clutter in our subconscious, waiting for our conscious awareness. This is why meditation is so powerful. It’s something you begin to do like cleaning your house: when your mind is all cluttered and crammed with stuff, it’s time to clear it out so you can see everything in your inner environment clearly again.

Begin to honor your hunches, impulses and intuitions. If someone pops into your mind, give that person a call or look around for them. I will know I’m going to see someone in an unlikely place because as I’m going along, that person will just pop into my mind. You often hear people say, “Oh my gosh, I was just thinking about you!” Begin to pay attention to your state of mind when things like this happen. I’m sure you’ll notice that you aren’t “trying hard,” but rather, are just going along in your life, probably doing something that allows your mind to “wander.” This is the state of mind you need to recreate to purposefully connect.

When you do try to consciously connect with Spirit, set your intention with your heart, not your mind. You can’t force your mind to do it, but you can wish with all your heart and succeed. Feel the desire to communicate with spirit burning in your heart, and allow the calm certainty of your faith to keep it in balance. You can RELAX while wanting if you believe you’re going to get what you want. That is the perfect state of mind and heart for receiving Divine guidance.

Above all, remember that if you don’t feel good about yourself, you’re going to lower your vibration right out of the psychic range. Frustration will only block you. The more gratitude and love you’re flowing, the higher your vibration, and the easier it will be to connect. Raise your vibration via meditation, prayer, a healthy diet, exercise, positive thinking, affirmations, etc., and it will be much easier for you to connect with Spirit.

– Soul Arcanum

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Do Spirits Move Out of Range at Some Point?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I lost someone dear to me some time ago, and he has sent me some wonderful after death communications since he passed. Lately I’ve been hearing a song by Kelly Clarkson a lot. It talks about being “already gone” and “moving on.” I am wondering if this is a sign from Scott telling me that he has already gone on to higher realms and won’t be with me as much or send me as many signs and messages as he used to. I would love to get your perspective on this.

H.

Dear H.

I’ve looked up the lyrics to this song, and I think it’s a lovely one for a spirit use as a sign. I do think we should step back from your assumptions about what it may mean, however, especially since you don’t report any decrease in contact from him.

To me, this song suggests that what happened was destined to happen; Scott is telling you that it would never have worked out because he was destined to leave this world when he did. He knows how much you loved him but he wants you to move on with your life because he’s no longer here; he wants you to be happy and find new love. I lost my first love at a very tender age, so I know it can be very hard to even imagine falling in love with someone else, but you might look at it like this: What if you had lost someone else years ago, and as a result of that loss, you closed yourself off to new love and therefore never got to meet and fall in love with Scott? If there is someone out there you’re destined to love just as much, you don’t want to close your heart to him. While there is nothing wrong with wanting to connect with the departed, it does seem that the main reason spirits reach out to us is to make sure we are okay and encourage us to let go and move on with our lives.

No one truly knows whether spirits move beyond the range of communicating with the living at some point, but I can offer you what I’ve come to believe based on my own history with spirit communication and what I’ve read from researchers and other experiencers.

First, it does seem that there are some spirits long dead who communicate with humankind. (Whether these spirits are really who they say they are, no one can say for sure.) The more interested in spirit communication a person was before they died, the more likely they are to continue to attempt interdimensional communication after they leave this world. Some examples that come to mind include the EVPs of Konstantin Raudive and Thomas Edison. This evidence suggests that at least some spirits can communicate indefinitely.

In my experience, there are perhaps two main factors that affect the power and frequency of spirit contact: skill and need. When someone first dies, there is a tremendous need for us to hear from them. Despite this, spirit communication can be very difficult to affect at first for a number of reasons. For one thing, when we’re grieving, our vibration is too low to perceive higher frequencies of energy, so even though a spirit may be trying hard to reach us, we may be unreachable. Further, at first, most spirits don’t know how to achieve a conscious connection with us.

When dramatic phenomena does take place, it’s usually in the initial weeks following death. This is because the spirit still has more of a foothold in this dimension and is better able to affect physical reality. Recently departed spirits are also highly motivated because they want to comfort their grieving loved ones. Since it can be very hard for spirits to get the attention of the grieving, many go to great lengths to send unmistakable signs like lights flickering, phone calls from the other side and other semi-physical phenomena. As they move up into the afterlife, this ability fades. This is why we tend to see striking signs in the first weeks after someone has passed, after which signs and visits become more subtle.

Perhaps the main factor affecting how long a spirit puts a great deal of effort into contact is how his or her loved ones here are doing. This is another reason why most contact happens close to the time of death, for this is when people are most in need of comfort. However, I have heard many stories from people who had contact with a departed relative at a time of great need that occurred decades after the spirit’s passing. For example, one man’s mother had been gone for more than 25 years when she visited him the night before he was planning to kill someone and then take his own life. He awoke in the middle of the night to find her standing near his bed, telepathically comforting him and urging him to reach for forgiveness and choose a higher path.

In many cases, spirit communication actually picks up after a period of time. This is because many spirits need time to figure out how to bridge the dimensions. They also study their own efforts and from this determine who is most receptive to them and what tends to work best in terms of getting that person’s attention.

My best friend from high school died last spring. Despite many years of successful spirit communication experience, I found it impossible to contact her at first. I would reach out to connect with her energy and get nothing but a void. When I asked Spirit about this, I was reminded that my friend didn’t believe in an afterlife. I was made to understand that she was experiencing what she expected to experience when she died: a state of nothingness. In time, she would begin to wonder “who” was experiencing that nothingness and open up to new awareness. Interestingly, some months after she died, I began to get dream visits from her; recently, I got my first official message from her.

Similarly, I now interact with my father in Spirit far more than I could when he died five years ago. At first communication with him was difficult because he seemed so out of it. After a few months, I began to be visited by him in the night. I would wake to the sound of a “phantom doorbell” and sense his presence. Soon I began to experience dream visits from him. Though he died years ago, he seems to be getting better at visiting in this way, for it’s happening more and more.

While there are exceptions to these rules, most of the time overt signs such as visually appearing, calling on the phone and making lights flicker fade pretty quickly. After that, interactions can get more involved and complex via altered states of consciousness. So if you notice that you’re not getting as many outer signs, you might shift your efforts within by either trying to connect with your loved one via meditation or working with your dreams.

If you want to get more information about what your loved one in spirit is trying to tell you, you might try something called induced spirit communication in which a hypnotherapist guides you into a deep trance and facilitates a connection with the loved one in question. In this state, you can dialogue with your loved one and ask him what he’s trying to tell you and also if you can expect to keep receiving signs and messages from him.

Soul Arcanum

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Learning to Trust Your Psychic Abilities

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I have had psychic abilities over the years and have been able to predict the future for myself and a very close friend about 80 percent of the time. I usually only read for myself and her.(She is psychic but can’t read for herself at times.) I have trouble reading for others as I doubt my abilities due to insecurity. I have often missed opportunities for myself because I did not trust my ability. How can I get more faith in myself and the Universe? I know Spirit tries to get through to guide me but I feel I block it. Do you have any advice for me on all of this?

Karan

Dear Karan:

Trust plays a huge role in psychic ability. The problem is that this is something of a Catch-22: you have to trust your intuition for it to give you reason to trust it!

When I was in training to become a Spiritualist minister, trust was the biggest stumbling block for most of the students. At the school I attended, two main specialties were taught: energy healing and mediumship. Out of a class of about 30 people, only two of us were there to focus on spirit communication; everyone else wanted to be a healer. We had to learn both skill sets as part of the program, and the healers suffered all sorts of anguish over this because being a medium involves tremendous pressure to perform. Instead of channeling intangible energy, we have to produce verifiable information.

The two of us who wanted to be mediums differed from the others mainly in this matter of trust. We had already had a number of amazing experiences of spirit communication, which had convinced us that spirit communication is possible and that we were personally capable of succeeding at it. The main challenge our instructors faced in teaching the healers how to bring through information from Spirit was getting them to relax, let go of their fear of being wrong, and trust whatever came through.

There are four main aspects to successfully accessing psychic information. First, you must get into the right state of consciousness. Second, you must set a clear intention. Third, you must trust whatever comes through. Finally, you must be adept at translating clairvoyant, clairaudient, and clairsentient impressions into the answers being sought.

Many new psychics struggle because they aren’t even aware of the first step of getting into the right state of consciousness. They think that they can just mentally ask a question and receive an answer. This is a bit like randomly dialing a phone number and asking whoever answers what you are hoping to find out: to receive reliable information, you have to ask the right source. This is where good training can prove invaluable. In fact, when I am careful to shift my state of consciousness and get into a high vibration before tuning in, I always receive answers, and they always prove valuable and reliable.

Once you know you’re tuned in and you’ve set a clear, high intention, you have to trust what you receive. I’m sure every medium has had the experience of relaying something that seemed totally off the wall, only to have that information prove to be incredibly powerful and accurate. Following is one of the first experiences that cemented for me how important it is to trust what we receive.

I was reading for a woman who was grieving for her departed husband, James. I brought through lots of information about how he had passed and such, but the surprise came when I reached out for James and the spirit who stepped forward and answered my questions ended with the following: “Tell her that Jack sent the butterfly.” This seemed so “off” that I almost didn’t relay that part to her. I could hear my instructors telling me to trust, however, so I went out on a limb, wrote it down, and sent the email reading off to her with a hope and a prayer.

In her letter back to me, she described how she broke down sobbing when she got to that line, for she was sure that I was indeed in contact with her departed husband. Though his name had been James, his friends and family had always called him Jack. On the day of his funeral, she was calling out to him in her heart and mind and staring out the window at the bleak November morning when a huge butterfly appeared and hovered just on the other side of the glass. She thought this very unusual for November, and she had been wondering if this was somehow the spirit of her departed husband trying to give her a sign. I was so glad that I decided to trust what I was getting and pass it on!

Once you are in the right state of consciousness and your heart is centered on a high, pure intention, you are connected to a source of wisdom and information that is very reliable. Of course, sometimes you will receive intuitive impressions when you’re going about your everyday life and you’re not in this special state. When that happens, you can always check on their accuracy by shifting into this state of consciousness and then exploring them further.

You can also exercise your intuitive senses in small ways throughout the day. First you must be adept at controlling your state of consciousness so that you can quickly shift state and “tune in.” It’s also wise and powerful to program yourself to live an intuitive life. If you work with the law of attraction to manifest powerful psychic experiences and you program your subconscious mind to deliver psychic insights to you on a regular basis, you will begin to have all sorts of amazing psychic experiences. The more you cultivate your abilities in this way, the more your intuition will break through at seemingly random moments to deliver helpful information to you.

One powerful way to do this is to meditate each morning and set a psychic intention for the day. You can ask for a general level of experience or something specific. For example, you might ask your higher self and spirit guides to help you align with a smooth journey and a productive day, and to send you insights, intuitions and experiences in support of this aim. You could also ask for something more specific, such being led to the answer to a question or the solution to a problem. One thing I often ask is, “What do I most need to know right now?” Ask for insights and intuitions to come to you throughout the day to lead you to what you are seeking. The more important this is to you, the more powerful experiences will come your way in answer to your prayers.

To find out if your impressions are accurate, you have to trust them enough to act on them and then pay attention to what happens next. Sometimes you won’t see the evidence you’re looking for because too much of it is hidden behind the scenes. For example, you may sense that someone is upset, but when you question them, they may deny it. This doesn’t necessarily mean you were wrong. You may receive a nudge to take a different route home and never know why. You have to be okay with the fact that you may never know why you received a certain impression, and assume that somehow it was designed to help you.

Finally, if you are too hung up on being right or accurate, you will block yourself. Part of being in the right frame of mind is being beyond ego and in a light, easy, relaxed state of being. Instead of putting pressure on yourself, pray for what you desire and then relax and allow it to come to you.

– Soul Arcanum

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Is Mediumship Born of “Wishful Thinking?”

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I have been taking psychic development classes and have had quite a few evidential experiences of Spirit. I am asking you what it takes to be a true medium. Is one born with the ability? Also, why does it take the death of a loved one to bring it out? Is it because the interest will not be there otherwise, or is there some wishful thinking going on?
– Debra

Dear Debra:

Thanks for these great questions. First I think we need to address the term “true medium.” What does this mean to you? Is it someone who brings through evidential information via spirit communication one time? Is it someone who sometimes receives spontaneous messages from spirits? Is it someone who at times can purposefully connect with certain entities? Or is it someone who can dial up individuals on the otherside at will and bring through names and other evidence whenever it is desired?

For the sake of clarity here, let’s call someone who has all the key potential traits a “natural medium,” someone who frequently exercises her ability to bring through evidential information a “gifted medium,” and someone who never outgrows her size 8 jeans a “true medium.” As you might imagine, a “true medium” is rare indeed. All joking aside, I’ve never heard of a medium who can at all times without fail bring through irrefutable evidence from any individual spirit desired.

Defining a “true medium” is thus a bit like trying to define a “true doctor” or a “true artist.” Every medium is unique. Some will be seen to have great gifts. Each one will have certain strengths, weaknesses, specialties, etc. Just as every work of art is unique, so is every communication with Spirit.

Further, mediums go through highs and lows just like anyone else. Sometimes I can bring through endless evidence from Spirit, and other times, this experience is elusive, and I don’t always know why. Sometimes my vibration is too low for some reason. Perhaps I’ve been thinking more negatively than usual, gotten caught up in worry, have not been taking care of myself in some way, or have become overwhelmed with commitments. (That last one often happens just after a period of great success with spirit communication, when my reading business takes off like a rocket with referrals!) Sometimes I think my vibration is actually too high: I’m not motivated to stretch for clear communication because I’m so at peace with death and everything else that I feel no need to strive for anything at all.

I find your questions about when and how mediumship develops to be the most interesting. In my view, mediumship is like any other talent or gift. A gifted athlete may be born with a lot of natural physical ability and perhaps the tenacious personality to strive for excellence. He will also probably have grown up in a family that encouraged and nurtured athleticism.

Similarly, a gifted medium may be born with a very high degree of sensitivity and a high spiritual vibration, which perhaps was attained in prior lives. She will probably also have a personality that is open, curious and compassionate. If she is raised in a family that supports and nurtures her psychic gifts, they will come to the surface at an early age.

Given the fact that most people in our culture either view spirit communication as evil or pure nonsense, very few natural mediums are raised in families that encourage this sort of endeavor. In fact, most young mediums quickly learn that their experiences with spirits freak even the bravest grown-ups out, which is very disconcerting indeed. They thus figure out a way to shut this aspect of themselves down. Given this hostile climate, if a natural medium is going to own her ability, it will generally not be until later in life.

Here is where your excellent question comes in. Why does it so often take the death of a loved one to discover one’s mediumship abilities?

There are a number of reasons that, when woven together, make a lot of sense. First, until we have to face death via the departure of a loved one, most people don’t give all that much thought to the afterlife, for it’s not something we really want to deal with. When someone we love dies, however, we naturally wonder where they are and if they are all right.

If this death is of someone very close, like a child, parent or spouse, then we may not be satisfied with the answers we receive about death and grieving from our cultures and religious traditions. We may need more: more information, more understanding, more help, more healing, more comfort and more reassurance. We may also seek more experiences with this person. We may refuse to let go. We don’t care if this freaks other people out anymore, and we don’t even care if we believe this is possible. Our emotional pain is so great that it can no longer be contained by the limits of our prescribed belief system.

We see this phenomenon all the time in emergency situations, as with a mother who is able to lift a car off of a child. She doesn’t stop and think about whether she can do it or not, she just knows that she HAS to. Once she’s done it once, the walls guarding her beliefs about what is possible will begin to crumble.

This combination of intense love, longing and grief is so powerful it creates seemingly “magical” experiences between those who are grieving and those who have passed on. This desire is so strong and pure that it breaks through all the barriers that prevent this sort of experience from being commonplace. Further, when we’re in a lot of pain, our loved ones in Spirit are also strongly motivated to make contact, so this intense desire for contact works from both sides.

Many a gifted medium’s first spirit communication experiences thus involve personal contact with a loved one who has died. It only takes one such experience to blow open the doors on what we believe is possible and launch us on this new journey called “mediumship.”

As I mentioned above, we also now have an ally on the other side – someone we were very close to and could probably communicate with very well. We have “contacts” in Spirit. Imagine that you’re up on a podium looking out at an immense crowd, but as a bright spotlight is shining on you, the audience is shrouded in darkness. If you wave or call out, you may or may not get any answer, as folks won’t know you’re talking to them. If, however, your departed mother is in that audience and you wave, she will probably jump up and wave back excitedly. If you call out, she will answer.

Once we believe spirit communication is possible, we still need a strong desire to make it happen again and again, just like an Olympic athlete needs a strong desire to maintain his abilities. While many mediums grow better and better with experience, some seem to fade in their ability. Most budding mediums are on fire to share what they’ve discovered with the whole world. With time, however, they are less and less amazed by their experiences with Spirit and more and more at peace with death, which causes their desire to bring through evidential information from Spirit to wane.

I struggle all the time to remember what it was like for me before I experienced all I’ve experienced with Spirit, and how devastating it felt to “lose” a loved one, so that I can remain passionate about helping others, and maintain a desire strong enough to fuel continued success.

Is it possible that spirit communication is sometimes wishful thinking? Absolutely. We’re always wise to test Spirit and to question all our experiences. Since we create our own realities based on our desires, however, everything ultimately happens due to wishful thinking. When your wish is strong enough, magic happens!

– Soul Arcanum

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The Accidental Medium

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I have sensed spirits and other energies around me for a long time now. I see spirits most often, and I try my best to be brave about it. This has been going on my whole life. I talk to as many people as I can about all of this, and rarely find anyone who has similar experiences. Sometimes I ask myself if I’m going insane, but more often I find myself wondering what it is I should do with this gift. I do feel a sense of emptiness like I’m not fulfilling something that I should be doing. I also have dreams that predict the future. My four-year-old son is having experiences of his own; he is talking about shadows and people around him that aren’t there, and telling me about them in great detail. I want to know why I have these abilities while people around me do not, and what I should be doing with this so I can better educate myself and help my son.

Matt

 

Dear Matt:

In order to answer you, I’m going to divide mediums into two different categories: those who are born with the ability to perceive spirits, and those who develop that ability through focused effort. For obvious reasons, those who are born with the ability tend to have a harder time with their psychic experiences than those who actively pursue psychic development.

The experiences of most natural mediums tend to follow certain patterns. Their ability to perceive spirits is usually present from birth, so when they learn to talk, they begin to speak of people that the rest of the family can’t see or hear. Sometimes this is frightening to the child and he will cry and tell his parents about a man or woman or monster who is frightening him. Sometimes, his experiences are wholly positive, and the parents will simply notice that he seems to have an imaginary friend with whom he chatters away. Usually, there is a mixed bag of both positive and negative experiences: they may start out positive, but if the child senses his parents are uncomfortable or frightened by the whole subject, he also gets uneasy or frightened, which opens him up to experiences of a more negative nature.

At that point, the child may start to reject interaction with spirits and seek a way to shut down his abilities. If this is accomplished, there will be a lull in psychic activity until adolescence, when it may flare up again. (Adolescence entails a surge of life force energy coupled with a tendency to deeply question and/or reject what we’ve been told, which naturally tends to produce spiritual experiences.) Unfortunately, because adolescence tends to be a time of great emotional turmoil, those psychic experiences tend to be frightening or negative in nature, which leads the medium to again try to shut them down. There are many, many natural mediums in the world who no longer perceive spirits because they found a way to shut down their abilities in the past. Psychic abilities that have been shut down can remain dormant indefinitely until something happens to trigger them again.

Of course, like you, there are some natural mediums who never tried or managed to psychically shut down, and they often feel just as you do: They wonder if they are crazy or losing their minds, and they have no idea why these things are happening or what they are supposed to do about them.

This course of experience is very different from that of a person who purposefully strives to develop their spirit communication abilities. These folks experience none of the inner conflict of the natural medium, for they very much want to be able to connect with spirits. They are almost always initially motivated by the personal loss of a loved one with whom they very much want to connect. Experiencing the pain and grief of losing a loved one also fills them with great compassion for the grieving and the desire to help others who are struggling with loss. Instead of spontaneously experiencing more spirit contact than they are comfortable with, these seekers must struggle and strive to experience any at all.

I imagine that natural mediums were all seekers like this in a past life; that they had a tremendous desire to connect with the spirit world and worked hard on developing that ability, and this is why they came into this life with that ability already in place. Frequently, natural mediums whose abilities have long been dormant become active spiritual seekers when something happens to trigger that desire; indeed, most gifted mediums have a good amount of natural ability that they have spent a lot of time and energy refining over the years.

It is also clear that genetics play a role, as you can see in the fact that both you and your son are natural mediums. Psychic ability seems to run in families, much like musical ability, athletic ability, and other talents. When this is the case, the question isn’t so much what you are supposed to do with your ability, but what do you want to do with it? There are many people in the world who have a lot of athletic ability who never had the drive or desire to become professional athletes, and that is perfectly okay. Just because we developed an ability in a past life or were born with the genes to excel in a certain endeavor doesn’t mean that we have to go in that direction now.

Desire and motivation are key here. To be a great medium, you have to have more than an ability to perceive and communicate with beings in other dimensions; you also need to have compassion for the grieving, a strong desire to help, and the willingness to live a life of service. So instead of asking yourself, “What am I supposed to be doing with this ability?” I encourage you to ask “What do I WANT to do with it?”

I think the key to all of this for you is your feeling of emptiness: that feeling that you are not fulfilling something that you “should” be doing. I am so glad you included that detail, for it is a huge clue that your inner guidance is trying to tell you something about all of this.

It could be that you are simply meant to learn more about how to control your abilities so you can help your son; perhaps he is the one who is going to apply his natural mediumship abilities to a life of helping others. Maybe, however, you are meant to move in this direction yourself and begin to put your natural psychic talents to good use by working with the grieving. If that feels right to you, then there are all sorts of ways to refine your abilities. The most time-honored methods and traditions can be found in the Spiritualist church, but as all paths are unique, it is really important to pray and ask to be guided to the best path for you.

I was once in your shoes: I was experiencing spontaneous spirit communication and didn’t know why or what to do about it. When I made clear, conscious decision to use my mediumship to help others, all I needed in order to do that began to show up in my life in wonderful ways. I recommend that you pray for guidance and dialogue with Spirit, and listen to that feeling/voice within you that has been pulling at you. This is your inner guidance system; it is how the divine will answer the questions burning in your mind and heart and lead you to whatever you personally need to know or do next.

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Controlling Spirit Communication

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I have spontaneously brought through amazing messages from someone else’s loved one in Spirit a few times. Since then, I have tried to do this for others, but it is rare that I can bring through a particular spirit on request. Sometimes, the spirit that comes through seems random; other times I feel like I have a spirit that is connected with the person but they don’t recognize the spirit based on what I bring through. This leads me to doubt my spirit communication abilities and to feel bad because I know I am disappointing someone who needs to hear from someone they have lost. Do you have any advice for me?

Martha:

Dear Martha:

I wish I had easy answers for you, but what you describe is actually similar to my own experiences as a medium. My first spirit communication experiences were also spontaneous. I would be talking with someone when I would become aware of a presence around them that was trying to talk to me in my mind. When I got up the nerve to relay what I was being told, I was amazed at the profound healing that unfolded. From this I developed a strong desire to help the grieving in this way, and eventually, I was guided to The School of Spiritual Healing and Prophecy in Lily Dale, New York, where I learned how to refine my spirit communication abilities.

While I received wonderful training there, I still can’t guarantee that I will be able to connect with a particular spirit, and I have never met any medium who can. Famous mediums on TV may look like they can, but it’s simply because we are only being shown their greatest successes. Of course, I could be wrong about this; if you are a medium who can connect with any spirit at any time, please email me and set me straight – I want to meet you!

There are all sorts of factors that affect spirit communication. I have noticed that my own abilities seem to wax and wane. While I haven’t been able to determine why this would be, one element is clearly the level of my own desire. When I’m focused on spirit communication and full of compassion for the grieving, amazing spirit communication tends to happen; when I am caught up in other interests and endeavors, it naturally tends to fall back.

I also feel that we can evolve beyond the vibration essential to spirit communication. There is a natural progression in psychic development from frightening experiences to spirit communication to awareness of higher beings like spirit guides and angels. If we become accustomed to reaching as high as we can vibrationally, we may have to step down our vibration a few notches to connect with human beings who have passed. This is like working with a highly sensitive radio tuner; it’s simpler to turn it all the way to the right than to find a specific frequency in the middle.

Because I can’t guarantee that I will be able to bring through the individual being sought, I will try for evidential information and if I don’t get it, encourage the person to try another medium or try again at a later date. (I never charge anything for tuning in to see if I can get someone on the line.)

Communication is a two-way street. Often when spirits first cross over, they don’t know any more about how to communicate with us here than the average person knows about how to communicate with the dearly departed. Someone who thought spirit communication was a bunch of hogwash when alive may not instantly change his mind upon crossing over. When my best friend from high school died, I found it impossible to contact her at first. When I asked Spirit about this, I was reminded that my friend didn’t believe in an afterlife, and made to understand that she was experiencing what she expected to experience when she died: a state of nothingness. In time, she would begin to wonder who was experiencing that nothingness and open up to new awareness. Some months after she died, I began to get dream visits from her.

Sometimes there are simply communication problems either because the spirit isn’t great at communicating in general or because the styles of communication between the medium and the spirit are too different. To compound the problem, you can try to connect with a particular spirit only to have another individual burst in. Last week when I was tuning in for a woman who had lost her partner, I was shown lots of images of cooking. I was then shown a man in full military uniform in an old photograph. I knew this was a male spirit and that I was being shown him as he looked when he was younger. I relayed all of this to my potential client, and none of it clicked with her. The NEXT day I received an email from a woman wanting to connect with her departed father, with a link to his obituary. He was a celebrated chef and had been in the military. The obituary featured a picture of him when he was a young man; his was the face in the photograph I had been shown the day before. So when I tuned in for the first woman, a spirit came through for someone I hadn’t had any contact with yet! This has happened a number of times over the years. This spirit was so eager to come through that he “cut in line” and popped through when a different spirit was being sought.

You wrote that sometimes you feel you have the right spirit on the line, but the person isn’t recognizing what you’re bringing through. This has happened to me a number of times. For example, I was reading for a woman who was devastated by the loss of her husband. He kept showing me a framed picture with birds in it in their living room. When I relayed this to her, she said there was no such picture in her home, and she had no idea what it meant. Based on other verifiable information, we proceeded with the reading. I read for her perhaps a dozen times over several years, and each time, he showed me this picture of birds. I eventually stopped including that information because it didn’t mean anything to her.

A few years after he had died, she wrote to me for another reading. She needed to know what to do with her departed husband’s beloved birds, which were in a cage in their living room. She had been caring for them ever since his death. She sometimes felt that he was trying to talk to her through the birds. On the whole, however, the noise they made drove her crazy, so she wanted to know from him what he wanted her to do with them: keep them or give them to someone else. I was dumbfounded! Somehow she did not connect the “picture of birds in the living room” with the ACTUAL birds in the living room! All that time, he had been trying to answer the question in her heart. My point is that sometimes, you DO have the right spirit on the line, but for some reason, the person receiving the message just can’t put it all together.

Not being able to connect with a spirit does not mean that they are lost or confused on the other side or that you are incapable of spirit communication in general, for there are many factors that influence our ability to connect with certain spirits. Further, we need to remember that spirit communication is more of a miracle than a given. While I would love to be able to connect with any spirit at any time, I have learned to be grateful for those experiences that do shine through with amazing evidential information.

– Soul Arcanum

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Controlling Spirit Communication

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I have spontaneously brought through amazing messages from someone else’s loved one in Spirit a few times. Since then, I have tried to do this for others, but it is rare that I can bring through a particular spirit on request. Sometimes, the spirit that comes through seems random; other times I feel like I have a spirit that is connected with the person but they don’t recognize the spirit based on what I bring through. This leads me to doubt my spirit communication abilities and to feel bad because I know I am disappointing someone who needs to hear from someone they have lost. Do you have any advice for me?

Martha:

Dear Martha:

I wish I had easy answers for you, but what you describe is actually similar to my own experiences as a medium. My first spirit communication experiences were also spontaneous. I would be talking with someone when I would become aware of a presence around them that was trying to talk to me in my mind. When I got up the nerve to relay what I was being told, I was amazed at the profound healing that unfolded. From this I developed a strong desire to help the grieving in this way, and eventually, I was guided to The School of Spiritual Healing and Prophecy in Lily Dale, New York, where I learned how to refine my spirit communication abilities.

While I received wonderful training there, I still can’t guarantee that I will be able to connect with a particular spirit, and I have never met any medium who can. Famous mediums on TV may look like they can, but it’s simply because we are only being shown their greatest successes. Of course, I could be wrong about this; if you are a medium who can connect with any spirit at any time, please email me and set me straight – I want to meet you!

There are all sorts of factors that affect spirit communication. I have noticed that my own abilities seem to wax and wane. While I haven’t been able to determine why this would be, one element is clearly the level of my own desire. When I’m focused on spirit communication and full of compassion for the grieving, amazing spirit communication tends to happen; when I am caught up in other interests and endeavors, it naturally tends to fall back.

I also feel that we can evolve beyond the vibration essential to spirit communication. There is a natural progression in psychic development from frightening experiences to spirit communication to awareness of higher beings like spirit guides and angels. If we become accustomed to reaching as high as we can vibrationally, we may have to step down our vibration a few notches to connect with human beings who have passed. This is like working with a highly sensitive radio tuner; it’s simpler to turn it all the way to the right than to find a specific frequency in the middle.

Because I can’t guarantee that I will be able to bring through the individual being sought, I will try for evidential information and if I don’t get it, encourage the person to try another medium or try again at a later date. (I never charge anything for tuning in to see if I can get someone on the line.)

Communication is a two-way street. Often when spirits first cross over, they don’t know any more about how to communicate with us here than the average person knows about how to communicate with the dearly departed. Someone who thought spirit communication was a bunch of hogwash when alive may not instantly change his mind upon crossing over. When my best friend from high school died, I found it impossible to contact her at first. When I asked Spirit about this, I was reminded that my friend didn’t believe in an afterlife, and made to understand that she was experiencing what she expected to experience when she died: a state of nothingness. In time, she would begin to wonder who was experiencing that nothingness and open up to new awareness. Some months after she died, I began to get dream visits from her.

Sometimes there are simply communication problems either because the spirit isn’t great at communicating in general or because the styles of communication between the medium and the spirit are too different. To compound the problem, you can try to connect with a particular spirit only to have another individual burst in. Last week when I was tuning in for a woman who had lost her partner, I was shown lots of images of cooking. I was then shown a man in full military uniform in an old photograph. I knew this was a male spirit and that I was being shown him as he looked when he was younger. I relayed all of this to my potential client, and none of it clicked with her. The NEXT day I received an email from a woman wanting to connect with her departed father, with a link to his obituary. He was a celebrated chef and had been in the military. The obituary featured a picture of him when he was a young man; his was the face in the photograph I had been shown the day before. So when I tuned in for the first woman, a spirit came through for someone I hadn’t had any contact with yet! This has happened a number of times over the years. This spirit was so eager to come through that he “cut in line” and popped through when a different spirit was being sought.

You wrote that sometimes you feel you have the right spirit on the line, but the person isn’t recognizing what you’re bringing through. This has happened to me a number of times. For example, I was reading for a woman who was devastated by the loss of her husband. He kept showing me a framed picture with birds in it in their living room. When I relayed this to her, she said there was no such picture in her home, and she had no idea what it meant. Based on other verifiable information, we proceeded with the reading. I read for her perhaps a dozen times over several years, and each time, he showed me this picture of birds. I eventually stopped including that information because it didn’t mean anything to her.

A few years after he had died, she wrote to me for another reading. She needed to know what to do with her departed husband’s beloved birds, which were in a cage in their living room. She had been caring for them ever since his death. She sometimes felt that he was trying to talk to her through the birds. On the whole, however, the noise they made drove her crazy, so she wanted to know from him what he wanted her to do with them: keep them or give them to someone else. I was dumbfounded! Somehow she did not connect the “picture of birds in the living room” with the ACTUAL birds in the living room! All that time, he had been trying to answer the question in her heart. My point is that sometimes, you DO have the right spirit on the line, but for some reason, the person receiving the message just can’t put it all together.

Not being able to connect with a spirit does not mean that they are lost or confused on the other side or that you are incapable of spirit communication in general, for there are many factors that influence our ability to connect with certain spirits. Further, we need to remember that spirit communication is more of a miracle than a given. While I would love to be able to connect with any spirit at any time, I have learned to be grateful for those experiences that do shine through with amazing evidential information.

– Soul Arcanum


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Facilitating Communication with Departed Loved Ones

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

What can I do to encourage my recently departed son to be around me? Andy was born 10/03/85 and passed away on 2/13/11. He struggled for six weeks in the ICU with H1N1 and pneumonia. I seem to be the only family member who senses him or gets “snapshots” of him. I want to create an environment where he is successful at communicating with me. He has a vast network of friends and contacts who are all devastated by his passing, and I am trying to help them too. As much as I miss him, I know that he is very happy where he is. I think at the end, he was relying on me to release him, for he had always made me promise that I wouldn’t keep him alive on machines. Is he now looking for me to get messages to his friends and other family members? If so, I need to know how to increase our communication.

Cheryl

Dear Cheryl:

My heart goes out to you and I can certainly understand your desire to connect in a deep and meaningful way with your departed son. However, it does sound like you have a good connection to him already and would know if there was some message he was desperate to convey.

That being said, I’m happy to offer you tips on how to cultivate the best connection you can to him. There are many ways to connect with loved ones in Spirit. As the easiest way for you personally may not be the easiest way for him, it’s important to experiment. For example, where my uncle would very clearly pop into my mind with helpful messages and information, my father seems to be unable to do this. However, my dad has pulled off some amazing feats involving electronics, such as making a doorbell sound to wake me up to his presence and even calling me on the phone. (Interestingly, my father was always extraordinarily interested in the latest technology.)

The simplest (though perhaps not the easiest) way to communicate with departed loved ones is through direct mental communication. Following are the basic steps involved.

First you must learn how to purposefully raise your vibration. I assume you have a naturally high vibration given how you’ve already connected with your son. Your statement that you know he is happy where he is also suggests that you have a high vibration.

However, since the physical world vibrates at a much lower, slower rate than the non-physical, you will have to shift your vibration even higher to facilitate spirit communication. The higher our vibration, the easier it is to connect with departed spirits and achieve all sorts of other metaphysical goals. Here’s an However, since the physical world vibrates at a much lower, slower rate than the non-physical, you will have to shift your vibration even higher to facilitate spirit communication. The higher our vibration, the easier it is to connect with departed spirits and achieve all sorts of other metaphysical goals. Here’s an article on how to raise your vibration for spirit communication.

Once you are in a high vibration, you need to alter your state of consciousness. You can do this by meditating or simply allowing yourself to mentally disconnect with the physical. We all go into and out of trance states all day long. Spontaneous spirit contact tends to happen when we are in a day dreamy state, such as when we are driving in the car, taking a shower or in between being fully awake and asleep.

Once you are in this relaxed, altered state of consciousness, think intently about your son. In order to maintain the high vibration, it’s important that you think happy thoughts. Instead of thinking about how much you love or miss him, which could evoke some sorrow, simply call to mind a very joyful memory of him. The more you can immerse yourself in this memory, the better. In addition to remembering the events and interactions, try to mentally see the details of your surroundings, what you are wearing, what you smell, etc. Try to step into the shoes of your former self.

While reliving this memory, turn to your son and simply begin to talk to him. You can tell him things you want him to know and then begin to ask him questions. It doesn’t matter if it feels like you are making all of this up; the important thing is that you are vibrationally aligning with it actually happening. The key is to be able to let go of your doubt and relax into this as an exercise, for this will keep your vibration high and set your mind free to connect with him. The more you are able to go with this exercise, the more likely you are to experience something that you know you didn’t imagine.

I believe that with the right focus and effort, anyone can learn how to do this, but it will be easier for people who have a naturally high vibration, are adept at shifting their state of consciousness, have vivid imaginations and believe that what they are trying to do is possible.

People who lack these qualities can still connect with loved ones in spirit. For them I am developing a series of deep trance recordings to facilitate induced spirit communication. Unfortunately, this is taking me longer than I expected because it is very tricky to teach others how to achieve these subtle inner states. There are a few hypnotherapists in the world who know how to induce spirit communication; if you can find one, undergoing it just once should help you understand how to achieve that state again.

In addition to the direct mental communication outlined above, there are other ways to connect with departed loved ones in Spirit. Perhaps the most powerful is to learn how to astral travel to visit them in the dimension where they now reside. For more on this, I recommend exploring the writing of Bruce Moen, who has written a number of fascinating books on his astral adventures in the “afterlife.”

Working with your dreams is another very powerful way to regularly interact with loved ones now living in other dimensions. The best tip I have for living a rich dream life is to allow yourself to drift in and out of sleep in the morning instead of jumping out of bed with an alarm clock. As you linger in bed, send out a mental call to your son and then allow yourself to drift off to sleep again.

You could find a Spiritualist church and join a development circle in order to further cultivate your spirit communication abilities. You may also receive messages from your son through other mediums there. You might even enroll in a school for the development of mediumship like the one I attended, the School of Spiritual Healing and Prophecy in Lily Dale, New York.

If you and your son are both very verbal, you may have good success with automatic writing. To employ this method, get into a high vibration and altered state of consciousness as described above, and then sit with pen and paper and begin a conversation with your son. As you do this, make easy loops on the paper to get your hand moving. The more you stay focused within and allow your hand to move as it will, the more likely you are to allow your son to either control your hand or influence your subconscious mind so it can channel messages from him.

Of course, whatever your aim, you are wise to work with the law of attraction to achieve it. I can recommend nothing more powerful and life-changing than diving into studies on how we create our own realities.

If all of this sounds highly involved, you’re right: what you’re trying to do is essentially a miracle. It takes a lot of devotion to master spirit communication, but the rewards are immeasurable.

Soul Arcanum

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Aligning Spirit Communication Before Death

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

My mother was diagnosed with dementia six years ago and seems to be approaching the end stage of her illness. She no longer wants to eat and is down to 75 pounds. I recently flew to the East Coast to visit her. For the first time, she mentioned God and a connection to the spirit world. (She had always been an atheist.) She tells me she is in an airport waiting for a flight; she’s actually in a nursing home. I assume she means she’ll be transitioning soon. I heard her voice in my head once last year. She asked how she would be able to talk to me. I told her to project her thoughts. She argued that I don’t hear them. I said I would be able to hear them, which pleased her. How can I develop the full power to hear all that she wants to communicate when she transitions? The one time that I heard her voice, it was so loud and clear in my head. I know that she talks to me a lot, but I don’t hear her. How can I tune in more fully to receive her communications from the other side?
Celeste

Dear Celeste:

You’ve already communicated telepathically with your mother just as you would if she was in Spirit. It doesn’t matter if you’re on the West Coast and she’s on the East, or you’re in the physical and she is in another dimension: If you’re communicating mentally, it’s all the same.

I loved your question because it illuminates something that is really common but doesn’t get much attention. Most people avoid thinking about death, and in modern life, we rarely encounter it. In the olden days, death generally occurred in or near home, but now people are usually in the hospital or a nursing home when they cross over. As a result, most of us don’t witness the changes that often precede death until we are about to leave this world ourselves.

People who work with the dying tend to notice certain trends. For example, it’s quite common for even the most skeptical atheists to grow more spiritual as death approaches. This is in part because instead of being distracted by earthly pursuits, they are keenly focused on what will happen when they leave this life.

The bedridden sick and elderly also spend a great deal of time essentially meditating. Since they’re in an alpha state for many hours each day, they can rapidly develop spiritual abilities such as telepathy. As they begin to have unusual experiences, their beliefs may change overnight. For example, the sick and elderly often have out of body experiences or report seeing dead loved ones, mysterious beings, angels and the like. As one might imagine, this sort of experience can have a profound effect on a person’s spiritual beliefs.

As your letter illustrated, often the so-called demented also demonstrate telepathic ability. They may be checked out from what we call reality, yet seem to be able to read our minds. For example, if we think about going to the grocery store later, they may suddenly request certain items, or if we worry about another member of the family, they may mention that person and tell us everything will be okay.

As for how you can align communication with your mother after she transitions, I think one of the greatest things you can do is recognize that you are already communicating telepathically, and assume that it will be even easier for you to do this once your mother is free and clear of her troubled physical body.

It would also be powerful to vividly remember what you were doing that time you heard her so clearly. Were you in a trancelike state? Remember how that communication felt and how you became aware that it was happening. When you want to connect again in the future, vividly recall that experience and imagine it happening again. Focus on your desire and your love for her, send out a clear request for contact, and open up to receiving telepathic impressions.

I also think it would be helpful to study what is happening with the elderly who spontaneously develop these abilities, for if we can simulate their experiences, we should be able to achieve similar results.

For example, if we turn our attention from mundane reality to contemplating what lies beyond this world, we will naturally begin to open up our awareness of other dimensions. If we put ourselves in a trancelike state on a regular basis (as through regular meditation) we will begin to awaken all sorts of spiritual insights and abilities.

There are lots of wonderful ways to break into heightened psychic awareness. If you’re not familiar with meditation, you might begin by learning self-hypnosis or working with the chakra clearing and charging meditation at Soul Arcanum. Both processes are free and always available to you. I recommend you put them on your iPod and then go out into nature, away from all the hustle and bustle of the mundane world. If you can find a spot near a body of water like a lake or river, all the better. You want to get away from the psychic pollution of noise, thought forms and other distracting energies in order to forge a clear channel.

Cultivating mindfulness in general will greatly help you with all sorts of spiritual aims. Sometimes communication from the spirit world is very subtle or difficult to discern because it is all around us, all the time. It’s sort of like the hum of the refrigerator, which we don’t notice until we listen for it. It can also be tricky to find a wavelength that both parties can reach in order to connect, so the greater your control over your own thoughts and vibration, the more adept you’ll be at spirit communication.

Intuition is of course a key tool. I encourage you to pray for the quality of experience you desire and allow your intuition to lead you to the best medium for you. There are tons of ways to connect with the other side. If you get an impulse to try automatic writing or EVP work, honor it. Also, pay attention to the ways signs and messages tend to come to you, and recognize these as your strengths. For example, if you have profound dreams of your mother, you might work with connecting with her via your dreams instead of pushing for a certain type of experience.

You can also learn to astral travel in order to visit loved ones on the other side. For more information on this idea, see the work of Bruce Moen. The more important contact is, the more likely it is to happen. This is why people are saved by miracles when they’re facing death even if they didn’t pray for help: the greater the need, the greater your chance of a miracle. Similarly, just wanting to check in every day with a loved one in Spirit often falls flat. If or when you really need to connect for help or emotional healing, that’s when it’s most likely to happen.

Finally, remember that the power of love is infinite, and it’s your love for each other that will keep you connected beyond space and time. The more you send love to your mother, the more love will come back to you, and the more powerful your spiritual bond will be.

– Soul Arcanum

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Crossing Over an Old Imaginary Friend

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Dear Soul Arcanum:
I have a spirit friend who has followed me since I was a toddler. (My mother recalls me talking to her as an imaginary friend even before I do.) Though I don’t live in the house I grew up in, she now lives in my basement, and her name is Alyssa. Recently I decided to learn how to consciously communicate with her again, and now I can talk to her freely. She’s told me that she’s 11 years old and was killed by her abusive father. Her father’s ghost comes around sometimes too, though he’s not here as often as Alyssa. She tells me that he abused her throughout her life. I’ve seen him many times: he’s tall and muscular, looks dirty like a laborer, and is a smoker and an alcoholic. His eyes are filled with hate and sorrow. Sometimes I believe he’s mad at himself, but most of the time I feel he wants to hurt someone. Alyssa is very sweet and would never hurt me, but she hasn’t forgiven her father. Every time I go down into the basement, I feel she stands nearby to protect me from her father, who stares angrily at her while I’m there. When she is watching over me, he just glares at her but never moves an inch. Once she wasn’t there, however, and he crept toward me until I raced out of the basement. I want to help both of these ghosts cross over but I don’t know how. What should I do?
Laura

Dear Laura:

I must admit that this is not my specialty. While I have perceived earthbound spirits in the past, I am much more adept at communicating with spirits who have crossed over. I believe this is the result of a natural progression. When our psychic ability is first awakening, we tend to be pretty freaked out, and our fear aligns us with subtle energies of a lower nature.

Earthbound spirits have a heavier vibration than your average person. Even when they’re earthbound simply because they’re lost, they’re still deeply lonely and confused, so they’re not in a good space. Spirits who have crossed over have a higher vibration than your average person, so it takes someone who can get into a very high state of consciousness to communicate with them.

As we grow in faith and wisdom, our vibration naturally rises, so we tend to shift from psychically connecting with earthbound spirits to perceiving departed spirits in heaven, to ultimately channeling guides and angels. So where people are on this spectrum determines their psychic forte.

While I may not be the ideal person to help you at this time, I have been that person in the past, and I can tell you a few things about this situation that should help.

First, you are right to want to cross these ghosts over. As you can see, they are stuck beyond time and space; they’re interminably on hold. Given the appearance of the father, I’m betting he died shortly after killing his daughter. (Perhaps he committed suicide or got the death penalty for her murder.) In any case, neither of these beings were at peace in life, and thus they aren’t at peace in death.

As for your own needs, having earthbound spirits attached to you (even sweet little girl spirits) can have a negative affect on your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well-being. To sustain themselves, earthbound spirits must draw upon our emotional energy, so even if Alyssa doesn’t mean you one bit of harm, she is a drain on you.

No doubt when you were a toddler, you were cute and seemed safe when Alyssa was looking for a happy family to join after she died. She had nowhere else to go, so she befriended you and hung out at your house. I’m sure it helped that you were able to perceive and play with her.

I bet her father is attached to her, and she is attached to you. He is clearly wrestling with his own demons, trying to overcome his lower nature. He may have resisted going into the Light when he died because he was afraid he would be punished for what he’d done, or he may have simply been trying to hold onto his daughter so he could continue to use her.

Many times murder victims will become earthbound because they want someone to know what happened to them and to see their murderers brought to justice. It’s my understanding that there is a window between a few days and about a week after death during which the Light is ever standing by, ready for us to cross over. If we linger too long before crossing over, that energy fades away, and we end up stuck between dimensions. This is why murder victims often become earthbound.

As for how you can help these two cross over, first you must convince them that this is in their best interests. You might assure Alyssa that once she has crossed into the Light, she’ll find other loved ones who have crossed before her. Further, since her father is clearly attached to her here, by crossing over she can set herself free from him.

As for him, you may have to talk to him about divine forgiveness and the need for him to forgive himself and seek redemption. If this doesn’t work, he may be willing to go simply because Alyssa is going. (You may have to get creative to convince him to move on.)

I would pray my heart out to generate lots of love and compassion for them both and bathe them with that energy. Send him as much love and compassion as you can muster, for though he may be angry and violent, he is clearly a tortured spirit. This will help him to reconnect with his own inner divinity, which will help him align with crossing over. It will also spiritually protect you, for as I always say, the best way to protect yourself from dark shadows is to simply turn up your inner light.

Having said that, it’s important that you don’t feel stressed about crossing them over. While it’s wise and kind to do what you can, they have free will. If they refuse to cross over, it would be best for you to set yourself free from this spirit attachment. That is a big additional subject that I don’t have room to go into here, and which I have covered extensively in other articles.

Once these two have agreed to cross over, you might simply pray for assistance from their guides and angels as well as your own. There are beings ever ready to assist us with this sort of thing, but first we must look for the Light. Getting stuck between dimensions is much like getting mired in any problem here in the physical. For example, an addict can be down and out and feel like there is nothing he can do to break free, but once he decides to change and asks for help, he discovers that there has always been help available to him. So pray with all your heart for guides and angels to come and escort these two over, and tell the spirits to look for these kind helpers.

If this doesn’t work, you could try to simply take them to the portal they need to cross through. An obvious choice would be a funeral, for there will be an open portal there, ready for the recently departed. Tell Alyssa to get her father and come with you. Once there, simply tell her to look for the Light and to take her father with her through it.

If all the above fails, you can always call someone who specializes in this sort of thing. Since you can consciously communicate with her, however, I’m confident you can affect this on your own. Heck, you may even have the makings of an earthbound spirit specialist yourself!

– Soul Arcanum

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