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The Ethics of Psychic Readings about Third Parties

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I’m wondering what to make of psychic readings that others get for you. Twice someone else has gone to a psychic and then asked about me, and both times I have been bothered by it. Last week my friend told me that she was going to a psychic and was going to ask about me. I told her not to but she still did. I even put it out there that I didn’t want my friend to know anything. What the psychic told her really upset me. She asked about a potential health matter that I’ve been concerned about, and the psychic’s answer was pretty upsetting to me. I’m trying to figure out how much credence to put into this reading since I told the Universe that I didn’t want my friend to know anything.

M.

Dear M.:

I think both your friend and this psychic were out of line, especially since you told your friend not to ask about you. This is as bad as reading someone’s diary or opening their mail: it’s an invasion of privacy.

As with all ethical issues, this comes down to the Golden Rule and treating others as we would want to be treated. In sorting out how we feel about others’ actions, however, we do have to keep their intentions in mind. I feel your friend was well-intentioned and asked about you because she’d be happy to have you do the same for her if your roles were reversed. However, she definitely dropped the ball when she failed to listen to and honor your wishes. On the whole, however, I don’t feel she was being nosy or malicious; she was just excited about going to this psychic and wanted to share a bit of this great opportunity with you.

It’s the psychic I really take issue with: she had no business getting into YOUR business without first obtaining your permission, and she certainly had no business sharing whatever she picked up with your friend. If psychic work were regulated the way the health care industry is, I’m sure this would be considered a breach of ethics worthy of jeopardizing her ‘license.’ Just imagine if your friend had gone to see a psychiatrist who had private information about you, and your friend had asked for and received that information!

With great power comes great responsibility, so this psychic should know better than to go trespassing into other people’s psychic territory. I would never read anyone without their permission, and I certainly wouldn’t relay personal information I picked up about someone to a third party.

Where things get a little tricky is when my own client’s questions involve someone else in their life. For example, I’m often asked if spouses are cheating or if kids are doing drugs and other questions along those lines. As I feel it is unethical to talk about what third parties are or are not doing, I determine how to proceed by keeping my client’s true needs and interests at the heart of the reading.

Fortunately, everything I “get” in readings comes from Spirit, and Spirit always knows just what to say. So when I’m asked if someone is cheating, Spirit will guide me to the true issues at hand: whether my client can trust the person they’re asking about, whether my client can trust their own intuitions about the situation, whether or not this particular relationship is a match to what they really want in love, and what they can do to create what they want in their lives.

Even if I psychically saw someone cheating, it would be reckless to say so because psychic impressions aren’t evidential. No one should be accused of doing something “wrong” based on psychic impressions – there’s just too much room for misinterpretation of the actual facts. If I’m asked if a man is cheating and I see him with another woman, that could mean all sorts of things: It could mean that he’s having an affair, that he’s been thinking about having an affair, or even that I’m picking up on my own client’s projected fears that he may be having an affair.

Which brings us to the good news for you: you can probably disregard everything this psychic said about you, because in my experience, it’s just too hard to get a clear read on a third party. While it’s possible that some psychics may be able to read anyone whether they have a direct connection of some kind with them or not, I don’t personally know any. I connect with my clients through the energy of their emotions, so the more they open up their hearts to me, the easier it is for me to get a clear read on them. Since I have no emotional/energetic connection to third parties, I have to read their energy through the connection the client has to them, which means that all sorts of subjective ideas and feelings can cloud the picture.

When I’m working with someone and they ask questions like “When will my daughter get a job?” or “Will my friend ever find true love?” it’s sort of like being a doctor and having a patient come in and say, “My friend has been experiencing some strange pains lately. What do you think is wrong with her?”

I’m reminded of a book I once read about a harem. Since no men aside from the palace eunuchs were allowed to see or touch any of the emperor’s wives, when one of them needed to be treated by a doctor, the doctor had to work through another woman. The patient would be behind a screen, and the doctor would tell the woman what to do and look for, and that woman would report back her findings. Just as it would be very hard to diagnose and treat someone this way, it’s very hard to get a clear psychic read on someone if you have to try to go through someone else.

While I agree that your friend’s actions were disrespectful of your wishes and this psychic’s behavior was unethical, you would be wise to contemplate what this experience may mean to you personally. After all, if you didn’t have a sore spot, it wouldn’t have made you uncomfortable.

We create our own realities not only through our desires but also our fears, so you might begin by looking for the fears underlying this experience. If you’ve been anxious about this potential health matter and avoiding the issue, you could have manifested this upsetting news not because it’s true, but because it’s what you were afraid of hearing. You could also have manifested this situation as a result of worrying that your friend wouldn’t respect your wishes or would find out information you didn’t want her to know. For example, if she told you she was going to this psychic and you immediately thought, She better not ask about me! you actually aligned with her doing just that.

I could offer you all sorts of ways to “defend” yourself against psychic intruders in the future, but it’s far more effective to let go of worrying about what you don’t want to have happen, and instead, focus on the love, harmony, respect and good health you desire. By allowing your reactions to this experience to illuminate where you may need to do some spiritual work in order to align with a higher level of experience, you can turn it into something helpful and empowering.

– Soul Arcanum

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When You See Bad News in a Psychic Reading

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

A theoretical question: when reading a woman’s cards, they showed the husband having a mistress. As I was mentally noting this, the wife boldly stated, “At least I know he’s not cheating on me.” She actually said that several times. I was then stumped – should I tell her what I saw or not? I chose not to. Instead, I told her that there were some secrets around her, and she needed to be vigilant to see and hear the information. Was I wrong to not tell her what I felt was the truth? Do we create karmic debt by not disclosing what we fear will cause someone emotional harm?

S.

Dear S.:

It sounds to me like she was intuitively aware of what you were thinking and seeing in the cards, and she said what she did in order to block that information from being directly communicated in the reading.

I think you did a great job of handling the situation. You could have said, “It sounds like that is something that would greatly upset you. Is that something you’ve been concerned about?” Or, “If your husband WERE cheating on you, would you want to know?” If her reply was yes, you could have then have admitted that the reason you asked was because of what you’d seen and explore that further in the reading. If she said no for some reason, then what you did say was perfect.

Your question raises how important it is to have a clear channel to Spirit in addition to being able to read the cards, for then you can always ask what to do regarding whatever comes up. It’s also wise to establish “agreements” with Spirit regarding the support we desire to receive. For example, I have an agreement with Spirit to only send me people who are ready to hear the truth and who will be truly helped by getting a reading with me.

It’s also wise to set a clear foundation for reach reading. For example, I encourage people to embrace and work with whatever resonates with them in a reading, and to put to the rest on a shelf to reflect back upon from the greater perspective of hindsight. It’s also important to set the ground rules before you begin. I have had many people write me over the years with questions like this: Soul Arcanum! Please help me, I am desperate! I have had three other psychic readings. The first two psychics told me that my boyfriend and I are going to get married. The third told me that she sees us breaking up. I’m desperate to know if we will get married because I can’t imagine being happy with anyone but him! Please tell me that we will be together forever!

It may sound like I’m exaggerating, but I assure you that I do get emails just like this. I always respond that any reading I do on the matter will be fresh and not a piggyback of another psychic’s work. I also am very firm in communicating that if that person is determined to be told what they want to hear, then I am not the reader for them. Sometimes I’m able to talk the individual around to trusting that whatever Spirit answers will prove to be for the best; sometimes people just can’t let go of what they think they must have to be open to whatever the truth may be, in which case I refuse to read for them.

Of course, sometimes resistance comes up out of the blue, as with the situation you describe. A question is asked and the answer is clearly not what the client is hoping to hear. Since readings are always about matters that are deeply important to people, it’s important to handle those situations very carefully.

Whenever I get something that could be upsetting, I always ask Spirit to help me to communicate it in a way that my client will be able to accept it and work with it to create what they really want in their lives. I also take a breath and say a little prayer to get the energy back on track and reestablish rapport. When I remind clients that my greatest wish is their happiness and well-being, and that the goal of the reading is to empower them to find true happiness and fulfillment, they usually let go of their fear of not getting what they think they want and relax and open up again.

Once you have established a strong relationship with Spirit and are able to ask what to do in any situation, it’s imperative that you trust the guidance you receive. I recently did a reading for a man who was going into business with a partner. Much to my surprise, Spirit showed me images of goods coming in the the front door and going out the back. It also showed me my client with his back to his partner, and his partner pick-pocketing him. As all of my readings are by email, I had all of this written down before I had time to think about it. As soon as I realized what had come through, I was alarmed. People give a tremendous amount of weight to what we communicate, so doing readings is a great responsibility. Since the information I had been given was likely to destroy the relationship involved, it would be a travesty if it were somehow inaccurate.

I asked Spirit what to do and I was shown the same information over again, so I sent the reading off with an extra prayer that it be used for the highest good of all. The client emailed me six weeks later to tell me that the business partner in question had tried to commit suicide. When I read those words, my heart nearly stopped! While in the hospital, the partner had confessed to stealing from my client. My client was writing to thank me for the reading; he explained that because he had been forewarned, he was able to forgive the partner and support him in finding the will to live again. He wrote that a beautiful healing had take place between them, and he attributed this in part to having been forewarned via the reading. This was a great reminder to me that we can always trust Spirit’s guidance.

You will never hear back from many of the clients who reject the information in a reading but later change their minds about it when it proves true. Others you may hear back from much later. Just last week I received an email from a woman who wrote to apologize to me because she is trying hard to become a better person and make amends to anyone she believes she has wronged. She recently came across a reading I did for her in 2006 along with the correspondence we had exchanged. She was writing to apologize for her negative reaction to the reading and to ask if I would be willing to read for her again. This sort of thing has happened a number of times over the years. I wouldn’t say it’s a common experience, however, for my goal is always to communicate whatever is given in such a way that it will be readily received.

I applaud you in taking such care with your client’s emotional well-being; spiritual counseling is a huge responsibility and all sorts of tricky situations can arise. As for the karma we may incur by not communicating something, if we set a loving, helpful intention and ask Spirit to guide us in fulfilling it, we have nothing but good karma to gain. Spirit always knows the path to love, peace and healing, so if we develop a clear channel to a high level of wisdom and remember to ask for guidance whenever we are unsure about what to do, every reading will ultimately prove positive.


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She’s Nervous about a Psychic Who Knows Her Embarassing Secrets

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I visited a local psychic about three times, so naturally she got to know all my personal problems. I was very surprised when I saw her at the gym that I attend, and it made me feel uneasy. Then in the locker room she had the audacity to ask me outright if my son is still doing drugs, along with some other personal questions. I felt disgusted because in my opinion, she should not discuss the matters from my readings somewhere else. I motioned for her to shut her mouth, and she replied “Not to worry.” I have also noticed that when she talks to me, she stands very close, fixes her eyes on me, and asks personal questions. I think she’s reading me, and I feel uneasy every time I see her. I have made it clear that I no longer desire her services, and I’m no longer friendly with her. Can she harm me in any way? How do I prevent her from reading me?
– Liz

Dear Liz:

A dear friend of mine is a popular local psychologist, and I’ve had other friends react with similar nervousness when they realize I know him. While some worry that he’ll share their secrets with me, for the most part, they’re uneasy because who they are in public is so different from who they are when they’re in his office and getting “real,” so they don’t know how to act around him in a different setting. Since he would never betray their confidence, the real problem is the chasm between who these people really are and who they like to pretend to be in “polite society.”

Psychologists are trained and required by law to maintain strict confidentiality, and while psychics should follow the same protocol, there is no official training or laws governing this sort of work, so it’s natural for clients to worry. I maintain strict confidentiality for my clients and would never disclose that someone had even asked me for a reading, much less what we had discussed. This is especially important when someone else may know my client, or my client is a well-known celebrity or other public figure. So I certainly agree that this psychic is not handling herself in a professional manner! (I’m also doubtful of her psychic sensitivity, for she should be able to sense your uneasiness and respond accordingly.)

At the same time, I have to say that I don’t pick up any malice from her. Like so many psychics, she is probably just socially quirky. Psychics tend to be extraordinarily open and honest because so much that escapes others’ awareness is quite plain to us. While many people ONLY get emotionally naked in very private settings, we see through people’s social masks all the time.

Just the other day my son complained, “Having a psychic for a mom is so not fair! Not only do I get in trouble for the things I say, I get in trouble for the things I DON’T say!” He was referring to both my ability to sense his true thoughts and feelings, and my habit of insisting on bringing the truth to light.

I do this because I believe it’s a waste of time and disrespectful of everyone involved to be anything but real. Further, whenever we are false, we disconnect from our personal power to create positive change. In addition, on some level everyone knows the truth – they may not know it consciously, but they still know. When we use words to hide the truth or twist it around, we’re just playing games.

Life is not a competition to see who can keep their act together more than anyone else, it’s an experiment through which we all cultivate new wisdom and understanding. Everything we feel and experience happens for a good reason. We are all divine spirits living out big dramas here on Earth, and we’re in this together. So if someone is being false with me by lying, avoiding, denying, etc., I will usually communicate what I feel is really happening because I see no reason for anyone to hide. (As you might imagine, I have often been told that I’m very intense and honest to a fault!)

Given all of this, I see no need for you to block yourself from being read. Instead, I recommend you heal yourself of the fear of being exposed for who you really are, and the belief that if people knew the real you, they would find you somehow unworthy of their love and respect.

If you are honest with yourself, you’ll realize that the reason you want to keep your secrets hidden is because deep down, you’re ashamed of yourself for some reason. You’re afraid that somehow you’re not as good as other people, or your children aren’t as good as they “should” be, which must be your fault. If you recognize that everyone struggles with all sorts of problems just as big as yours, hopefully you’ll realize that there is no reason for you to feel bad about yourself.

It’s easy for psychics to forget that not everyone is like us. For example, we hear everyone’s most scandalous secrets, greatest fears and deepest regrets, and if we’re coming from a higher vibration as we should be, we don’t judge anyone for their problems and decisions. From Spirit’s perspective, there is nothing to feel ashamed about and therefore nothing to hide because you’ve not done anything wrong! There is only compassion for you and all you’re going through.

This is one of the qualities that makes great therapists true healers: they see you as divinely perfect just the way you are, and they help you to see your own divine perfection as well. In this way, you make peace with yourself and your life.

If I were you, I would thank this woman for showing you that she cares, and gently explain that you’d rather not talk about these things when you’re at the gym, for you’re not mentally prepared to deal with them then, and just want to get in a good workout.

Then instead of keeping all those skeletons buried in the back of some metaphorical closet, I encourage you to work on finding compassion for yourself. Whenever you feel the urge to cover something up or pretend to be someone you’re not, recognize that your ego is kicking in, and try to relax and let go of needing others’ acceptance. Remember that gaining others’ approval by pretending to be someone you’re not is pretty silly, and it will just fill your life with all sorts of meaningless, hollow relationships and interactions.

Remember too that getting emotionally vulnerable takes love and faith in yourself, and if you open up about what you’re really going through, it will encourage the people you talk with to do the same. Trust me – everyone feels the way you do – we all want to look good in others’ eyes. So instead of worrying about impressing others, try to give them what you’d like to receive: acceptance and understanding for who they really are and all they’re really going through.

If you do this, you will end up in some powerful, meaningful relationships wherein you know you can truly be yourself and be accepted for who you really are. Ironically, this approach will also bring you the respect and admiration of some wonderful kindred spirits.

 

– Soul Arcanum

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How Important Is It to Save a Life?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

Recently there was much in the news about the death of David Sharp and the near death of another hiker to the Mt. Everest Summit. David Sharp was returning from the summit when he ran out of oxygen. Forty hikers went past him that day but only one stopped: Inglis, a double amputee who was determined to be the first amputee to make it to the summit of Mt. Everest. He determined that David was so far gone that it was not worth using any of his oxygen to revive him; he also really wanted to achieve his own goal. Sir Edmund Hillary has denounced this attitude by stating it is more important to help someone survive than to reach the summit. The blogs have been full of folks agreeing with Sir Edmund Hillary, or stating that anyone who chooses to reach Mt. Everest’s summit does so at their own risk, and it is not fair to ask or assume others will help you out when all are under extreme survival conditions. To me there seems to be an obvious lack of humanity, compassion and morality here. Why? Are we a doomed race? I would like to know your spiritual view on this matter. Should we not do all we can to save a life?
– Betsy

Dear Betsy:

This controversy illuminates why life in the physical is such a powerful spiritual learning experience, for it is just this sort of event that makes everyone question the basic nature of right and wrong.

Of course, it’s one thing to ponder such decisions from the comfort of our living rooms, and another to be faced with them in reality. Until we are in such a situation, we do not truly know what we would do. Often those who believe they would be heroic are disappointed in themselves, and those who haven’t given such matters much thought rise to the occasion.

I believe that a “spiritual” view will naturally be a bit lighter than a physically oriented perspective. Instead of condemnation of anyone in particular, a spiritual view will encompass compassion for all parties. It will also reflect the truth that we are more than physical beings – that each body is just a temporary vehicle for exploring and experiencing life on earth. Someone coming from a spiritual perspective will certainly cherish life but at the same time view death as a natural transition into a new state of being.

There are lots of factors that may influence how an individual may feel about death at any given time. People of great faith may view the shedding of a disabled or diseased body as a blessing. Even deeply spiritual people, however, can have a strong attachment to survival when they believe they are needed here on Earth. Someone who isn’t so spiritual or who doesn’t believe in life after death would of course tend to view the loss of physical life as a tragedy, and thus believe that we should go to every effort possible to prolong it. So as we contemplate others’ moral decisions, we must remember that each one of us has different views and needs, largely because each one of us is learning what we need to learn.

As for this particular situation, I believe that even if David were too far gone to survive physically, I would have stopped and prayed with him or done whatever I could to comfort his soul – but then, I’m a minister. It would never occur to me that reaching the top of some mountain could be more important than showing a dying man compassion. Then again, I would never try to reach the top of Everest anyway – not unless you told me there was an intergalactic angel convention at the summit – in which case you’d better stand back!

Which brings me to my next point: people who try to climb Everest are an extreme lot. They trek to the summit BECAUSE it is perilous. Death strikes frequently on Everest’s frozen slopes; in fact, David Sharp was the seventh person to die this year alone. If it were not so risky, these climbers would be somewhere else, doing something more dangerous.

I researched this story, and as it turns out, David Sharp was sorely ill-equipped and unprepared. Further, Inglis, the double amputee you mentioned, had such bad frostbite on his hands that his fingertips will probably have to be removed; he also became a double amputee when his lower extremities were severely frostbitten during a prior expedition in 1982. Despite losing his legs to Everest years ago, he still keeps climbing! It seems to me that these climbers can in no way be said to represent the general spiritual state of humanity – they’re nuts, and probably proud of it. I don’t think we can view the whole world as gone bad based on the choices of a small group of crazy people who are obsessed with an extreme goal.

I also read that another climber, Dawas, did all he could to try to save David. David was near the summit and unable to help himself in any way when Dawas found him. Dawas radioed for help, gave David oxygen, spent an hour trying to get David to stand and move, and when nothing worked, he finally decided he had to leave him – and he did so crying all the while. Further, despite his proximity to the top, he did not summit the mountain himself because he’d given his oxygen to David. If I’m going to take any example of the state of humanity from this story, I think I will focus on the selfless compassion of Dawas.

Even David Sharp’s mother said that her son responsible for his own survival, and she does not blame other climbers for failing to save him. If I did something like try to climb Everest, I too would do it with full understanding of how dangerous this undertaking was, and I would not expect anyone else to risk their lives or sacrifice their greatest dream in order to help me. It is one thing to be doing something ordinary and end up in a pickle that requires you to be rescued, and quite another to undertake a dangerous adventure because it gives you a thrill, and then expect others to risk their lives racing to your aid when you get in a bind – ESPECIALLY if you have failed to plan and prepare adequately.

There are many wonderful souls in the world, and there are many who have yet to evolve into active care and compassion for others. Don’t let those younger souls get you down. They’re still learning what they need to learn, just as we are still learning what we need to learn. Allowing events that are so appalling they are newsworthy to color your general view of humanity is like deciding the whole world is populated by short, chubby people based on your visits to a preschool classroom!

I do understand how you feel, however. When one reaches a certain level of spiritual development, it can feel like we’re the only grownup in a crowded party full of teenagers. When disillusionment or indignation creep in, we must humbly remember that we were once in others’ spiritual shoes. No doubt there are many people far more enlightened than we are who would view our own decisions as spiritually sophomoric.

The bottom line is that there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to big moral decisions. That’s why we must learn how to think for ourselves, listen within for guidance, act on the truth we find in our own hearts, and trust that others will do the same. Humanity has been shown the greatest respect in the gift of our free will. If God trusts us to choose for ourselves and to learn the “hard way” when necessary, we are wise to strive to emulate this faith in human nature by allowing others to choose for themselves as well.

Of course, we can also learn from others’ experiences – which is just what you are trying to do – and in this way, we can turn life’s tragedies into opportunities to cultivate greater personal wisdom.

May you find something of meaning and value in all of your experiences!

– Soul Arcanum

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Unsolicited Psychic Information – To Tell Others or Not?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I have kitties, and some are not doing too well. One has been diagnosed with oral cancer, the other has no definite diagnosis, and almost all of them developed upper respiratory infections. I recently learned about Quantum Touch, and had been using it on them when I got the feeling I should meditate. To shorten the story, a person in my meditation told me a certain thing about the infections they were all experiencing. I accepted what he said to be true, even though it’s a bit “out there,” and the next day, they were all basically “cured.” What do I do with this information? It sounds pretty wacky, but it seems to work. There are many ramifications to letting people know about it, however. I am really confused. I am thankful I was told this, and amazed at how well it’s worked, but what do I do with this spiritual information now? Thanks and many blessings!
– Joanna

Dear Joanna:

Welcome to my psychic world!

Your question reminds me of the television show Medium, which I started watching recently, even though I don’t generally watch TV, and certainly steer clear of shows that are dark with violence such as those about crimes. Everyone kept telling me about this show, however, so I checked it out. As soon as I saw it, I told my family, “They definitely have a real medium consulting on this show!” (I didn’t know yet that the character of Allison Dubois is based on a real medium of the same name.)

So many elements in the show’s storylines ring true to me. For example, no one knows what Allison does for a living, or that she is even a medium, except for her husband and the people she works with. Even her kids are basically in the dark about what she is really doing. Due to society’s general view of “psychics” as either nuts or frauds, many remain “in the closet” about their ability for a long time � some never come out.

Allison also often doesn’t know what to make of the dreams she has or the information she receives herself. Instead of being all-knowing, she is usually just as baffled by her experiences as everyone else. When we first open psychically, this is just how it is. We don’t know how to explain what is happening or how to figure out what our experiences “mean” – we just know that we had them and that when we pursue their meaning, it usually takes shape in amazing ways.

I’m mentioning all of this because one of Allison’s many struggles with her psychic perceptions is figuring out what she should do with them. She often doesn’t know if she should share the information she receives via visions and dreams. When she does share them, the people who receive her insights usually don’t know what to do with them either. She faces a lot of judgment and rejection by skeptics, yet she always finds a way to trust her own truth above all else, and when she does, things work out.

If you haven’t seen the show yet, I encourage you to check it out, for it will help you to make sense of what you pick up and the best way to deal with it. I must warn you, however, that it’s not for super sensitive folks who lack faith that all is well, for it centers on solving violent crimes.

Like Allison, if we trust that we receive information for a reason and we trust our own intuition when deciding what to do with that information, everything will work out just fine. This doesn’t mean that everyone will be open to hearing what we have to say, or that our lives will be simple and carefree. If that’s what you’re hoping for, you might as well ask Spirit to turn your psychic abilities off right now – and move to fantasyland while you’re at it.

When we first begin to have amazing spiritual experiences such as the insights you were given and the healing that followed, it’s natural and kind to want to tell the whole world about it. After all, when we figure out that we are the creators of our own experiences, and thus there is no need for anyone to suffer ill health or lack of any kind, we want to tell everyone who is still walking around in a dark cloud of disempowerment how they can use our truth to create something better in their lives.

It can be especially hard to watch loved ones struggle with problems that we know how to solve, such as the health issues you describe. Similarly, it can be very hard to watch loved ones heading for a huge mistake and not try to warn them, even if we know they won’t listen. If we do try to warn them, it can be even harder to sit back when they refuse to listen to us.

On top of all this, we have to figure out what to do with the information we pick up for perfect strangers. We have less at stake personally there, but how in the world does one begin to approach such a subject? Perhaps hardest of all is determining what we should do with messages for people we don’t like very much, or who don’t like us for some reason. For a couple of months now, I’ve been sitting on a message about impending health problems for woman who really resents me. We never speak, so I’m not about to ring her up with the “bad news.”

To make matters even more complicated, because we create our own realities, we are juggling a lot of responsibility for how our words will affect others’ outcomes, for if we tell them they’re heading for disaster, it could become a self-fulfilling prophecy. We don’t want to be proven right just because they believe our dire prediction and go on to manifest it.

To figure out what we should do with certain information, we have to develop a clear conscious connection to Spirit. This is where a spontaneous medium like Allison Dubois’ character is at a disadvantage. Her impressions come to her randomly, spontaneously – it’s like she is at their mercy. By contrast, a developed medium will have cultivated strong relationships with guides in Spirit, and know how to receive answers and guidance at will. A medium who has mastered her abilities like this will then just ask Spirit what she should do with certain information, and receive a clear answer. For example, when I ask Spirit what I should do with that health information for the woman who doesn’t like me, I hear, “wait, watch and see.”

Anyone who has spontaneous psychic experiences or receives insights and information from Spirit like you did should further develop their abilities like this, so they can ask Spirit for guidance on what to do with their perceptions. There are no hard and fast rules we can learn, for each individual and situation is unique. We have to be able to ask our intuition in the moment, and trust it enough to act on it.

Ponder this possibility: sometimes we are actually meant to deliver information to someone who will reject it, because this will prove more powerful than preventing a “mistake.” When they realize we were right and wish they had listened to us, their spiritual belief system could be blown open. So even if our impressions are rejected up front, it doesn’t mean it was all for nothing. Some people have to walk through a lot of pain before they’ll change their ways and views.

As for what you might do with general spiritual epiphanies, such as knowing that we can heal with the energy of our minds, again – ask your intuition. Perhaps this experience/knowing was a gift just for you. Perhaps you will feel compelled to share it with certain individuals you meet along your journey. Maybe you’ll end up writing a book about the knowledge you’ve been given, and enlighten the world at large.

If you feel compelled to share your insights and experiences in some way, then there is nothing more important for you to do. So long as what you are sharing is of love and light, and your overall intention is to be helpful, you can’t go wrong.

Whenever you don’t know what to do, remember: you can always ask Spirit!

– Soul Arcanum

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He’s Attracted to the Dark Side

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I have been in the Work for some 30 years, but I have not found the peace or satisfaction one would expect after moving through this spiritual journey’s many trials. In fact, I am increasingly tempted to embrace the dark side, and use what I know for my own fame and fortune. As I happened on your website, I believe I’m supposed to be set straight by something you say to me. I have so much good to say, but I’ve been a voice in the wilderness for far too long, and wonder if I’ve been wasting my time and effort. I cannot just die feeling so far away from any resonance with God/dess and a higher plan. I am highly intelligent, have saved a few lives, inspired a few students and had some wonderful lovers. I feel like I am under some kind of curse and don’t know how to lift it. I was born 20 hours later than Harold Shipman, the English serial killer doctor, and I well appreciate how he got like he did. (I’m a Capricorn with Gemini and Virgo rising, a Saturn/Mars conjunction in Cancer opposing my Sun and Venus, all squaring my Jupiter in Libra.)
– Gary

Dear Gary:

First, I’m no astrologer. While I often see a lot of truth in astrology, I’m a firm believer in not taking it too seriously. Even if you were born under the sign of The Great Evil One on the night of a blood red Moon, you are NOT destined to struggle against your own dark side forever. To free yourself of this supposed “curse” and move on to a higher course of experience, stop comparing yourself to a serial killer!

That said, I’m so glad you mentioned your desire for fame and fortune. Your honesty and self-awareness have illuminated the “problem,” which happens to involve the greatest spiritual challenge humankind has ever faced. While it’s been known by many names (including plain old “evil”), these days it’s most commonly known as “ego” – though we might as well go ahead and call it “ignorance.”

Yes, despite what many well-intentioned New Age folks may tell you, there is such a thing as evil in the Universe. In my book, something is “evil” when it is ignorant of natural spiritual law, which tells us that what we do will come back to us and then some. Thus when we intentionally disregard others’ needs in lieu of some selfish or self-centered desire, we are ignorant of the fact that we will end up hurting ourselves most of all.

When I was first awakening spiritually and spontaneously experiencing amazing psychic phenomena, I assumed that I must be beyond the pull of the ego to have “made it that far.” (Ha!) As you and I now both know, the more “success” we experience in any realm, including the spiritual, the bigger the ego challenges get. This actually just makes sense; the greater our “genius,” the more special we will tend to feel.

Another shocking truth that hit me somewhere along the line was that we don’t have to be “good” to gain psychic powers any more than we have to be truly healthy in order to lose weight. Taking a foolish path to any goal, however, is ultimately self-defeating. You can actually manifest a strong spiritual connection AND fame and fortune, but you have to believe this is possible and be willing to invest yourself in making it happen.

Let’s work with the weight loss example for a moment. Say you would both like to be healthy AND lose thirty pounds. To achieve both goals, you would have to eat healthy food and exercise. If you are impatient or unwilling to make certain sacrifices, you may choose to binge and purge, eat 1200 calories a day of cookies and potato chips, or starve yourself so you don’t have to exercise at all, etc.

Similarly, to cultivate a strong spiritual connection AND enjoy fame and fortune, you would have to resist “unhealthy” temptations and be willing to invest discipline, time and energy in a truly constructive approach. Otherwise, like crash dieters who both ruin their health and end up regaining all their weight, you will end up losing both your spiritual connection and your fame and fortune in the end.

What you really want on all levels is a sense of true fulfillment. Sometimes you mentally associate fulfillment with a strong spiritual connection, and sometimes you associate it with fame and fortune. This thinking is illusionary. In truth, you can either choose Spirit AND the fulfillment of your desires, or a path of endless yearning.

When we choose from ego, no amount of fame and fortune (sex, affection, or any other pleasure) will fulfill us for long. By contrast, when we align with Spirit, we align with inner peace regardless of outside circumstances. So when you are tempted toward the “dark side” in hopes of fame and fortune, you are actually thwarting the fulfillment of your desires on all levels.

The ego does not live in awareness of higher truths, and thus it endlessly tempts us to do foolish and ultimately self-defeating things. If we listen to the ego, in the end we may get what we think we want – be it fame and fortune, a certain lover, or even psychic ability – but we won’t like what we have. For example, those who pursue psychic ability out of ego-driven desires may succeed but then regret it when they are plagued by dark and even terrifying experiences.

Like it or not, it takes a certain amount of wisdom, character and discipline to safely wield “higher” powers. When it comes to spiritual work, which is non-physical in nature, it is especially important to purify the mind and heart and to align with higher forces.

Imagine that in exploring spiritual realms, you are traveling into a wild jungle. If you align with forces of love and light, you are traveling with a vast “army” of entities that are dedicated to protecting you, guiding you and helping you fulfill your aims. If you don’t align with forces of love and light, you’re on your own. Worse, if you align with the “dark side” or are even drawn toward the notion, you move into a camp full of rogues and criminals who would be more likely to steal all your provisions and leave you naked in the swamp than to watch your back.

My point in all of this is that you don’t have to be selfless to find fulfillment in life. While this may sound contradictory, if you are driven by self-interest, it only makes sense to conquer the foolish ego by humbly aligning with higher powers, for that alignment will bring both peace AND the power to fulfill all your desires in a way that harms no one else.

Though I may be able to accurately predict the future and bring through evidential information from Spirit, I am not the amazing one – I have just dedicated myself as a channel for the Divine. I know that if I start to take credit for these wonderful works, my abilities will begin to slip. I have actually seen this time and time again with psychics and mediums: as soon as they achieve a measure of acclaim, their egos kick in, and before you know it, they’re not a fraction as good as they were when they were first getting started, and their success soon slips away.

You seem disturbed that after all this time, you’re still struggling. As I explained, the ego/evil will tempt us all our lives. Every time we show any weakness, we let temptation get a foot in the door; every time we nip weakness in the bud, we gain power over it. This happens both psychologically and literally: every time you succumb to the temptation of dark thoughts, you open yourself up to the influence of dark entities. To free yourself of these dark forces, you must exercise personal strength and discipline.

After 30 years of spiritual work, I imagine you have a firm grasp on the laws of karma. Intellectually, you thus know that bad short-cuts never lead anywhere good. Ultimately and in every way, it always pays to take the high road.

– Soul Arcanum

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Unsolicited Psychic Information – To Tell Others or Not?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I have kitties, and some are not doing too well. One has been diagnosed with oral cancer, the other has no definite diagnosis, and almost all of them developed upper respiratory infections. I recently learned about Quantum Touch, and had been using it on them when I got the feeling I should meditate. To shorten the story, a person in my meditation told me a certain thing about the infections they were all experiencing. I accepted what he said to be true, even though it’s a bit “out there,” and the next day, they were all basically “cured.” What do I do with this information? It sounds pretty wacky, but it seems to work. There are many ramifications to letting people know about it, however. I am really confused. I am thankful I was told this, and amazed at how well it’s worked, but what do I do with this spiritual information now? Thanks and many blessings!
– Joanna

Dear Joanna:

Welcome to my psychic world!

Your question reminds me of the television show Medium, which I started watching recently, even though I don’t generally watch TV, and certainly steer clear of shows that are dark with violence such as those about crimes. Everyone kept telling me about this show, however, so I checked it out. As soon as I saw it, I told my family, “They definitely have a real medium consulting on this show!” (I didn’t know yet that the character of Allison Dubois is based on a real medium of the same name.)

So many elements in the show’s storylines ring true to me. For example, no one knows what Allison does for a living, or that she is even a medium, except for her husband and the people she works with. Even her kids are basically in the dark about what she is really doing. Due to society’s general view of “psychics” as either nuts or frauds, many remain “in the closet” about their ability for a long time � some never come out.

Allison also often doesn’t know what to make of the dreams she has or the information she receives herself. Instead of being all-knowing, she is usually just as baffled by her experiences as everyone else. When we first open psychically, this is just how it is. We don’t know how to explain what is happening or how to figure out what our experiences “mean” – we just know that we had them and that when we pursue their meaning, it usually takes shape in amazing ways.

I’m mentioning all of this because one of Allison’s many struggles with her psychic perceptions is figuring out what she should do with them. She often doesn’t know if she should share the information she receives via visions and dreams. When she does share them, the people who receive her insights usually don’t know what to do with them either. She faces a lot of judgment and rejection by skeptics, yet she always finds a way to trust her own truth above all else, and when she does, things work out.

If you haven’t seen the show yet, I encourage you to check it out, for it will help you to make sense of what you pick up and the best way to deal with it. I must warn you, however, that it’s not for super sensitive folks who lack faith that all is well, for it centers on solving violent crimes.

Like Allison, if we trust that we receive information for a reason and we trust our own intuition when deciding what to do with that information, everything will work out just fine. This doesn’t mean that everyone will be open to hearing what we have to say, or that our lives will be simple and carefree. If that’s what you’re hoping for, you might as well ask Spirit to turn your psychic abilities off right now – and move to fantasyland while you’re at it.

When we first begin to have amazing spiritual experiences such as the insights you were given and the healing that followed, it’s natural and kind to want to tell the whole world about it. After all, when we figure out that we are the creators of our own experiences, and thus there is no need for anyone to suffer ill health or lack of any kind, we want to tell everyone who is still walking around in a dark cloud of disempowerment how they can use our truth to create something better in their lives.

It can be especially hard to watch loved ones struggle with problems that we know how to solve, such as the health issues you describe. Similarly, it can be very hard to watch loved ones heading for a huge mistake and not try to warn them, even if we know they won’t listen. If we do try to warn them, it can be even harder to sit back when they refuse to listen to us.

On top of all this, we have to figure out what to do with the information we pick up for perfect strangers. We have less at stake personally there, but how in the world does one begin to approach such a subject? Perhaps hardest of all is determining what we should do with messages for people we don’t like very much, or who don’t like us for some reason. For a couple of months now, I’ve been sitting on a message about impending health problems for woman who really resents me. We never speak, so I’m not about to ring her up with the “bad news.”

To make matters even more complicated, because we create our own realities, we are juggling a lot of responsibility for how our words will affect others’ outcomes, for if we tell them they’re heading for disaster, it could become a self-fulfilling prophecy. We don’t want to be proven right just because they believe our dire prediction and go on to manifest it.

To figure out what we should do with certain information, we have to develop a clear conscious connection to Spirit. This is where a spontaneous medium like Allison Dubois’ character is at a disadvantage. Her impressions come to her randomly, spontaneously – it’s like she is at their mercy. By contrast, a developed medium will have cultivated strong relationships with guides in Spirit, and know how to receive answers and guidance at will. A medium who has mastered her abilities like this will then just ask Spirit what she should do with certain information, and receive a clear answer. For example, when I ask Spirit what I should do with that health information for the woman who doesn’t like me, I hear, “wait, watch and see.”

Anyone who has spontaneous psychic experiences or receives insights and information from Spirit like you did should further develop their abilities like this, so they can ask Spirit for guidance on what to do with their perceptions. There are no hard and fast rules we can learn, for each individual and situation is unique. We have to be able to ask our intuition in the moment, and trust it enough to act on it.

Ponder this possibility: sometimes we are actually meant to deliver information to someone who will reject it, because this will prove more powerful than preventing a “mistake.” When they realize we were right and wish they had listened to us, their spiritual belief system could be blown open. So even if our impressions are rejected up front, it doesn’t mean it was all for nothing. Some people have to walk through a lot of pain before they’ll change their ways and views.

As for what you might do with general spiritual epiphanies, such as knowing that we can heal with the energy of our minds, again – ask your intuition. Perhaps this experience/knowing was a gift just for you. Perhaps you will feel compelled to share it with certain individuals you meet along your journey. Maybe you’ll end up writing a book about the knowledge you’ve been given, and enlighten the world at large.

If you feel compelled to share your insights and experiences in some way, then there is nothing more important for you to do. So long as what you are sharing is of love and light, and your overall intention is to be helpful, you can’t go wrong.

Whenever you don’t know what to do, remember: you can always ask Spirit!

– Soul Arcanum

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How Can Psychic Deal with “Difficult Clients?”

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

About a year and a half ago, I started giving readings professionally. I love my work with one exception: some of my clients are “difficult.” When I have a client like this scheduled, I just dread the whole reading. I’m nervous, on edge, and find my confidence wavering. My intuition tells me it’s not going to be worth it to work with them, but I often do it anyway, as I feel I have to rise above my negative feelings and find a way to use the gifts I’ve been given. I give great readings to clients who want to work with me, who are open and easy to connect with. How do you deal with “difficult” clients?
– Maria

Dear Maria:

Thanks for this wonderful question. I can relate!

I have a long-time client who is a kind, brilliant young man. He’s a research physicist, and he always has some heavy questions for me about his latest theories. Fortunately, he also has some brilliant scientists working with him from the other side. I usually don’t understand half of what I channel through for him, but he tells me that he does, and that he always finds my readings helpful.

Given his scientific mind, he tends to want to test me. He will request a reading with vague or confusing questions, such as, “What does Spirit have to say about the molecular gravity simulation thingamajig?” Now, I don’t really need to understand all the jargon, but “what does Spirit have to say about…” is wide open. So when pursuing his latest reading a few months ago, he threw some really vague, confusing questions at me, and when I wrote to tell him that he was going to have to formulate something clearer, he said, “Well, I trust you and I trust Spirit. It always works out. I want to see what you get with this.”

This is where I tripped up. It felt wrong to me, and I knew I was not going to be able to bring through the sort of clear, helpful, useful information that I insist upon in my work. Something in me decided to defer to his judgment, and I said I’d see what I could do. It was one of the worst readings I’ve ever done. I had to strain for every answer, and when I got it, it made no sense to me. I was exhausted when the reading was over, and I didn’t feel I’d even produced anything really valuable for all that effort. The worst part of it all was that I KNEW better than to go ahead with this reading, yet I did it anyway.

He was surprised at the disappointing quality of the reading as well. I then laughed and apologized to him, and told him that I had made a mistake and would do the whole thing over on one condition: that he provide me with clear questions. He agreed, and in the second reading, we accessed the clear, helpful information and insights he was looking for.

This whole experience made me realize anew that it is my job to stay “in charge” of the reading. After all, I am the one performing it! If my clients don’t want to work with what works for me, they can always go see someone else. Through many years of experience, I have learned that it’s never wise to ignore our intuition, and this includes pushing forward before the energy is fully aligned for the reading (which in my case means that both the client and I clearly understand what he or she wants to know).

As it is a huge honor and responsibility to read for someone, we must approach this work with great care. We hold our clients’ inner lives in our hands; they hang on our words. This is why it’s so important to always approach issues from a positive angle, and to make sure that our true meaning is understood, for people can have intense, life changing emotional responses to what they THINK we’re saying, whether that’s what we’re trying to communicate or not.

Young or novice readers often struggle with “difficult clients” because they’re unsure of asserting themselves as the authority in the reading process. I began reading when I was in my mid twenties. When delivering spiritual advice to people twice my age, I had to keep reminding myself that I was just a channel for Spirit, so my personal age and wisdom had little to do with it. Readers must be able to stand tall in their authority to maintain the energetic integrity of the reading process.

Further, regardless of our field of work, we are all wise to learn about the law of attraction and to consciously align the quality of people/experiences we desire. When I first started reading, I was foolishly thrilled to work with anyone who wanted to work with me. I quickly learned to be more discerning. I vividly remember the turning point: I had a young woman who got angry with me when Spirit gently informed her that her ex-boyfriend (who was now engaged to another woman and living in another country) was not going to be reuniting with her this lifetime, and that she had to let go of this attachment to tap the new love potential on the horizon. It just was not what she wanted to hear.

After this experience, I asked Spirit to send me only kind, sincere clients who are self-aware and honest both with me and with themselves, and from that point on, I began attracting the most wonderful clients in the world. They are warm, wonderful, appreciative people who have deep questions and issues at stake – not folks who just want winning lottery numbers or spells to make a lover return to them.

So while I never meet “difficult clients” anymore, I know they’re out there. As even great clients may need some clear boundaries and direction, we have to stay awake and keep listening to our intuition. Since our business is “being psychic,” this is especially important!

Also, while it’s great to be appreciative of your gifts, you’re not really serving Spirit if you’re hurting yourself. There are many valid reasons you might refuse to read for someone. I don’t recommend reading for people who are fooling themselves and seeking validation for their subjective perspective; who recently got a reading on the same subject but didn’t act on any of the advice given in that reading; are coming to you from another psychic in hopes of hearing a different answer; are rude, pushy, or trying to get something for nothing; are too close to you personally such as a very close friend or family member (because of how it could affect your relationship); have a closed and challenging attitude; have ill intentions such as revenge or selfish gain; want you to “save” them as opposed to wanting you to help them help themselves. Nothing good will come from working with such clients, so there is no need to feel obligated or guilty for deciding you deserve a higher quality of experience.

In summary, I highly recommend that all readers clarify and affirm what they want in terms of quality of experience. In return, promise Spirit that you will do your very best for clients who are open, friendly, kind and sincere, etc. Then embrace your authority as a reader by honoring what works for you, and by sending anyone who wants you to compromise your truth on with your full blessings. I firmly believe that this approach will greatly enhance your reading practice, both for you AND for your clients.

– Soul Arcanum

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