Dear Soul Arcanum:
I lost my mum a year ago, and ever since then, I have felt lost and very depressed. Sometimes I wake up thinking about her. Does this mean she’s been visiting me, or is it happening out of grief? My daughter was six weeks old when my mother passed, and now she frequently points at the wall or empty space and smiles. Could she be sensing my mother’s presence? Thank you for your time, Soul Arcanum, and God bless you for the work you do.
– Lauren
Dear Lauren:
Your mother is indeed trying to come through to you, but your depression is keeping your vibration too low for conscious contact, so she is coming through when you’re most receptive: when you’re unconscious or just coming out of that state. When you wake up thinking of her and then remember she has passed, your vibration plummets, and the connection is broken.
Further, your daughter is indeed sensing your mother’s presence. This reminds me of a similar experience of my own, way back when I first began to consciously perceive subtle energies. I’d been very close to my departed grandmother, and she would sometimes just pop into my mind. This had happened frequently over the years, but I had never really questioned it. When I started to delve deeper, I began to sense her presence. When I then “looked” for her around me, I literally saw (with my physical eyes) a ball of purple energy in mid air. Part of me presumed this was “her,” and part of me wondered if I was “seeing things.”
One day I was sitting on the floor with my son, who was about a year old, when my grandmother popped into my mind. As I had begun to do, I “looked up” for her and saw that big ball of purple energy. At the same moment, my son (who was sitting with his back to me, and couldn’t see where I was looking) looked up and just STARED at the same spot. He didn’t “talk” to it or anything, but he seemed to be in the same trancelike state I fall into during spirit communication.
This happened again a number of times. I would sense my grandmother and then “see” her, and my son would seem to do the same. Had I not been seeing something too, it would have been easy to assume that he was just staring off into space.
We are constantly receiving signs from various spiritual sources. Usually, signs from departed loved ones are designed to just let us know they are with us; they thus tend to be brief and simple. Signs from guides/angels are designed to guide us and answer our questions. A loved one might send a certain memory of them into our minds over and over again, while a guide might prompt us to get up and go for a walk just in time to meet the new friend we’ve been praying for, or slow down just in time to avoid an accident.
Our own higher/intuitive selves are also constantly guiding us as well. It’s usually our own intuition that sends up a warning flag when someone is trying to deceive us, or that alerts us when we meet someone we’re destined to know and love well.
Since we are constantly sending and receiving information at this subtle level, often it’s hard to distinguish where a sign is coming from. Here I’ll explain some of the signs that are usually from a loved one in Spirit so you can recognize them and invite more of the same.
First, understand that the better we are at perceiving subtle energies, the more signs we’ll receive, and that we will be sent signs at the subtlest level we are able to recognize. The more psychic we are, the more “technology” we have for communication. If we have a computer with a high speed internet connection, someone in China won’t travel all the way around the world to get a message to us – they’ll do it “virtually” by emailing us. If we haven’t developed spirit communication abilities at all, it’s like we’re living in a shack in the middle of nowhere. The only way spirits can reach us is to make the tremendous effort to travel to our door, so we won’t receive messages often, and only in dire circumstances.
Some of the subtler (and thus more common) ways spirits will try to connect involve visiting us in our dreams, sending feelings of love and comfort, and planting thoughts and memories of themselves in our minds.
Meeting us in dreams is one of the easiest ways to connect with us because our vibration rises as soon as we fall asleep, and when we’re in the astral, we aren’t restricted by a limiting belief system. Spirits will also just blanket us in feelings of love or comfort, but these signs are so subtle and abstract that we often assume we are fooling ourselves with wishful thinking and dismiss them. Spirits also plant thoughts of themselves in our minds. We’ll be doing something else when suddenly we realize thoughts about that person have been running in our mental background.
If spirits can’t get our attention at this subtle level, they may try to speak to us through someone who can, such as a medium. Spirits will actually plant the subconscious idea in someone to go see a certain medium for a reading so that the medium can consciously relay their messages, and that person will think this idea about getting a reading was their own.
Receptive people can also serve as unconscious mediums. If you’re grieving for your grandfather and your friend Mary is receptive, she may find herself saying exactly what Grandpa used to say to you all the time, and just when you’ve been talking about him to her, and she may never realize why she said what she did. This is Grandpa using the most open channel he can find to let you know he’s around.
If we’re unable to recognize messages at this level, then spirits may try to do something more dramatic by causing some sort of physical or quasi-physical manifestation. The effort it takes to breach the gap between the non-physical and physical dimensions is enormous, however, and it takes a lot of skill, so these signs are less common. Some of these subtler physical signs may include seeing something out of the corner of our eyes, hearing someone say something in our minds, smelling something when no one else does, feeling like the hair is standing up on the back of our necks or like the temperature around us has shifted, etc.
If none of these do the trick and the spirit has both the skill and energy to manifest more “tangible” signs, we may have a literal vision of the spirit with our physical eyes or hear them with our physical ears. We may smell them and not be the only ones able to do so. We may literally feel them touch us or feel their weight sitting beside us on the bed. Physical objects may manifest or disappear.
Spirits also use electronics to try to reach us. They often appear in photos as orbs or vague energies and cause lights to flicker, radios to turn on, and phones and doorbells to ring. Spirits have even been known to speak through radios, show up on videotape, send emails and make actual phone calls from beyond. For more information on this, search the ‘net for EVP – Electronic Voice Phenomena.
Sadly, people often reject all but the most striking signs from Spirit. As I’ve just explained, dramatic messages are rare, so the better we get at recognizing subtle cues, the more signs we’ll receive.
– Soul Arcanum
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