Dear Soul Arcanum:
My 15-year-old son is interested in exploring his psychic abilities. My father and I both had second sight, but only for the dark things, and we struggled to repress it. I want to know if I should let my son develop his abilities. He has shown some signs of having second sight, but only for dark things. Please let me know your opinion: is it safe for him to explore this? My father drank away the memories he had of his own psychic experiences, and I have buried mine deep within, though they still come through sometimes. My mother and her family are against me using my ability, because I read someone’s mind one time, and the reading was so dark it terrified me for weeks. I know that second sight is real – I just don’t know if my son should develop his or not. I had an unusual childhood because of my ability.
Thank you for your time.
– Tami
Dear Tami:
It doesn’t surprise me that this situation has been passed from one generation to another. In fact, I’ve seen this very issue in my own family. I was raised from the age of eight by my father, and had no contact with my mother until I was in my 20’s. My father’s family was not psychic or even spiritual in any way, and I didn’t know that on my mother’s side I was descended from a long psychic line until well after my own abilities had come to the surface.
After I was an adult and professional psychic myself, I reconnected with my mother, and that’s when I learned about her family’s history. My great-grandmother was famous for her tea-leaf readings; people traveled from all around England’s countryside to consult with her. My grandmother devoted more than 50 years to managing her Episcopal church’s office. Though she may not have labeled herself “psychic,” when she prayed for people, miracles happened. My own mother struggled a great deal psychologically and emotionally. When I was small, she teetered on that fine line between genius and madness, often leaning toward the mad side, and relied on various psychological medications to cope with life.
She was thus amazed to learn how comfortable I had become with my own psychic ability, because like you, she had had many dark experiences, and she had prayed for her abilities to be “turned off.” It was probably a blessing that I wasn’t raised by her, because I probably would have absorbed her fear of psychic matters and pushed my own abilities down as well.
This is what has happened in your family. From one fearful generation to another, the belief/ expectation that psychic = dark has been passed down. So how did this fear get started in the first place?
First, it’s natural to fear the unknown. Children are afraid of the dark because humans have an innate, primal fear of what we can’t see, don’t know, aren’t familiar with, etc. It’s the same thing that makes children afraid of strangers. These fears are designed to protect us from harm.
We not only have a natural fear of that which is unknown, unseen and unfamiliar, but there are also “gatekeepers” designed to keep us from stumbling into realms and powers we’re not yet ready for. If these dark entities or frightening experiences send us screaming for the hills, it means we’re not ready to explore higher realities. Our fear protects us from getting in over our heads. Many people have had to face and “conquer” dark entities with light when their abilities were first developing, myself included.
It goes deeper than this, however. We have to remember that we are constantly creating our own realities. Where thoughts go, energy flows; what we focus upon and expect is what we manifest. Like attracts like, so if we are afraid, we will attract frightening experiences. This is why people who believe in psychic abilities tend to have psychic experiences. It’s also why people who are scared or who expect to have scary experiences will attract frightening entities and experiences. (This is perhaps why we are prevented from moving forward by gatekeepers: we must have the ability to consciously master our thoughts before we gain the ability to consciously manifest VIA our thoughts.)
Given all of this, it is clear that the only thing to fear is fear itself, for when you are no longer afraid, you will no longer have scary experiences. It should also ease your mind to know that what you experienced is normal and common, and that many gifted psychics were afraid when their abilities first opened. When I began opening psychically, I was generally feeling very vulnerable. I was young, pregnant, newly married, and living away from friends and family for the first time in my life. I had many frightening experiences as my abilities spontaneously came to the surface. As I learned more and feared less, my experiences shifted, and I’ve not had a frightening experience since.
There is a way to rise above this scary realm and thus enjoy only uplifting, empowering psychic experiences. The first step is to conquer fear, and to do that, we must make peace with it by remembering that it protects us, just as it protect children from strangers. At the same time, we have to view our fears with the wisdom of experience. Not all strangers are menacing – in fact, most are harmless, and some could prove to be great benefactors. The same is true with non-physical energies: some may seem evil, but most are harmless, and some are tremendously helpful.
Fear is also a sign that we’re stretching ourselves. A little fear is what I call excitement, while a lot of fear is a sign that we need to prepare more before we move forward. The fear itself is a helpful gauge for what we should do next. Though we may feel afraid, if we hide in the basement and avoid strangers for the rest of our lives, we’ll miss everything wonderful in life. Instead, we must learn about the world via experience, and develop discernment. This is what you and your family must do with your psychic abilities. Instead of hiding from them, you must learn about them and develop them consciously so you can be discerning.
To do this, developing psychics must raise their vibration, deepen their knowledge and understanding, and cultivate faith via general spiritual development. To move in this direction, please consider the following actions: study psychic and spiritual matters by reading the wealth of material available on this subject; make peace with your fear; purify your heart and soul by setting only high intentions, acting with integrity and compassion, conquering bad habits, healing anger and resentment, etc.; take a class with a reputable spiritual teacher; pray or meditate regularly; ask Spirit to guide you toward positive, empowering, enlightening experiences.
My own son is also 15 and very psychically gifted. Despite growing up with a psychic mom, he also had some initially disturbing experiences with non-physical entities. Fortunately, I was able to reassure him, clear his aura of dark entities, and teach him how to work with his own vibration to radiate light and thus attract higher experiences.
While you may not be able to help your son in this way due to your fear, there are others who can. Find a local Spiritualist church and contact a minister there for guidance. Allow your fears to be brought into the light, for the more light you shed upon these shadows – the more knowledge, faith and understanding you view them through – the more natural and positive your psychic abilities will seem.
In my view, this situation with your son is a wonderful opportunity to break a fearful chain of experience. Together, you two have the power to transform your family’s suffering into a wonderful legacy. If you conquer your fear and begin to embrace your abilities as divine gifts, they will begin to bring your family wonderful blessings for many generations to come.
– Soul Arcanum
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