Category: Spirit Communication


Can We Try TOO Hard to Communicate with Spirit Guides?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

In your experience, do you think that in trying to consciously connect with Spirit or our Spirit Guides, one can try TOO hard and miss the mark totally? I ask this because I make what I feel are real attempts to open myself up to Spirit, and don’t feel that I ever really do. Thank you for your insights!
Desma

Dear Desma:

Absolutely! We (including YOU) are actually in communication with Spirit all the time, but few of us are consciously aware of it. When we act on “impulses,” where do those impulses come from? When we have a “bad feeling” or a “hunch” about something or someone, where does that come from? Sometimes it is from our own intuition and inner knowing, but often it is from a source beyond ourselves.

If we “try too hard,” not only do we block ourselves from receiving what we desire, but we lock ourselves into our conscious, logical minds, which deafens us to our intuitive faculties. Psychic perception is about receiving, not about attaining. A radio does not have to try hard to receive a signal; it just needs to be turned on and tuned in.

If you think about it, you’ll realize that every psychic exercise begins with the same step: relaxation. This is because in order to perceive anything psychically, we have to alter our state of consciousness so that we’re in a day-dreamy “alpha state.” While this may not be wise if we’re driving a car or chopping vegetables, it’s ideal if we’re seeking communication with non-physical entities.

Further, when we “try too hard,” it’s like we’re at war with our goal. Instead of trying to conquer this challenge, we are wise to make love to it, play with it, experiment! If you’re hard on yourself, you’ll only lower your vibration, which will effectively prevent you from reaching that higher state wherein spirit communication is possible. Try to embrace a sense of anticipation, joy and gratitude about all the magic in the universe, the amazing things humans are capable of, how wonderful beings like guides and angels are weaving in and out of our experience every day. Try to get out of your head and open your heart and soul to Spirit. You can not logically find your way to what you desire here; you must let your heart lead you. While your head plays a key role in interpreting what you receive and in discerning fact from fantasy, you have to be willing to take an initial leap of faith and BELIEVE in order to receive the kind of proof logic demands.

Connecting with Spirit is a psychic ability, and psychic perception is not a science: it’s an art form. Like any creative process, you have to be willing to “mess up” – to be experimental in your approach.

Be light about it. You might begin by manifesting signs from Spirit that you’re on the right track, or that you’re capable of doing what you desire. Decide what your sign will be, ask with all your heart for Spirit to send you validation, and then begin to look for that sign wherever you go. Let’s say you decide you want your sign to be a “thumbs up.” As you’re flipping through the television channels, your attention may be caught by a basketball player giving a “thumbs up” to someone in the stands, or while driving you may see a “thumbs up” on a billboard, or a coworker may walk by and just give you a “thumbs up” to communicate that you’re doing a good job. These are proof that you are already dialoguing with the Universe. When you determine the form of the sign/communication, it’s much easier to spot. The more you acknowledge such experiences as meaningful, the more Spirit will say, “Hey, we’ve got her attention, send more, send more!”

I believe that many “coincidences” are not necessarily meaningful in and of themselves; they’re simply little wake-up calls to pay attention. For example, the other night when I left karate class with my husband, this total stranger struck up a conversation with us, and ended up massaging my neck and shoulders right there on the sidewalk. (He was showing my husband some great techniques). We walked on and several blocks and turns later, my husband introduced me to an old friend who was standing outside her store. In the five minutes we spoke to her, she mentioned that she used to be a massage therapist, but that now, “there is a guy doing massage on every street corner.” Zing!

The next day I was again at karate, talking with a friend about the power blackout last summer, and I thought to myself, “I’d better stop talking about this, or else the power will go out again.” An hour later my husband stopped by as I was leaving class to let me know that our power was out. The rest of the city was fine, mind you; only our neighborhood was out. Now, I don’t think I “caused” the power to go out. I think that I was nudged to think about the power outage before it happened. I realized then that I had been running my usual hectic pace through life on auto-pilot, and that Spirit had been trying to get me to stop and pay attention.

In addition to seeking signs like this, you might try just “making stuff up.” If you COULD connect with a spirit guide, what might he/she be like? Draw a picture or write a description and conversation with this spirit guide. It’s all based on what he/she MIGHT be like “IF” you could communicate with him/her. Honor whatever comes to you as VALID FOR YOU, even if you think you’re making it all up. (Even if you ARE making it up, it’s coming from SOMEWHERE. Just like dreams, it’s all meaningful and valid for you personally.)

The more you communicate with these deeper/other parts of yourself, the more your awareness will expand.There is a whole lot of clutter in our subconscious, waiting for our conscious awareness. This is why meditation is so powerful. It’s something you begin to do like cleaning your house: when your mind is all cluttered and crammed with stuff, it’s time to clear it out so you can see everything in your inner environment clearly again.

Begin to honor your hunches, impulses and intuitions. If someone pops into your mind, give that person a call or look around for them. I will know I’m going to see someone in an unlikely place because as I’m going along, that person will just pop into my mind. You often hear people say, “Oh my gosh, I was just thinking about you!” Begin to pay attention to your state of mind when things like this happen. I’m sure you’ll notice that you aren’t “trying hard,” but rather, are just going along in your life, probably doing something that allows your mind to “wander.” This is the state of mind you need to recreate to purposefully connect.

When you do try to consciously connect with Spirit, set your intention with your heart, not your mind. You can’t force your mind to do it, but you can wish with all your heart and succeed. Feel the desire to communicate with spirit burning in your heart, and allow the calm certainty of your faith to keep it in balance. You can RELAX while wanting if you believe you’re going to get what you want. That is the perfect state of mind and heart for receiving Divine guidance.

Above all, remember that if you don’t feel good about yourself, you’re going to lower your vibration right out of the psychic range. Frustration will only block you. The more gratitude and love you’re flowing, the higher your vibration, and the easier it will be to connect. Raise your vibration via meditation, prayer, a healthy diet, exercise, positive thinking, affirmations, etc., and it will be much easier for you to connect with Spirit.

– Soul Arcanum

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The Phantom Doorbell Strikes Again

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

My father died in 2001, and my little sister died on her birthday in 1995. She was very spiritual, like me. After my sister died, I felt a connection to her now and then, especially on her birthday. Here’s my question: almost every night between 2:30 and 4:30 a.m., I hear a doorbell that sounds like mine, and sometimes a knock. I get up but I see no one at the door. I am overweight and don’t know if I have sleep apnea, so I’m wondering if the noise I hear is to wake me because I’m not breathing. When I hear it and check, I feel it is real and someone is actually at my door.

Katharina

Dear Katharina:

I first heard about this phenomenon some twenty years ago when my mother told me she would sometimes hear the doorbell ring in the middle of the night and no one would be there. For a number of reasons, she believed this was someone in Spirit visiting her.

In the ensuing twenty years, I experienced all sorts of signs and contact from spirits but I never experienced anything like this. I had actually forgotten all about it when it happened to me for the first time. It was about a month after my father died, and I had been trying hard to contact him directly without much success. I was troubled because I’d assumed it would be easy for me to establish contact with him since I’ve been able to do so with so many other spirits. My father was not a believer in things like spirit communication, however, which may explain why it was harder to connect with him.

One night about a month after he died, I was sleeping and was suddenly awakened by the sound of the doorbell ringing. I sensed my father’s presence in the room, and then I remembered what my mother had told me years ago about hearing the doorbell. As I woke up fully, the experience faded.

My father still visits me in the same way every now and then. Sometimes the doorbell awakens me from a dream visit with him, or I just awaken with thoughts of him in my mind. He has also been known to pull off some amazing phenomena like making the phone physically ring so that everyone can hear it. The phone doesn’t sound normal when he does this; it sounds more like a British ambulance. He’s done this twice now, once on my birthday and once right after my mother and I had been talking about him for hours. On both occasions, when the phone was answered there was no one on the line; there was just a lot of white noise.

My point is that people have strengths and preferences for various forms of communication when they’re living, so it makes sense that spirits would be the same. I believe my father has a hard time connecting with me telepathically, and this is why he has to resort to other methods.

If you pay careful attention, you should be able to discern the difference between your doorbell actually ringing and the sound you hear in the middle of the night that sounds like your doorbell. I call this the “phantom doorbell” because the sound is to physical hearing as a specter is to physical seeing: it’s not wholly material or immaterial but somewhere in between.

This phenomenon is quite common, and also happens with other sounds that are designed to get our attention. Like you, many people report hearing a phantom doorbell ring in the middle of the night. Others hear the phone ring, knocking sounds or phantom alarms. Many also experience secondary phenomena, such as a strange smell which they may or may not be able to associate with someone in Spirit, or seeing ghostly figures, lights, or other apparitions.

What I find most interesting about this phenomenon is how it seems to be more and less physical in different situations. For example, when I’ve heard the doorbell ringing at my house, other members of my family have not, which suggests the sound was heard clairvoyantly. Many people report similar experiences and explain that even their pets fail to respond to the noise as they would if the doorbell were actually ringing.

In other situations, however, entire families have heard these sounds, sometimes when everyone was awake. Further, these events can be accompanied by other puzzling phenomena, such as hearing the voices of living people who aren’t present but happen to be in some distress at the time. Some folks have even set up recording devices to run throughout the night, and recorded phantom doorbells and other sounds that never woke them up. This means we may all have this happening while we’re asleep more often than we realize.

For the most part, however, this tends to happen in the middle of the night. This makes sense, because when we fall asleep, our vibration naturally rises, which makes us able to perceive subtler energies. Since most of the time the sound isn’t physical in nature, we have to be in an altered state of consciousness in order to be able to hear it. When we’re in between awake and asleep, we’re able to perceive things that are between this world and other dimensions.

I wouldn’t be surprised if you do have sleep apnea, for if you are frequently waking up and falling back asleep, you would be in alpha a lot, which is the perfect state of consciousness for extrasensory perception. Many people who have sleep apnea or other conditions/situations that cause them to awake many times throughout the night report unusual paranormal experiences.

As for why this is happening, it could be a warning to wake up because you’re not breathing properly. (Please see your doctor about the possibility that you have sleep apnea.) These events are often warnings to people that something needs their attention. For example, people have been awakened by a phantom smoke detector or fire alarm and discovered the house was on fire or some other emergency was occurring. Also, many people experience these phantom sounds when they have overslept and need to get up for an important reason.

Most people attribute phantom doorbell and related phenomena to visits from spirits, for in most cases, it begins after the passing of a dear loved one and seems to cluster around dates or other situations specific to that loved one in Spirit. For example, the last time this happened to me, I had prayed for connect with my dad in a dream that night.

Now that you know that this may be someone in Spirit trying to get your attention, it should be easier to take the next step of determining who it is and what they are trying to tell you. If you jump out of bed to go see who is at the door, you’ll pull yourself directly out of that alpha state and be unable to receive more psychic impressions. Instead, try to stay in that half-awake state and reach out with your awareness. See if you sense anything or anyone in the room. Pay attention to what may have been happening in your dreams just before you were awakened, and also to anything you may sense or find yourself thinking about. Ask questions in your mind about who or what is causing this phenomenon and see what pops into your head. If, for example, you have thoughts of your sister or your father upon first awakening, you may assume that they are visiting you and trying to get your attention by making this noise.

– Soul Arcanum

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Do Spirits Move Out of Range at Some Point?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I lost someone dear to me some time ago, and he has sent me some wonderful after death communications since he passed. Lately I’ve been hearing a song by Kelly Clarkson a lot. It talks about being “already gone” and “moving on.” I am wondering if this is a sign from Scott telling me that he has already gone on to higher realms and won’t be with me as much or send me as many signs and messages as he used to. I would love to get your perspective on this.

H.

Dear H.

I’ve looked up the lyrics to this song, and I think it’s a lovely one for a spirit use as a sign. I do think we should step back from your assumptions about what it may mean, however, especially since you don’t report any decrease in contact from him.

To me, this song suggests that what happened was destined to happen; Scott is telling you that it would never have worked out because he was destined to leave this world when he did. He knows how much you loved him but he wants you to move on with your life because he’s no longer here; he wants you to be happy and find new love. I lost my first love at a very tender age, so I know it can be very hard to even imagine falling in love with someone else, but you might look at it like this: What if you had lost someone else years ago, and as a result of that loss, you closed yourself off to new love and therefore never got to meet and fall in love with Scott? If there is someone out there you’re destined to love just as much, you don’t want to close your heart to him. While there is nothing wrong with wanting to connect with the departed, it does seem that the main reason spirits reach out to us is to make sure we are okay and encourage us to let go and move on with our lives.

No one truly knows whether spirits move beyond the range of communicating with the living at some point, but I can offer you what I’ve come to believe based on my own history with spirit communication and what I’ve read from researchers and other experiencers.

First, it does seem that there are some spirits long dead who communicate with humankind. (Whether these spirits are really who they say they are, no one can say for sure.) The more interested in spirit communication a person was before they died, the more likely they are to continue to attempt interdimensional communication after they leave this world. Some examples that come to mind include the EVPs of Konstantin Raudive and Thomas Edison. This evidence suggests that at least some spirits can communicate indefinitely.

In my experience, there are perhaps two main factors that affect the power and frequency of spirit contact: skill and need. When someone first dies, there is a tremendous need for us to hear from them. Despite this, spirit communication can be very difficult to affect at first for a number of reasons. For one thing, when we’re grieving, our vibration is too low to perceive higher frequencies of energy, so even though a spirit may be trying hard to reach us, we may be unreachable. Further, at first, most spirits don’t know how to achieve a conscious connection with us.

When dramatic phenomena does take place, it’s usually in the initial weeks following death. This is because the spirit still has more of a foothold in this dimension and is better able to affect physical reality. Recently departed spirits are also highly motivated because they want to comfort their grieving loved ones. Since it can be very hard for spirits to get the attention of the grieving, many go to great lengths to send unmistakable signs like lights flickering, phone calls from the other side and other semi-physical phenomena. As they move up into the afterlife, this ability fades. This is why we tend to see striking signs in the first weeks after someone has passed, after which signs and visits become more subtle.

Perhaps the main factor affecting how long a spirit puts a great deal of effort into contact is how his or her loved ones here are doing. This is another reason why most contact happens close to the time of death, for this is when people are most in need of comfort. However, I have heard many stories from people who had contact with a departed relative at a time of great need that occurred decades after the spirit’s passing. For example, one man’s mother had been gone for more than 25 years when she visited him the night before he was planning to kill someone and then take his own life. He awoke in the middle of the night to find her standing near his bed, telepathically comforting him and urging him to reach for forgiveness and choose a higher path.

In many cases, spirit communication actually picks up after a period of time. This is because many spirits need time to figure out how to bridge the dimensions. They also study their own efforts and from this determine who is most receptive to them and what tends to work best in terms of getting that person’s attention.

My best friend from high school died last spring. Despite many years of successful spirit communication experience, I found it impossible to contact her at first. I would reach out to connect with her energy and get nothing but a void. When I asked Spirit about this, I was reminded that my friend didn’t believe in an afterlife. I was made to understand that she was experiencing what she expected to experience when she died: a state of nothingness. In time, she would begin to wonder “who” was experiencing that nothingness and open up to new awareness. Interestingly, some months after she died, I began to get dream visits from her; recently, I got my first official message from her.

Similarly, I now interact with my father in Spirit far more than I could when he died five years ago. At first communication with him was difficult because he seemed so out of it. After a few months, I began to be visited by him in the night. I would wake to the sound of a “phantom doorbell” and sense his presence. Soon I began to experience dream visits from him. Though he died years ago, he seems to be getting better at visiting in this way, for it’s happening more and more.

While there are exceptions to these rules, most of the time overt signs such as visually appearing, calling on the phone and making lights flicker fade pretty quickly. After that, interactions can get more involved and complex via altered states of consciousness. So if you notice that you’re not getting as many outer signs, you might shift your efforts within by either trying to connect with your loved one via meditation or working with your dreams.

If you want to get more information about what your loved one in spirit is trying to tell you, you might try something called induced spirit communication in which a hypnotherapist guides you into a deep trance and facilitates a connection with the loved one in question. In this state, you can dialogue with your loved one and ask him what he’s trying to tell you and also if you can expect to keep receiving signs and messages from him.

Soul Arcanum

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Learning to Trust Your Psychic Abilities

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I have had psychic abilities over the years and have been able to predict the future for myself and a very close friend about 80 percent of the time. I usually only read for myself and her.(She is psychic but can’t read for herself at times.) I have trouble reading for others as I doubt my abilities due to insecurity. I have often missed opportunities for myself because I did not trust my ability. How can I get more faith in myself and the Universe? I know Spirit tries to get through to guide me but I feel I block it. Do you have any advice for me on all of this?

Karan

Dear Karan:

Trust plays a huge role in psychic ability. The problem is that this is something of a Catch-22: you have to trust your intuition for it to give you reason to trust it!

When I was in training to become a Spiritualist minister, trust was the biggest stumbling block for most of the students. At the school I attended, two main specialties were taught: energy healing and mediumship. Out of a class of about 30 people, only two of us were there to focus on spirit communication; everyone else wanted to be a healer. We had to learn both skill sets as part of the program, and the healers suffered all sorts of anguish over this because being a medium involves tremendous pressure to perform. Instead of channeling intangible energy, we have to produce verifiable information.

The two of us who wanted to be mediums differed from the others mainly in this matter of trust. We had already had a number of amazing experiences of spirit communication, which had convinced us that spirit communication is possible and that we were personally capable of succeeding at it. The main challenge our instructors faced in teaching the healers how to bring through information from Spirit was getting them to relax, let go of their fear of being wrong, and trust whatever came through.

There are four main aspects to successfully accessing psychic information. First, you must get into the right state of consciousness. Second, you must set a clear intention. Third, you must trust whatever comes through. Finally, you must be adept at translating clairvoyant, clairaudient, and clairsentient impressions into the answers being sought.

Many new psychics struggle because they aren’t even aware of the first step of getting into the right state of consciousness. They think that they can just mentally ask a question and receive an answer. This is a bit like randomly dialing a phone number and asking whoever answers what you are hoping to find out: to receive reliable information, you have to ask the right source. This is where good training can prove invaluable. In fact, when I am careful to shift my state of consciousness and get into a high vibration before tuning in, I always receive answers, and they always prove valuable and reliable.

Once you know you’re tuned in and you’ve set a clear, high intention, you have to trust what you receive. I’m sure every medium has had the experience of relaying something that seemed totally off the wall, only to have that information prove to be incredibly powerful and accurate. Following is one of the first experiences that cemented for me how important it is to trust what we receive.

I was reading for a woman who was grieving for her departed husband, James. I brought through lots of information about how he had passed and such, but the surprise came when I reached out for James and the spirit who stepped forward and answered my questions ended with the following: “Tell her that Jack sent the butterfly.” This seemed so “off” that I almost didn’t relay that part to her. I could hear my instructors telling me to trust, however, so I went out on a limb, wrote it down, and sent the email reading off to her with a hope and a prayer.

In her letter back to me, she described how she broke down sobbing when she got to that line, for she was sure that I was indeed in contact with her departed husband. Though his name had been James, his friends and family had always called him Jack. On the day of his funeral, she was calling out to him in her heart and mind and staring out the window at the bleak November morning when a huge butterfly appeared and hovered just on the other side of the glass. She thought this very unusual for November, and she had been wondering if this was somehow the spirit of her departed husband trying to give her a sign. I was so glad that I decided to trust what I was getting and pass it on!

Once you are in the right state of consciousness and your heart is centered on a high, pure intention, you are connected to a source of wisdom and information that is very reliable. Of course, sometimes you will receive intuitive impressions when you’re going about your everyday life and you’re not in this special state. When that happens, you can always check on their accuracy by shifting into this state of consciousness and then exploring them further.

You can also exercise your intuitive senses in small ways throughout the day. First you must be adept at controlling your state of consciousness so that you can quickly shift state and “tune in.” It’s also wise and powerful to program yourself to live an intuitive life. If you work with the law of attraction to manifest powerful psychic experiences and you program your subconscious mind to deliver psychic insights to you on a regular basis, you will begin to have all sorts of amazing psychic experiences. The more you cultivate your abilities in this way, the more your intuition will break through at seemingly random moments to deliver helpful information to you.

One powerful way to do this is to meditate each morning and set a psychic intention for the day. You can ask for a general level of experience or something specific. For example, you might ask your higher self and spirit guides to help you align with a smooth journey and a productive day, and to send you insights, intuitions and experiences in support of this aim. You could also ask for something more specific, such being led to the answer to a question or the solution to a problem. One thing I often ask is, “What do I most need to know right now?” Ask for insights and intuitions to come to you throughout the day to lead you to what you are seeking. The more important this is to you, the more powerful experiences will come your way in answer to your prayers.

To find out if your impressions are accurate, you have to trust them enough to act on them and then pay attention to what happens next. Sometimes you won’t see the evidence you’re looking for because too much of it is hidden behind the scenes. For example, you may sense that someone is upset, but when you question them, they may deny it. This doesn’t necessarily mean you were wrong. You may receive a nudge to take a different route home and never know why. You have to be okay with the fact that you may never know why you received a certain impression, and assume that somehow it was designed to help you.

Finally, if you are too hung up on being right or accurate, you will block yourself. Part of being in the right frame of mind is being beyond ego and in a light, easy, relaxed state of being. Instead of putting pressure on yourself, pray for what you desire and then relax and allow it to come to you.

– Soul Arcanum

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Exploring New Psychic Territory

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I’ve read many of your articles, and you seem to have seen and done it all when it comes to psychic matters. Do you think that’s true? Are you ever surprised by your experiences?
– Ron

Dear Ron:

Like everyone else on a conscious spiritual path, I go through periods when nothing really new is happening, and periods when all sorts of crazy stuff is going on. Recently I’ve had a number of experiences that rocked my spiritual belief system.

It seems this new phase began when my father passed away about nine months ago. I had some profound spiritual experiences at that time, but they were nothing all that unusual for me, given my work as a medium. Following his death, however, things got more interesting.

I should first explain that I expected far more from his spirit than I got. My father and I were close, and he loved his family with gusto. Though we didn’t share the same spiritual beliefs, I still expected that if anyone would make a grand effort to reach out to me from Spirit, it would be him.

I was therefore surprised and disappointed when he didn’t appear to me in a blaze of divine glory with elaborate tales of the afterlife. While I did receive some subtle impressions from him, I was afraid this was wishful thinking on my part, and when I did go looking for him in Spirit, I couldn’t find him! It may be important to note that while my dad was a very intelligent, kind, successful man, he also had some serious food addiction issues. Since I know that addictions tend to cause spirits to become earthbound, I began to worry.

About three weeks after he died, I finally had a dream encounter with him that seemed to confirm my concerns. (Please note that a dream encounter is not a typical dream; it’s clearly an actual interaction with a spirit in the astral.)

In the dream encounter, my dad was glued to my brother’s side like a Siamese twin. (My brother also has serious food addiction issues, and this made me worry that Dad was trying to feed his addictions through my brother.) In this encounter my dad was barely conscious, but he was trying to tell me something. I had to lean very close to hear him, for his voice was just a raspy whisper. I had the impression that he didn’t know how to communicate telepathically – like this was the first time he had ever attempted this from Spirit.

I could only hear one sentence, but what he said was definitely something my dad would say. He said, “Thank you so much for trying so hard to reach out to me from the other side.” His main concern was to make me feel appreciated!

Following this experience, I began to be awakened in the middle of the night by the sound of the doorbell. This is a classic way spirits get our attention: we’re awakened by the phone or doorbell, but there is no one there. Sometimes we believe the phone or doorbell truly rang, and other times (as in my case), as soon as we awaken, we realize that we only “thought” we heard the doorbell ring. (At the same time, however, it is more “real” than imagining it.)

While I had heard about such phenomena, I never expected this to happen to me. I assumed I would be far beyond such crude attempts to get my attention – after all, I’m a professional medium – I should be able to just dial Dad up any time I want!

Each time I heard this doorbell sound in the middle of the night, I would half wake up and then become aware of my father’s presence. When I roused myself completely and opened my eyes to physically look for him, however, I saw nothing. I learned that if I stayed in that half asleep mode, I would be able to feel him there. Again, this was really surprising, since I’ve had much clearer connections with other loved ones in Spirit in the past, not to mention hundreds of communications from virtual strangers in Spirit. I figured that my dad didn’t really know how to reach through from the other side, but he was trying hard.

I had several dream encounters with him over the following months. Recently, I’ve begun to meet with him nearly every night, and we have had some surprising exchanges. For example, a few weeks ago I dreamed that I was walking in a crowded hallway when I noticed him. This place felt like a nursing home or a hospital, and there were lots of “patients” milling around. When I noticed my dad, I turned to whoever was with me and said, “Oh my gosh! That’s my dad! I have to go talk to him!”

I went to him and hugged him, and I noticed that he didn’t look well. This really surprised me, and I realized that I had assumed that when we depart this world, we leave behind all illness and become radiantly healthy. I began to cry and express how much I miss him, when he quieted me and said, “Oh now, you know that this is not how to do it!” I knew that he meant that grief and sorrow are not appropriate for prolonged periods after a loved one dies, for they continue on, and we will see them again.

Some may argue that these are anxiety dreams I’m having, but I know they are not. I know the difference between a typical dream and an astral encounter, and these are definitely astral encounters. They have a different visual quality, they feel real, and we have literal, meaningful conversations. They also pack a lot of punch: I wake up moved by these dreams. I know I have been with my father, and we have truly communicated.

When I ask Spirit why my dad doesn’t seem healthy again, I hear that life (including the afterlife) is a journey of learning, growing, healing and evolving. If our illnesses and disabilities are limited to the physical, we shed them when we move on, but if they exist on a metaphysical level – if they’re part of our hearts, minds, and/or spirits – then they come with us, and we must heal them eventually.

As for other recent phenomena, I sometimes have striking spontaneous out of body experiences, which are always fascinating. I also frequently experience incredible “coincidences.” Many of these arise through my internet-based work. A number of times I’ve experienced something really strange and then read a story contest submission for Soul Arcanum that matched my experience, or which referred to specific names or other details in my experience. These “coincidences” are not born of looking for angels in the architecture: they’re of a striking and sometimes even a mind blowing nature.

For example, a couple of days ago I read an article that had been submitted as a possible future feature. In it, author Janis Amatuzio, MD, describes the events surrounding her father’s passing, and how a few days after he died, he sent her a sign through a song on the radio. The song arrived at just the right time, and it really moved her. The song was “In My Daughter’s Eyes” by Martina McBride.

I was bawling as I finished reading this article, because I had the EXACT same experience with my own father. Though I never listen to country music, when my father died, I was driving and crying and I asked him to send me a sign through the radio. I pushed the radio on, and that is the song that had just begun to play. The last lines are: “When I’m gone I hope you see how happy she made me, for I’ll be there in my daughter’s eyes.”

How did that particular article find its way to me? Did my father orchestrate all of this? Is it possible that somehow, the song I was sent was chosen because I would later receive this article, which would further validate this sign? Though my life is full of mind blowing serendipitous events, they never cease to amaze me.

Thanks for your great question, Ron. I certainly hope I will continue to explore new psychic territory for the rest of my life, and pray that your own world is rich with fascinating spiritual discoveries.

– Soul Arcanum

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How Can We Hear Spirit Guides Better?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

Why is it that when I ask my spirit guides for help, they don’t respond? Or maybe I should ask: What can I do to hear them better?
Thanks!
– Sydney

Dear Sydney:

First I want you to know that as you ask, Spirit IS answering. It’s like you’re emailing Spirit, and Spirit is shooting back an answer instantly, but your SPAM filter is filtering out this guidance along with a lot of other stuff you really want, but aren’t programmed to receive. You’re waiting for the answer, and the whole time it’s there in another file.

So throw out any idea or feeling you may have developed that someone in Spirit is letting you down and doesn’t care about helping you, or that you are somehow unworthy of receiving answers. Every one of us has guides on duty all the time, and those guides very much want to help us. We have only to ask and then know how to listen.

There is one basic reason behind all struggles with conscious communication with Spirit: mismatched frequency. We are abiding at a lower vibration than that of spirit guides. If we are water, our guides are steam – so we have to “speed up” to almost boiling while they have to “slow down” and start to condense in order to meet in the middle. This is of course just a metaphor for what is happening energetically. We have to move vibrationally into love and light in order to consciously connect with beings of love and light.

People are usually motivated to first connect with Spirit when they’re feeling very lost and confused. While this may seem natural, it’s generally a recipe for disappointment and frustration, which can become disillusionment, which just makes things even harder. These emotional patterns of experience then become negative beliefs that build big, thick walls between our conscious minds and input from Spirit.

So I recommend that anyone seeking contact with spirit guides only do so when they are in a very peaceful, uplifted inner space. Set yourself up for success! Classes and workshops are often the locations for such breakthroughs because the teachers of those classes know how to lead everyone into an altered state of consciousness, and how to raise their vibrations via methods such as guided meditations that are uplifting, healing and inspiring in content.

Once people have success with this and learn how to raise their own vibration at will, then guidance can be sought on “problems.” They still have to raise their consciousness to connect, however. So what you really want to know how to do is raise your own vibration. One reason that meditation is so universally prescribed for all spiritual goals is because when we RELAX, our vibration naturally rises.

People schedule readings with me when they’re having problems. They’re stuck in negative emotion, so they can’t consciously connect with their own inner guidance. The most common reasons I see for people not being able to consciously connect include: negative thinking, attachment, fear, doubt/skepticism and laziness.

I see negative thinking in folks who are focused on solving problems instead of creating what they want in their lives. As we focus on the problems, our vibration sinks, and we can’t see a better way.

I see attachment in those people who want happiness, but insist it must come through a certain person or channel. When we’re attached to details like this, we’re basically asking Spirit questions that are impossible to answer. (“How can I find happiness with Billy Bob?” The answer may be: “You can’t! If you want happiness, let go of Billy Bob!”)

I see fear in folks who hope they can talk to spirit guides but who are afraid that this is evil or will expose them to evil influences. They are telling the Universe: “Tell me! Don’t tell me! Tell me! Don’t come too close, you’re freaking me out!”

I see doubt/skepticism in folks who need to have evidence in order to suspend active disbelief, or who are so caught up in understanding things intellectually that they can’t hear/feel what Spirit is whispering in their hearts.

I see laziness in people who want Spirit to speak to them pronto, and don’t want to have to do anything for this to happen. Imagine that you speak English, and you’re trying to create a close relationship with someone who speaks Spanish. If you only call this person up when you’re desperate, you’re not going to be able to understand what they are saying to you. If, however, you talk to this person every day, then when you really need something, you can call up and really communicate. Learning how to consciously communicate inter-dimensionally is a great deal like learning another language. It takes some time, effort and devotion.

Once these hurdles have been cleared away, then we must remember that spirit communication is a subtle art. We have to watch for and notice subtle cues, interpret them, and trust them enough to act on them.

How those subtle answers will come through for you will depend on your primary modes of perception. Let’s say you decide to try meditation for communicating with your spirit guides. If you are visual, you may have visions in your mind of your spirit guides, or may be “shown the answers” on your mental screen. If you are auditory, you may “hear” answers in your head.

If you are kinesthetic, you may feel like you’re missing something. Kinesthetic folks tend to have the hardest time with recognizing conscious communication from Spirit. While others are seeing and hearing things, you may not see or hear anything, but you could actually FEEL a guide “touching” your aura, or just KNOW in your gut what you should do. This is valid communication, and should be recognized and trusted.

So as you’re meditating, I recommend you tell your Spirit guides: “Please show yourself to me.” If you don’t get anything clear, then say, “Please tell me that you’re there.” If you don’t “hear” anything in your mind, then say, “Please touch me in some way.”

You have to trust what you get. It’s normal to think you’re making it all up at first. Our spirit guides have been with us since we were born, so we have been receiving their guidance our entire lives. Sometimes we call that guidance our “intuition.” Sometimes we just know something, and we don’t know how we know. Many of the “little voices” in our heads and our “gut feelings” have been our spirit guides talking to us all along – we just thought they were a part of us.

Additionally, Spirit can and will guide us through mundane sources, especially if we are open to taking inspired action. For example, if you pray for guidance about your marriage, you may have an impulse to go to a certain movie or pick up and read a certain book, and find the answers you’re seeking embedded in the content. You may be talking to someone and hear them speak the answers you’ve been praying for. They don’t have to be conscious that they are channeling Spirit for this to happen. There are infinite ways for Spirit to answer us.

There are many great methods for communicating with your spirit guides. You can buy a guided meditation CD, take a class/seminar, try different divination tools, explore automatic writing, pray/meditate yourself, etc. I believe that ANY of these methods will work for you if you sincerely follow all of these basic steps:

*Tell Spirit you want clear answers/signs, and demonstrate that you REALLY want this by devoting yourself to the development of this communication on a regular basis.
*Raise your vibration by healing negative feelings and issues and centering yourself in faith, love, gratitude and joy.
*Pay attention to subtle signs and messages from all sources.
*Act on your impulses.
*Believe!

– Soul Arcanum

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Is Mediumship Born of “Wishful Thinking?”

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I have been taking psychic development classes and have had quite a few evidential experiences of Spirit. I am asking you what it takes to be a true medium. Is one born with the ability? Also, why does it take the death of a loved one to bring it out? Is it because the interest will not be there otherwise, or is there some wishful thinking going on?
– Debra

Dear Debra:

Thanks for these great questions. First I think we need to address the term “true medium.” What does this mean to you? Is it someone who brings through evidential information via spirit communication one time? Is it someone who sometimes receives spontaneous messages from spirits? Is it someone who at times can purposefully connect with certain entities? Or is it someone who can dial up individuals on the otherside at will and bring through names and other evidence whenever it is desired?

For the sake of clarity here, let’s call someone who has all the key potential traits a “natural medium,” someone who frequently exercises her ability to bring through evidential information a “gifted medium,” and someone who never outgrows her size 8 jeans a “true medium.” As you might imagine, a “true medium” is rare indeed. All joking aside, I’ve never heard of a medium who can at all times without fail bring through irrefutable evidence from any individual spirit desired.

Defining a “true medium” is thus a bit like trying to define a “true doctor” or a “true artist.” Every medium is unique. Some will be seen to have great gifts. Each one will have certain strengths, weaknesses, specialties, etc. Just as every work of art is unique, so is every communication with Spirit.

Further, mediums go through highs and lows just like anyone else. Sometimes I can bring through endless evidence from Spirit, and other times, this experience is elusive, and I don’t always know why. Sometimes my vibration is too low for some reason. Perhaps I’ve been thinking more negatively than usual, gotten caught up in worry, have not been taking care of myself in some way, or have become overwhelmed with commitments. (That last one often happens just after a period of great success with spirit communication, when my reading business takes off like a rocket with referrals!) Sometimes I think my vibration is actually too high: I’m not motivated to stretch for clear communication because I’m so at peace with death and everything else that I feel no need to strive for anything at all.

I find your questions about when and how mediumship develops to be the most interesting. In my view, mediumship is like any other talent or gift. A gifted athlete may be born with a lot of natural physical ability and perhaps the tenacious personality to strive for excellence. He will also probably have grown up in a family that encouraged and nurtured athleticism.

Similarly, a gifted medium may be born with a very high degree of sensitivity and a high spiritual vibration, which perhaps was attained in prior lives. She will probably also have a personality that is open, curious and compassionate. If she is raised in a family that supports and nurtures her psychic gifts, they will come to the surface at an early age.

Given the fact that most people in our culture either view spirit communication as evil or pure nonsense, very few natural mediums are raised in families that encourage this sort of endeavor. In fact, most young mediums quickly learn that their experiences with spirits freak even the bravest grown-ups out, which is very disconcerting indeed. They thus figure out a way to shut this aspect of themselves down. Given this hostile climate, if a natural medium is going to own her ability, it will generally not be until later in life.

Here is where your excellent question comes in. Why does it so often take the death of a loved one to discover one’s mediumship abilities?

There are a number of reasons that, when woven together, make a lot of sense. First, until we have to face death via the departure of a loved one, most people don’t give all that much thought to the afterlife, for it’s not something we really want to deal with. When someone we love dies, however, we naturally wonder where they are and if they are all right.

If this death is of someone very close, like a child, parent or spouse, then we may not be satisfied with the answers we receive about death and grieving from our cultures and religious traditions. We may need more: more information, more understanding, more help, more healing, more comfort and more reassurance. We may also seek more experiences with this person. We may refuse to let go. We don’t care if this freaks other people out anymore, and we don’t even care if we believe this is possible. Our emotional pain is so great that it can no longer be contained by the limits of our prescribed belief system.

We see this phenomenon all the time in emergency situations, as with a mother who is able to lift a car off of a child. She doesn’t stop and think about whether she can do it or not, she just knows that she HAS to. Once she’s done it once, the walls guarding her beliefs about what is possible will begin to crumble.

This combination of intense love, longing and grief is so powerful it creates seemingly “magical” experiences between those who are grieving and those who have passed on. This desire is so strong and pure that it breaks through all the barriers that prevent this sort of experience from being commonplace. Further, when we’re in a lot of pain, our loved ones in Spirit are also strongly motivated to make contact, so this intense desire for contact works from both sides.

Many a gifted medium’s first spirit communication experiences thus involve personal contact with a loved one who has died. It only takes one such experience to blow open the doors on what we believe is possible and launch us on this new journey called “mediumship.”

As I mentioned above, we also now have an ally on the other side – someone we were very close to and could probably communicate with very well. We have “contacts” in Spirit. Imagine that you’re up on a podium looking out at an immense crowd, but as a bright spotlight is shining on you, the audience is shrouded in darkness. If you wave or call out, you may or may not get any answer, as folks won’t know you’re talking to them. If, however, your departed mother is in that audience and you wave, she will probably jump up and wave back excitedly. If you call out, she will answer.

Once we believe spirit communication is possible, we still need a strong desire to make it happen again and again, just like an Olympic athlete needs a strong desire to maintain his abilities. While many mediums grow better and better with experience, some seem to fade in their ability. Most budding mediums are on fire to share what they’ve discovered with the whole world. With time, however, they are less and less amazed by their experiences with Spirit and more and more at peace with death, which causes their desire to bring through evidential information from Spirit to wane.

I struggle all the time to remember what it was like for me before I experienced all I’ve experienced with Spirit, and how devastating it felt to “lose” a loved one, so that I can remain passionate about helping others, and maintain a desire strong enough to fuel continued success.

Is it possible that spirit communication is sometimes wishful thinking? Absolutely. We’re always wise to test Spirit and to question all our experiences. Since we create our own realities based on our desires, however, everything ultimately happens due to wishful thinking. When your wish is strong enough, magic happens!

– Soul Arcanum

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The Accidental Medium

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I have sensed spirits and other energies around me for a long time now. I see spirits most often, and I try my best to be brave about it. This has been going on my whole life. I talk to as many people as I can about all of this, and rarely find anyone who has similar experiences. Sometimes I ask myself if I’m going insane, but more often I find myself wondering what it is I should do with this gift. I do feel a sense of emptiness like I’m not fulfilling something that I should be doing. I also have dreams that predict the future. My four-year-old son is having experiences of his own; he is talking about shadows and people around him that aren’t there, and telling me about them in great detail. I want to know why I have these abilities while people around me do not, and what I should be doing with this so I can better educate myself and help my son.

Matt

 

Dear Matt:

In order to answer you, I’m going to divide mediums into two different categories: those who are born with the ability to perceive spirits, and those who develop that ability through focused effort. For obvious reasons, those who are born with the ability tend to have a harder time with their psychic experiences than those who actively pursue psychic development.

The experiences of most natural mediums tend to follow certain patterns. Their ability to perceive spirits is usually present from birth, so when they learn to talk, they begin to speak of people that the rest of the family can’t see or hear. Sometimes this is frightening to the child and he will cry and tell his parents about a man or woman or monster who is frightening him. Sometimes, his experiences are wholly positive, and the parents will simply notice that he seems to have an imaginary friend with whom he chatters away. Usually, there is a mixed bag of both positive and negative experiences: they may start out positive, but if the child senses his parents are uncomfortable or frightened by the whole subject, he also gets uneasy or frightened, which opens him up to experiences of a more negative nature.

At that point, the child may start to reject interaction with spirits and seek a way to shut down his abilities. If this is accomplished, there will be a lull in psychic activity until adolescence, when it may flare up again. (Adolescence entails a surge of life force energy coupled with a tendency to deeply question and/or reject what we’ve been told, which naturally tends to produce spiritual experiences.) Unfortunately, because adolescence tends to be a time of great emotional turmoil, those psychic experiences tend to be frightening or negative in nature, which leads the medium to again try to shut them down. There are many, many natural mediums in the world who no longer perceive spirits because they found a way to shut down their abilities in the past. Psychic abilities that have been shut down can remain dormant indefinitely until something happens to trigger them again.

Of course, like you, there are some natural mediums who never tried or managed to psychically shut down, and they often feel just as you do: They wonder if they are crazy or losing their minds, and they have no idea why these things are happening or what they are supposed to do about them.

This course of experience is very different from that of a person who purposefully strives to develop their spirit communication abilities. These folks experience none of the inner conflict of the natural medium, for they very much want to be able to connect with spirits. They are almost always initially motivated by the personal loss of a loved one with whom they very much want to connect. Experiencing the pain and grief of losing a loved one also fills them with great compassion for the grieving and the desire to help others who are struggling with loss. Instead of spontaneously experiencing more spirit contact than they are comfortable with, these seekers must struggle and strive to experience any at all.

I imagine that natural mediums were all seekers like this in a past life; that they had a tremendous desire to connect with the spirit world and worked hard on developing that ability, and this is why they came into this life with that ability already in place. Frequently, natural mediums whose abilities have long been dormant become active spiritual seekers when something happens to trigger that desire; indeed, most gifted mediums have a good amount of natural ability that they have spent a lot of time and energy refining over the years.

It is also clear that genetics play a role, as you can see in the fact that both you and your son are natural mediums. Psychic ability seems to run in families, much like musical ability, athletic ability, and other talents. When this is the case, the question isn’t so much what you are supposed to do with your ability, but what do you want to do with it? There are many people in the world who have a lot of athletic ability who never had the drive or desire to become professional athletes, and that is perfectly okay. Just because we developed an ability in a past life or were born with the genes to excel in a certain endeavor doesn’t mean that we have to go in that direction now.

Desire and motivation are key here. To be a great medium, you have to have more than an ability to perceive and communicate with beings in other dimensions; you also need to have compassion for the grieving, a strong desire to help, and the willingness to live a life of service. So instead of asking yourself, “What am I supposed to be doing with this ability?” I encourage you to ask “What do I WANT to do with it?”

I think the key to all of this for you is your feeling of emptiness: that feeling that you are not fulfilling something that you “should” be doing. I am so glad you included that detail, for it is a huge clue that your inner guidance is trying to tell you something about all of this.

It could be that you are simply meant to learn more about how to control your abilities so you can help your son; perhaps he is the one who is going to apply his natural mediumship abilities to a life of helping others. Maybe, however, you are meant to move in this direction yourself and begin to put your natural psychic talents to good use by working with the grieving. If that feels right to you, then there are all sorts of ways to refine your abilities. The most time-honored methods and traditions can be found in the Spiritualist church, but as all paths are unique, it is really important to pray and ask to be guided to the best path for you.

I was once in your shoes: I was experiencing spontaneous spirit communication and didn’t know why or what to do about it. When I made clear, conscious decision to use my mediumship to help others, all I needed in order to do that began to show up in my life in wonderful ways. I recommend that you pray for guidance and dialogue with Spirit, and listen to that feeling/voice within you that has been pulling at you. This is your inner guidance system; it is how the divine will answer the questions burning in your mind and heart and lead you to whatever you personally need to know or do next.

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When the Recently Departed Haunt the Dreams of the Living

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

 

My boyfriend Billy died in a car accident a few weeks ago. His best friend, Kyle, was also killed; Kyle was the driver that night. Since they died, I’ve had some very long, intense dreams about Billy. In one dream, Billy and Kyle come to my house and I start crying and hug them both. Kyle tells me that they aren’t dead; I tell them that they are. They disappear and then Billy calls me on my cell phone, crying and saying that he is so sorry. He says he didn’t mean to leave me. In other dreams, I discuss with Billy and Kyle whether other people know they are dead, and whether or not we should tell them. In another dream, we go to a carnival and Billy tries to win me a stuffed animal, but all sorts of things prevent this from happening. Then we’re at a mall, going down the escalator. He makes it down before me. Billy: I beat you! Me: I didn’t know we were racing. I start going up the escalator and back down it as he tries to catch me. Me: I beat you! Billy: Didn’t you say you wanted sons? Children would make you happy? Me: I don’t need kids to make me happy. Being with you will make me happy.

Later we kiss. Then I’m standing in front of him. [In real life, Kyle’s dad has seen Billy wandering around his house, and I’ve been worried that this may mean that Kyle’s dad is going to die soon.] Me: Why are you wandering around Kyle’s house? Billy: I don’t know. Me: Is Kyle’s dad going to be okay? Billy: He is going to die tomorrow due to a low heart. Billy: I really want you to be with me right now but God said you can’t be with me yet. He runs from me to escape my desire to be with him. I chase him. He opens dark double doors that have a drop after them. I try to grab him and almost fall but stop myself and fall back into the mall. The doors slam shut. My best friend Gena (Kyle’s girlfriend) has had strange dreams about them too. In a dream a couple days after the accident, Billy told her to tell me that he loved me and I needed to be strong. I’ve also been seeing things out of the corner of my eye, felt like Billy was lying with me, felt him holding my hand, smelled him, and heard him say something. What do you think of all of this?
L.

Dear L.:

I believe Billy is trying very hard to make you know that he loves you and didn’t mean to leave you. First I’ll interpret these wonderful dreams, and then I’ll explore the bigger picture in terms of what I feel is going on with Billy and Kyle.

In my belief and experience, whenever we dream about someone who is departed, and in the dream we know that they are supposed to be dead, it’s a sign that we are actually meeting up with them in another dimension. We may feel confused about their presence because we know they’re dead, or we may actually have a conversation with them about the fact that they’re dead. In any case, if you’re conscious in the dream that they’re supposed to be dead, they’re not a dream symbol for something or someone else: this is a real visit with them in another dimension.

Your conversations with Billy and Kyle in which you discuss the fact that they’re dead, they argue with you, and you debate whether or not to tell other people are all very telling. These discussions suggest that for now, these two have yet to cross over and may still be in shock over their sudden departure from their physical bodies.

It’s my understanding that being in between life and the afterlife is very much like being in a dream. This should resonate with you given the experiences you’ve had with them in the dream state. In fact, being earthbound is probably like a very long, drawn out dream. Imagine yourself in a dream and someone tells you that you’re dead. You tell them that you’re not but then you think, Am I? Maybe I am… You’re not sure what is what here. I feel these two are still coming to grips with what has happened.

The dream where you go to a carnival and Billy tries to win you a stuffed animal suggests that you are both holding on to him being your boyfriend – the one who does things like win you stuffed animals. Yet he can’t be that person to you now, which is why one thing after another prevents him from succeeding.

I feel the dream about going down the escalator is all about going from one level of existence to another, and the fact that he beat you to the non-physical by dying when he did. When you then try to beat him and he asks if you don’t want children, he is basically saying, Don’t you want to go ahead and live a full life, fulfill your dreams, and catch up with me after that? He wants you to be happy and fulfilled. Your reply that you don’t want anything more than being with him is a natural way to feel a few weeks after your boyfriend was killed, and it’s because you’ve been feeling this way that he is trying hard to convince you to think about what you’ve always dreamed would make you happy.

Please know that you won’t always feel as you do now. I know it’s hard to imagine, but my own first love died suddenly at the age of 19, so I do know what I’m talking about here. I can assure you that there will be new happiness and new love in your future, and none of it will diminish what you feel for Billy or what you can have with him in other lives. In this dream, he is trying to talk you into finding the will to go on, allow time to heal your wounds, and try to live a happy life.

Regarding Kyle’s dad seeing Billy, this doesn’t mean he’s about to die. Instead, I feel it means that he WANTS to die. His heart is broken over his son’s death and if he doesn’t find a way to heal and the will to live, then he may indeed unconsciously do himself in. We see this all the time in lifelong couples: when one dies, the other isn’t far behind because the survivor doesn’t want to go on.

The part about God saying you couldn’t be with him yet is self-explanatory. I love how Billy is spelling everything out for you so clearly in these dreams: He is working hard to let you know that he still loves you, that he wants you to be happy, and that this temporary separation was not his choice. Then he does the noble thing and runs away so you can get back to your life here.

All of these dreams and experiences suggest that Billy and Kyle have yet to cross over into a new (after) life, most likely because they are worried about all of their loved ones here on Earth. They want to make sure that you are all going to be okay. Of course, they have their own strong attachments to you, and are trying to work through the realization that they have indeed died and need to move on.

I know that it’s hard to see the big picture right now, but I feel that all of this is going to change you in some very important, powerful ways. As a result of the amazing things that happened when my own first love died, I awakened spiritually, and I have had no doubt that there is life after death ever since. I would not be the person I am today and doing the work that I do had all of that not happened. Todd’s death led me to new awareness and understanding, deep compassion for the grieving, and a passion for spiritual exploration. While I still miss him, I have total faith that I will see him again and we will get a chance to live all we desire to live together. I believe that through all of this heartache, you too will be blessed with a new spiritual life. I pray you make the most of all the gifts of love and spirit Billy is trying so hard to give you through these extraordinary experiences.

– Soul Arcanum

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Spirits Can Take Many Forms

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My mother passed away unexpectedly, and we were very close. I’ve had no communication with her since she died, except one night, a ball of light appeared to me. It was beautiful and filled with what looked like sparkling white diamonds. When I looked at it, I felt complete joy. When I blinked, however, it was gone. Was this my mother? I would never have expected a spirit to look like this. Are there many different forms spirits can take when they appear?
– Joan

Dear Joan:

The ball of light you saw was definitely a spirit of some kind. It could have been your mother, or it could have been a spirit guide or another divine being that appeared in the wake of your mother’s passing to give you comfort and boost your faith.

Spirits can appear to us in many different forms. Usually when loved ones in Spirit come to us, however, they take a form we will recognize, or we “just know” it was them. This only makes sense, since the point behind such visits is to let us know that they continue on and are doing fine. Given the beauty and joy of this experience, what you encountered here sounds like a being of a high spiritual nature like a guide or an angel, though certainly departed loved ones of a highly evolved spiritual nature might appear in such a way.

There is something of a spectrum of spirit manifestations. At the low end are “ghosts” and earthbound spirits. In residual hauntings (where ghosts are not conscious of our presence or trying to interact with us), we tend to see things in our peripheral vision, but when we look in that direction, nothing is there.

Before I awakened psychically, my college roommate and I saw a ghost like this in an old house where we were babysitting. We’d catch a flash of a long skirt swishing around the corner, but when we looked in that direction, nothing was there. There were other phenomena as well; in particular, it sounded like big, heavy furniture was being dragged around the foyer in the middle of the night when no one was down there.

When entities are of a conscious nature and trying to interact with us, we are far more likely to either see them straight on or at least get a clear impression of them despite seeing them only fleetingly or in our peripheral vision. This happens because the spirits are actively trying to appear to us, but it takes a great deal of energy for them to manifest in physical form.

Also, our brains are constantly filtering our perceptions, but less so in our peripheral vision, so we may perceive something peripherally, but then when we look right at it, our brains filter out our awareness of anything that is a shock or challenge to our belief system. In my experience, these sorts of encounters tend to be frightening, either because the entity involved is of a lower nature or because we are afraid of such encounters to begin with.

The most common way to perceive our own loved ones in Spirit is in our dreams. I believe that all of us dream of our departed loved ones, but not all of us remember it. When we do, these “dreams” have a special quality. We feel we have actually been with our loved one, and usually, we are aware in the dream that our loved one is “dead.” We may even wonder at our ability to see and talk to them since we know that they have died.

Similar to this but a step closer to a conscious waking experience is something I’ll call a “waking dream.” Many people occasionally awaken at night to the presence of a departed loved one. They may actually see a vision of that spirit in the room with them, sense their presence, or smell something they associate with them. This is sort of like peripheral vision, in that we are not fully conscious, so our brains aren’t filtering out stuff it can’t make sense of. It’s like there is this little gap in our perception, and spirits that are trying hard to get through to us will take advantage of that gap by slipping in while we’re dreaming, and then rousing us from our slumber.

Often just spirits’ presence is enough to wake us, but if they are strong and skillful, they could do something like make a light flicker or the doorbell chime. Usually, however, this happens on an astral level, so we may awaken to a “noise” that sounded real, but not be sure if we heard it with our physical ears or “in our dreams.”

Finally, when our own vibration is high enough and we are psychically awake enough, we may have a fully conscious, waking encounter with a spirit. This is what it sounds like you had. In such an encounter, there is never a sense of fear, but rather a sense of profound peace.

When we’re in this state of heightened vibration and awareness, we may hear a spirit talking to us. This may seem like it is physically audible, but most of the time, it happens mentally. Sometimes, however, there is a short burst of physical phenomena in the beginning to get our attention.

For example, we may hear a spirit whisper our name, which draws our attention. Since the spirit can’t maintain the energy that physical phenomena require, however, the experience will seem brief and inexplicable if we’re unable to tune in to what is happening metaphysically. If, however, we know how to use our psychic senses, we can shift into an altered state of consciousness to prolong the experience on a subtler level.

The initial attention-getting event can be a smell, a touch, a vision, etc. For example, we may perceive something like your ball of light or energy. In fact, this is just how I perceived spirits of departed loved ones early on.

The first time this happened, I was sitting on the floor with my one-year-old son and thinking with great love about my grandmother. Just as a feeling of her presence came over me, I saw a big ball of purple energy hovering in the air above us. The fascinating thing is that as this happened, my infant son looked right at that spot and stared at it just like I was doing, even though his back was to me.

I have perceived spirits as balls of colored energy like this a number of times, and perhaps more commonly, as transparent energy that is similar to heat waves rising off of hot pavement. Always these visions are accompanied by the feeling of a spirit’s presence.

It’s important to note that with time, I have perceived spirits less and less with my physical eyes, and more and more on an inner, mental level. I believe this is because the more physical the phenomena, the more energy it takes for spirits to appear. I imagine it’s a bit like paying for something you want: if spirits can communicate with me for $2.00 worth of energy, why would they pay $20?

Sometimes spirits do expend more energy, however, and that’s to convince us. So often if we just “see” or “hear” a spirit in our minds, we doubt the experience and dismiss it as wishful thinking. When we do this, we really make our loved ones work hard, and sometimes they just don’t have the power and skill to come through to us in a more physical form.

While many people long for a sign from a departed loved one, few realize that there are things they can do to help spirits fulfill their desires. For starters, they can learn how to perceive spirits’ presence, and trust in their subtle experiences so spirits don’t have to work so hard.

I believe that your encounter was meant to affirm for you that spirits really do exist, and thus your mother must continue to exist as well. I also believe that if you cherish this experience and let it boost your faith in such matters, it will empower you to manifest another spiritual encounter that erases any doubts in your mind and helps you heal your grief over your mother’s passing.

– Soul Arcanum

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