Category: Psychic Ability


Psychic is Plagued by Jealousy

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I am highly psychic and can often tell what other people are feeling or going through. Most of the time this is a good thing, but lately, I fear it’s going to ruin the otherwise wonderful relationship I have with my fiance. The trouble is that I can tell when he is attracted to another woman, which happens frequently. When I tell him that I can tell when he is checking someone out even when he tries to hide it (and he’s really good at hiding it), he usually lies about it. I can then tell that he’s lying, and at that point, we usually get into a big fight. I’m starting to wonder if I should marry him or not, for he is attracted to other women and dishonest about it, and both of those things are driving me crazy. I would love to hear your spiritual advice on this one!

Brooke

Dear Brooke:

I know just what you’re talking about, for I can sense when my husband is attracted to another woman as well as how it feels to have him lie to me about it. We’re pretty much at peace with this issue these days, so hopefully, my own journey will prove helpful to you.

First, you’re probably right in your intuitions that he is indeed attracted to other women, for our instincts are particularly sharp when it comes to protecting our “territory.” Further, if he wasn’t interested in beautiful women, he wouldn’t be in a relationship with you to begin with. People who love to garden don’t admire just one kind of flower; if they have an eye for beauty, they look for and see the beauty in all of nature. They may have a favorite kind of flower, of course, but just as we couldn’t expect a rose gardener to stop finding tulips and daisies delightful, we can’t expect a person to stop finding other people beautiful just because they’re in a committed relationship.

Speaking of that commitment, it would be easy to be faithful if we never found anyone but our partner attractive. What makes commitment so meaningful is the fact that we do find other people attractive but we choose to refrain from acting on those feelings in order to focus our time and attention on the person we’ve decided to put first in our lives. So making a commitment is not about losing attraction for everyone else; we just choose to resist those fleeting desires in order to safeguard something we deem to be more important.

If you want to be a happy psychic, you’re going to have to find a way to raise your vibration in order to see the divine beauty and perfection in everyone you meet, for you’re going to see all the “unacceptable” stuff we’ve been conditioned to hide from others’ view.

This brings me to my key point, which is that we can’t help how we feel. Your fiance lies to you when you confront him about checking out other women because he feels attacked, and also because he doesn’t want you to feel slighted. Since your fiance can’t help how he feels any more than you can stop feeling jealous, what can you do?

First, it’s important that you don’t repress your feelings, for then you will start to act in “crazy” ways and things will just get more confusing. We’ve all been down this road before, where we try to repress or deny our anger only to totally lose our temper over something insignificant. Repressing our feelings doesn’t get rid of them; it just lets them fester and slowly poison us from the inside out. Further, if you decide to try to hide how you are feeling, you will tend to pull back while you process, and may even try to love him less in order to protect your heart. This is not the answer if you want a vibrant, fulfilling relationship.

The key to a warm, intimate bond is for both of you to feel free to feel how you feel and let your feelings show. This will also naturally lead to personal growth and healing. To feel connected to each other, you must feel safe to gently express how you feel and he must feel the same. This doesn’t mean he has “made” you feel as you do; in fact, it’s important for you to tell him that you don’t expect him to make you feel better and that this is your own issue – you just need to express how you’re feeling in order to feel close to him. If you can lovingly tell him that you know you are feeling this way because he is so important to you, all the better.

When we stop trying to blame one person for being wrong, relationship dynamics get much lighter. We have gotten to the point in my marriage where I can indicate that I’m feeling jealous in a light and playful way because I know it’s my own issue. When I take this approach, my husband wisely chooses to see this as a sign that I really care and usually responds by reassuring me that he would never want to lose me either.

Instead of viewing jealousy as a sign of trouble in an otherwise wonderful relationship, we’re wise to stop when we feel insecure and look at our upset as a sign pointing toward some fear or issue we are being personally called to work on. When we feel jealous, it’s because we’re afraid of losing our position in someone’s heart; we’re afraid they will find someone they like better than us, and we will be alone or things will change for the worse.

Here’s the deal: everything changes, so resisting change is a recipe for suffering. Further, nothing lasts forever except for true love. Only when we make peace with this truth are we able to really love and build a deep connection on a soul level, for we can’t mandate that someone love us as we want to be loved, and when we try, we usually just destroy whatever love was there to begin with.

It is wise and empowering to trust that whatever happens, all is well. If we stay together for the rest of our lives, that is good; if we don’t stay together for the rest of our lives, that must also be good, for everything happens for a good reason. Getting past fear by finding faith in this truth empowers us to love from love instead of from fear, and then our relationships become blessed and harmonious.

So to truly love another person, we can’t come from fear and a sense of needing them. As nothing lasts forever, we’re wise to give thanks for the love and blessings in our lives today and make the most of them. This approach tends to keep relationships warm and growing. When we cling to someone out of fear, we become like a parasite, strangling the relationship. This is what happens when someone is constantly jealous and angry: instead of drawing others close, they drive them away because they aren’t coming from love but from fear and self-concern.

Instead of trying to ferret out and forbid your fiance’s attraction for everyone but you, I recommend you make peace with your jealousy as well as your fiance’s natural attraction to the beauty around him, whether that beauty is in a sunset, a flower or another woman’s figure. To expect him to be open to your beauty but closed to the beauty in every other female is unreasonable. When people demand this of their partners, they may get it, but at the expense of their partner’s attraction to them as well, for the partner closes down and stops looking for beauty in general because he has been conditioned to associate feelings of attraction with being punished.

When someone beautiful comes along, you can let your own beauty shine through by admiring them too. Look for the beauty in what your fiance finds attractive and try to appreciate it. Above all, remain thankful for the fact that even though your partner may find other people beautiful, he is choosing to just watch them pass by while he makes a life with you.

– Soul Arcanum

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Napping Your Way to Greater Psychic Awareness

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I am sensitive and am aware of it. On two occasions I’ve seen a man but I’m unsure if he’s a spirit or a guide. Both times I was in the same location, and both times all he did was lean over and look at me. I was napping both times but in different rooms of the same house. I would open my eyes like someone called me and he would be there leaning over me, just looking at me. He doesn’t say anything and I don’t feel scared. The last time I asked him who he was but he didn’t answer me. Who is this man? Is he a guide of mine just checking in or perhaps a spirit stuck in my home? I’d like to know what he wants. If there’s something he needs help with, I’d like to try to help him. If he’s just checking on me, it would be nice to know who he is. I have a brother and other relatives who passed before I was born. I would not recognize them if I saw them so I don’t know if this could possibly be one of them. Any insight would be helpful, for I am at a loss.

Marybeth

Dear Marybeth:

What you describe doesn’t sound like a spirit guide; in fact, I have never experienced or heard of spirit guides appearing in the manner you describe. I’ve heard many stories of angels appearing to be as physically real as living people, and I’ve heard stories about ghosts and spirits appearing as solid apparitions or ethereal forms, but I’ve never heard of a spirit guide manifesting in outer reality like this.

The interactions I’ve had with spirit guides and those I’ve heard about others experiencing have taken place on a psychic/inner level. I’ve never seen a spirit guide with my physical eyes or heard one with my physical ears; instead, spirit guides appear like characters in our minds, much as we may imagine well-developed characters when we’re engrossed in reading a novel. We may have a vague sense of how they look, move and sound, but the entire experience is mental. Imagine that a beloved character from a novel stops whatever he or she is doing in the story, moves to the forefront of your mental screen, looks at you and begins to dialogue with you. That is sort of what it’s like to interact with a spirit guide.

While the spirit you describe certainly could be a typical friendly ghost, there are other possibilities to consider. I would rule out the possibility of a residual haunting because this entity seems to be cognizant of your presence and actively seeking you out to observe or interact with you, and because these events have occurred in different places. You are clearly dealing with a conscious being as opposed to a stain on the fabric of space/time.

It’s hard to say if this being is trying to interact with you or if you’ve simply gotten lucky in catching it when you have. It definitely makes sense that you had these experiences when you were napping. In fact, napping is a powerful way to explore altered states of consciousness.

When we sleep at night, we are usually so tired that we don’t linger in the alpha states of mind that allow us to consciously explore subtle realms and energies. Similarly, when we get up in the morning, most of us awake to an alarm and have to quickly move from a sleep state to full waking awareness. When we sleep in on the weekends or we nap, we can drift in and out of different states of consciousness and spend lots of time in that magical place between being fully awake and asleep. This is when interesting metaphysical experiences tend to occur such as spontaneous out of body experiences and interactions with metaphysical beings like the one you describe.

It could be that this spiritual being is often present and observing you and perhaps trying to interact with you but you aren’t usually aware of it because your consciousness is so centered in physical reality. However, it could also be that this being is aware of when you are in an altered state of consciousness and is purposefully seeking you out at those times. Since you feel like someone is calling your name just before you awake, it certainly sounds like he is seeking you out and trying to communicate with you.

Some of the more unusual and intriguing possibilities regarding this being’s identity include the notion that this is a traveler from another dimension of space/time as opposed to the spirit of someone who died and somehow got stuck between planes, which is how we typically view ghosts. For example, this could be someone from the so-called past or future who is in or near your home and in an altered state of some kind. Imagine that someone who lived near there before you or will live there in the future is <q>dreaming</q> about seeing you napping. It could also be someone who is exploring the astral who came upon you or was drawn toward you because you were sending out a signal that you were in a state of mind conducive to conscious interaction. This could be someone from nearby (such as a neighbor) or someone from a distance. It could also be someone from another time who is traveling out of body. The possibilities are endless!

I have even heard stories of people being visited in a very similar way to what you describe by themselves – by their own selves from other lives or other times in this life. Sometimes people are visited by their future selves with some sort of message or warning. In those cases, it usually happens that the future self has learned to travel inter-dimensionally and has purposefully gone back to help or guide their younger/other self.

Of course, as you suggested, this could also be a relative or loved one who died some time ago or even a loved one from another life/dimension – someone you’ve not known in this lifetime who is adept at inter-dimensional travel and is checking in on you.

So not every apparent “ghost” is in need of help. I think we’ve all been led to consider just a fraction of the possible explanations for experiences like those you describe. We tend to view all spirits as either trying to help us or in need of help, when in fact they may not have any pressing need or agenda. By imagining ourselves traveling out of our bodies, curiously exploring other realms, we can see how it’s easy to read too much into such encounters.

To learn more about this being, you have only to further develop your ability to enter the state of consciousness you were in when these encounters occurred. To facilitate this, try to recreate the same circumstances. Lie down at the same time and place and either take a nap or begin to take a nap. Ideally you don’t want to sleep; you want to hover somewhere between being awake and asleep.

As you do this, try to both relax your mind and body and at the same time focus on this spirit. If you open your heart with a feeling of love and good will, it will encourage you to have a positive experience no matter what happens, and it may call this spirit close. Flowing loving energy toward a particular being is sort of like ringing a bell or sending out a homing signal in the astral.

If you fail to encounter this spirit again, most likely these were just casual run-ins with an inter-dimensional explorer. Even if that spirit doesn’t show up again, you are sure to have other interesting paranormal experiences as you develop your ability to enter these special states of consciousness. By relaxing in this quiet state of mind you are performing a form of meditation, which will naturally lead to the development of all your psychic senses as well as countless other benefits.

– Soul Arcanum

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Do Clients Influence What Psychics See?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

What do you think influences a psychic the most when doing a reading: what the client wants to hear, what will be good for the client, or the truth/reality? I recently took action that went against what a psychic had seen and the advice she’d given me. I have no doubt that what I’ve done is in my best interests at this time, yet I don’t necessarily think the psychic was wrong. Do my actions demonstrate how free will can change a previously foreseen course, or might my actions still be in line with what the psychic saw somehow? Might the purpose in all of this be for me to learn a particular lesson, and would the psychic know this to be the case but not share it?

S.

Dear S.:

There are so many factors that come into play here that my best answer is “it depends.” If a psychic takes charge and maintains a strong, clear intention, then her intention will prevail. Not every psychic sets such an intention, however; some just try to answer the questions posed to them. In those cases, the client is really leading the reading and will have a greater influence on what is seen. Of course, some psychics are also more skilled and gifted than others. Since some only read their clients’ energy, when the client is emitting a strong signal, the psychic may pick up on that and mirror the client’s hopes and fears back to them.

To produce a truly healing, empowering reading, a psychic must be able to shift into a high vibration where things can be seen in an objective light. At this level, the attachments people form to specific outcomes fall away. Not all psychics are capable of this level of vibration. If the psychic has any fear, such as fear of displeasing the client or fear of being wrong, it will influence the quality of the reading and what is seen.

Naturally, psychics are people and everyone has good and bad days. The best psychics are so experienced at getting into the vibration necessary for excellent reading work that they can do it almost anytime and anywhere. This is like the difference between an Olympic athlete and a high school athlete. Just as an Olympic athlete knows how to consistently “bring it,” the best psychics have the skill, experience, training and development to know how to produce excellence 99% of the time.

To do this, the psychic has to remain in charge of the reading and ask the right questions on her end. I won’t even schedule a reading until I feel I can truly be of help to someone because the right questions are being asked from the right frame of mind. When someone poses a question that is rooted in fear or ego, I work with them to align with a higher level of experience before moving forward.

When what psychics see is in line with what their clients want to hear, readings are relatively easy and straightforward. When there is a clash between what the client thinks she wants and the way things are heading, there is always a way to communicate the truth, but this can require a great deal of wisdom, love and skill. It can be hard to love someone rooted in negativity into a higher perspective, but a sincere reader who is flowing divine love can work healing miracles.

I do relay all that Spirit gives me for a client, but that doesn’t mean the client will be able to hear it at that time. Often it is only in retrospect that clients understand the full wisdom and power of a reading. In fact, when dialoguing with clients after a reading, I’m often struck by what they focus on and what they filter out. I may hear from people months and even years after a reading who tell me that at the time, they couldn’t hear all of what the reading was saying, but they came to appreciate its wisdom and see the lessons they were in the process of learning.

Of course, clients and psychics do attract each other because they are on the same wavelength or because there is something to be learned or gained from the experience. For example, one of the first psychic readings I ever had was terrible and yet it blessed me nonetheless. I had seen a medium giving messages who stood out as really different. Where most mediums are gentle, loving and compassionate, this medium was comical and quite a show-woman. Though I felt a little intuitive hitch when I thought about pursuing a reading with her, I liked how different she was, so I went ahead.

At the time, I was interacting with spirits daily and having one mind blowing psychic experience after another, so I asked her about my own psychic potential. Her response was that I wasn’t really all that psychic and would never be a successful spiritual counselor. She then proceeded to talk about herself and her own dreams for the next half hour.

When I left, I was disappointed in myself for choosing such a terrible reader. How psychic could I be to have chosen her? Then I began to look for the good in the experience and a couple of insights came to light.

First, since I was overwhelmed by all the amazing psychic experiences I was having, maybe she was wrong. By using the psychic senses she had denied me even having, I figured out that she was ego-driven and threatened by anyone else being psychic. I then realized that it was time to stop giving my power away to other supposedly wiser people, and trust my own inner knowing. This proved to be a major turning point for me.

Second, this reading was such a vivid example of what NOT to do as a psychic that it motivated me to become the sort of reader I wished she had been. When I realized how much I had learned about how to give a good reading from watching her give a terrible one, I laughed out loud and decided my money had been well spent.

I share this story because it illuminates a couple of key points. First, we must always listen to our own inner knowing above all. Ironically, when a psychic’s advice or predictions strike us as off, it can make us much clearer about what we already know deep down inside, so both a really bad and a really good reading can help us find new clarity.

Second, if a psychic says something that doesn’t feel right or prove true, it can still be just what we needed to experience by mirroring our vibration, answering a bigger question, fulfilling a deeper need, shifting our course or changing us in some important way.

As everything comes back to the law of attraction, the quality of your reading experience must somehow be a match to your vibration. Many times people consciously think they’re ready to hear the whole truth but their egos are limiting and distorting things. When you’re aligned with receiving clear guidance from Spirit, it can and will come to you through all sorts of channels, a psychic reading being just one obvious option. Often people have only to articulate what they really want to know in a reading for the Universe to begin sending answers to the longings and questions in their hearts.

Finally, the best psychic readings are not those that accurately predict the future but those that empower you to shift course if need be in order to create what you want. If you make new choices in light of psychic advice and end up in a better place as a result, the reading has served you well.

Soul Arcanum

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Is She Psychically Scarred?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

Throughout my childhood, my mother told me that I would sit in random places around our home and talk to spirits. She never liked this, and I would get punished whenever I was seen doing it. One June when I was six years old, there was an incident with these spirits that caused my body to convulse and me to scream for hours on end. This happened every June after that until I turned 12. When I was seven, I developed my own mental independence and broke from my family’s religion to explore the spiritual world. I didn’t fully start studying until I was 12. Now I seem to have weak psychic protection. Could my past have done something to spiritually scar me? Is there anything I can do about it? I can hear spirits and speak to them, but I can’t feel if they’re ‘good’ or ‘bad.’

Dema

Dear Dema:

When people experience unexplainable phenomena on the same date year after year, they are usually reliving a past event. When no cause can be remembered, odds are good that the event occurred in a past life. Often this past life event involves an untimely death in the life just prior to this one, though it can also stem from any traumatic experience that has yet to be fully healed and released.

It’s interesting that these annual “fits” stopped when you began to study the spiritual world. Perhaps making your own spiritual way brought you into your personal power, or perhaps the past experience you were reliving was related to following a spiritual path that wasn’t right for you. For example, if you were tortured and killed by the Catholic Church in a past life, and your parents were Catholic, you may have experienced these fits until you broke away from the Church.

I almost never perform psychic reading work in this column, for it’s meant for general spiritual advice, but I’m feeling called to take a look at this for you.

When I focus on what you describe happening to you as a child and ask to be shown where it was coming from, I see an institutional setting with tiled walls. The tiles are the sort of pale green of disposable surgical gowns. I see you as a patient there. I see this metal thing on your head, and it’s clear that you’re receiving electric shock treatments. There is something in your mouth like a leather strap that you’re biting on. You are definitely resisting, screaming and thrashing around – and who could blame you?

Now the whole picture is coming into focus. I’m being made to understand that you could perceive and communicate with spirits in that life also, and this is the main reason you were considered ‘crazy.’ You had trouble discerning the quality or nature of spirits then too, and thus you were influenced by spirits of varying natures. I’m seeing spirits trying to influence you in negative ways, and also spirits that were trying to help you. This led you into tremendous fear and confusion, and led to behaviors that we now associate with the label ‘multiple personality disorder.’

This is such a sad picture, for what you really needed was spiritual help, but since no one understood what was happening, you were sent to this institution and subjected to torturous ‘remedies.’

It’s also interesting that you were punished for interacting with spirits when you were a child, for in a way, you were punished in this past life for the same thing. I feel that it was the combination of your spirit interactions and your mother’s fearful attitude that reawakened the energies of this past life. I’m also seeing that these convulsions you went through were much like the convulsions of the electric shock treatments, but in this lifetime, I see them as healing in nature: by re-experiencing them, you were bringing those old energies up to be released and healed.

While no one can say for sure why this happens, it remains true that by bringing buried wounds and issues into our conscious awareness, they can be instantly resolved. It sounds like this was the aim of these childhood experiences, and when you chose to not take on the negative judgments of your family and began to seek your own truths and understanding, you learned a big lesson that you had been working on for more than one lifetime. This empowered you to break free from this old pattern. It may help you to pursue regressive hypnotherapy in order to bring up memories of this past life or any other past experiences that may still be causing you problems so you can fully integrate and release them.

Please don’t take anything I’ve written here to suggest that you are now mentally unstable or flawed in any way. In fact, I see that you have made tremendous progress in dealing with your psychic sensitivity since this last life, and in cultivating your own spiritual wisdom and power. You are still in the process of strengthening your psychic skills and boundaries, of course, but when I ask how you’re doing with this, I see a jig-saw puzzle that is about 85% complete.

As for why you still have trouble discerning good spirits from bad, this is the last element of your sensitive psychic make-up that you’re working out. This is something very common in people who are psychically sensitive who have been raised in negative environments and have yet to fully embody their own higher natures. You see, when we grow up in negative or abusive households, or are generally surrounded by people of a low vibration, this low energy becomes ‘normal’ to us. The more we embody and surround ourselves with positive vibrations, the more obvious it will become when something negative enters the picture.

All of this vibration stuff is relative, of course. If you’re accustomed to living in an immaculate house where there is absolutely no clutter and everything is always in its place, then if you come home and there is new junk on the counters, tables and floors, you will immediately notice it and be disturbed by it. If, by contrast, you grew up in a pig sty where everything was always dirty, cluttered and chaotic, then new junk would probably blend in with the old, as would items of value.

Our spiritual vibrations are much like these houses. When we cultivate a very high, pure vibration all of the time, we naturally attract higher energies and entities and this becomes normal for us. Then if lower entities try to slip in when the door has been left open, we immediately notice it and know that we must take action by raising our vibration to clean our energy up.

There are lots of things you can do to cultivate a higher vibration as well as strong psychic boundaries. For more on this and related subjects, I recommend the following articles:

Developing a Strong Psychic Immune System 
Can One Be Open to Only Positive Spirits? 
Discerning the Source and Quality of Psychic Perceptions
Sorting Dark Spirits from Light and Other Confusing Psychic Matters
Spirits and Multiple Personality Disorder

I hope this column launches you toward new peace and personal power, my friend!

– Soul Arcanum

 

 

 

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Sorting Fears from Intuitions

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

There are times when people can feel like their ‘gut’ is telling them something about a situation. The stomach curls up and they may start to feel light-headed when having an intuition about some possible danger. When I was younger, my intuition was usually spot on. These days, most of my intuitions turn out to be nothing more than fearful ideas and worries about various subjects. How can we sort our fears from our intuitions?

Marc

Dear Marc:

I’ve noticed something about fear and intuition that seems a bit ironic: young people are often more psychic/intuitive than older and supposedly wiser folks! Even people who demonstrate remarkable psychic gifts when they are young can lose them over the years if they succumb to fear and become too careful about life in general. Young people tend to fear death and other disasters less than older people, so they take more risks and live on an edge where more things are possible. Their vibrations tend to be higher because they’re full of life and desire instead of fear and worry. So I’m not surprised to hear you say that you used to be more intuitive, and now find it hard to sort your fears from your intuitions.

Sorting fears from intuitions is really tricky because we talk about intuitions as ‘gut feelings,’ but intuitions aren’t emotions at all. Even when we get spontaneous warnings of danger, they aren’t delivered with fear; fearful feelings may follow the intuition, but they aren’t one and the same. Unlike fears and worries, clear, accurate intuitions generally don’t come with any emotional kick to them; the information feels more like watching a movie or hearing a story. While it may contain some emotional information, our own personal reactions are a step or two removed from the message.

Intuitions aren’t thoughts either; you can’t reason your way to intuitive insights. Where worrying is linear (if A and B happen, then C may follow), intuitions are like holographic capsules of sudden awareness. In fact, they often don’t make sense at first, and we have to ponder them in order to comprehend their meaning.

Over the years I have heard from hundreds of people who were somehow warned, helped or enlightened via their intuition. For the sake of this article, let’s focus on warnings of danger. Time and again, people who narrowly escaped some tragedy thanks to an intuition report how strangely calm they felt as they were receiving that warning. For example, someone may be driving down the highway when suddenly they have the intuition that they should change lanes. They act on this warning quickly, without questioning it, and the next thing they know, something occurs in the lane they were driving in that could have proven fatal. Following this event they may be shaken up and amazed by the whole experience, but while it was happening, they were strangely calm.

The gut intuitions you describe in your letter strike out of the blue like this; they come unbidden and at totally unexpected moments. We all have these spontaneous sorts of experiences when faced with danger. To be able to consciously and purposefully consult your intuition whenever you desire, you must develop your psychic abilities.

A major component of psychic development is cultivating the faith and objectivity to look past what we think is best in order to see truth. It can be hard to be objective when it comes to our own concerns. This is where the development of faith comes in: if you truly believe that everything happens for a good reason and everything works out in the end, you won’t worry to begin with, and will be open to hearing or perceiving the truth about any situation.

One thing is for sure: the more we tend to worry, the harder it is to hear our intuition clearly or access higher guidance. This is because our thoughts affect our vibration, and in order to tune in to truth and wisdom, we must have a high vibration. To be able to purposefully access our intuition about anything at any time, we must develop unwavering faith in the benevolence of life, for then all possibilities are acceptable to the conscious mind.

Since a calm, detached mind is essential to clear psychic perception, meditation is important. I highly recommend you take up regular meditation and work on cultivating your inner observer so you can emotionally detach from whatever is happening in your outer experience and calmly observe whatever comes up. This will empower you to view your whole life with calm detachment, which is like being able to back way up to see the big picture whenever you feel the need.

Also, devote yourself to psychic development. Working with a pendulum is a simple, easy way to begin. Do remember that you may not be able to access answers to every question you have at that time, so before beginning with the pendulum, ask:May I ask this question and receive an answer at this time? and Is this something that can be currently known or seen?

Of course, the information you can get from a pendulum is very limited, so you’ll want to move beyond it in order to get deeper insights and guidance. (My space here is limited, so for information on psychic development, please search our archives, consult the many excellent books and websites devoted to this subject, or sign up for a local class.)

When consulting your intuition, instead of asking if things will go the way you want them to, ask deeper questions such as: What is the higher purpose behind this situation? What am I supposed to be learning? What are my options, and which choice or approach is wisest? How can I cultivate the greatest love and harmony in this situation?

Again, remember that you may not always get an answer. Many of us want to be able to psychically read every possible scenario, and if we are looking for answers before those answers even exist, we may begin to make stuff up. We must be so detached that we’re even at peace with not getting as much information as we’d like to have right now.

It’s also important to establish strong relationships with your spirit guides, for then you can always ask them for more information or guidance on how to work with (and make peace with) the answers you receive.

Like any other skill, practice is essential. Keep a journal in which you note your intuitions and how they pan out. When they do and don’t prove accurate, take note of how you felt when they came to you. Soon you’ll be able to discern how it feels when you’re receiving accurate intuitive impressions.

Another important aspect to consider is the fact that you have the power to affect outcomes, so you can visualize what you desire instead of passively allowing your mind to wander into fearful thoughts. This is key because it is generally feelings of powerlessness that lead us to worry, and when we remember that we aren’t powerless – that can create what we want – it gives our minds something to do that is positive and constructive.

Knowing what will happen is nothing compared to being able to use our psychic senses to influence the course of our experience. The questions we ask of our intuition are therefore paramount. Asking simple, fear-based questions about what is going to happen can do us more harm than good, while asking wise and powerful questions such as what we should do and focus upon in order to fulfill our dreams can prove very helpful indeed.

 

– Soul Arcanum

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Are Schizophrenics Perceiving Other Worlds?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

My boyfriend’s sister is schizophrenic and has been in and out of hospitals for years now. I met her over the holidays and she struck me as highly intelligent. I was surprised by some of the things I learned about her experiences. Soul Arcanum, she sees demons as you’ve described seeing them! She says spirits are influencing her thoughts and other things that remind me of your writings. I keep thinking that she’s not crazy – she’s tuning in to something real in another dimension. Your thoughts?

Brigette

Dear Brigette:

This is a very complex subject, and I’m limited on space, but I’ll do my best. I’m not a medical doctor and nothing here should be considered medical advice. Further, instead of addressing everyone who has ever been diagnosed as schizophrenic, this article will focus simply on people who perceive things such as those you describe. I have traveled through my own so-called ‘psychotic break’ and out the other side, so this is a subject I have direct personal experience with as well as one that I have researched in depth. (By psychotic break, I refer to the period during which I first psychically awakened and began perceiving things others could not.)

I hear from people every day who are perceiving things that others can’t, none of whom are ‘crazy,’ so I think it’s really tragic that modern medicine labels all such experiences ‘psychotic.’ We’re so steeped in modern medicine’s views that it feels strange to flip them around and consider the idea that people who can perceive more than most may be somehow gifted. In other times and cultures, people who heard voices or experienced visions were revered as holy. I’m sure that many people who have been diagnosed schizophrenic are indeed tuning in to other dimensions and struggling to cope with it all in a world where their experiences are constantly invalidated and grossly misunderstood.

It is striking how closely the world of the schizophrenic can mirror that of someone in the midst of a psychic awakening. Of course, I’m not the first to discover such a connection: many great minds have noted these correlations, including doctors Carl Jung and Joseph Campbell.

Both the mystic and the schizophrenic tend to see and hear things that other people can’t; more importantly, they tend to see the same sorts of things, such as demons, discarnate spirits, and mythical creatures. Both may experience telepathy, encounters with departed loved ones, precognition, and a sense of unity with people and forces outside of themselves.

In other times and places, spiritual experiences like visions were actively sought and treasured, while today, modern science completely ignores and even denies spirituality. Despite this attitude, we are all fundamentally spiritual beings. It’s like we live in houses built over the ocean but are constantly told that the ocean doesn’t exist. If we hear it rumbling beneath us, smell the salt on the air or glimpse strange marine creatures swimming beneath the surface, we’re told we’re imagining things.

This schism alone can create great psychological tension. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, for perhaps we’re meant to find the personal strength, courage and faith in ourselves to break away from identification with external ideas in order to validate our own judgment and determine our own spiritual truths. If that’s the case, this is an ideal situation in which to foster independent spiritual seekers. Deep thinkers who question things and those who stumble into personal spiritual experiences will naturally discover this deeper reality, and since they have no shamans, gurus or masters to guide them these days, they must find their own way to make sense of it all.

As Joseph Campbell noted in ‘Myths to Live By’, ‘The mystic, endowed with native talents…and following…the instructions of a master, enters the waters and finds he can swim; whereas the schizophrenic, unprepared, unguided, and ungifted, has fallen or has intentionally plunged and is drowning.’

This metaphor beautifully illustrates how both the mystic and the ‘mad man’ are wandering in the same territory but having vastly different experiences of it. Where the mystic has some sense of what is happening and longs for this journey more than even his own survival, the schizophrenic is unprepared and consumed by fear. Where one longs to transcend the ego/lower self, the other clings to the ego in terror of losing the only sense of identity he has ever consciously known.

While we don’t hear much about people who had psychotic breaks and recovered from them, I hear from them every day. These are people who perceived other realities, heard voices or saw strange entities who worked through their experiences and went on to lead healthy, happy lives. I’ve also read a number of accounts of people diagnosed as schizophrenic who healed themselves by finding Spirit in some way, and I’ve met many who had psychotic breaks but weren’t diagnosed schizophrenic who found their way to healing. Instead of drowning, they taught themselves how to swim in this strange ocean of experience.

By growing spiritually stronger, they were able to swim from terrifying territory toward calmer waters, where their visions changed from frightening to beautiful and helpful. Instead of seeing demons, they became more like mystics and began to see kind spirits, guides and angels. Many even consciously identify fear itself as the true cause of all their distress, and some sort of faith or personal relationship with the Divine as the remedy. Indeed, many gifted psychics began their extraordinary path in some form of ‘madness’ or psychological crisis, and found their way to a higher level of experience without turning their psychic senses completely off.

So what determines how we may fare when suddenly exposed to other realms? Whether we do it before, during, or after a spiritual break from ‘reality,’ we must all face our own inner shadows, fears and issues. If we devote ourselves to spiritual growth before diving into mystical waters, we’ll be prepared to work through whatever we encounter. If we somehow stumble into those waters before we’re spiritually strong and ready, we may flail and flounder, trying to gain our footing while projecting our fears and issues all around us.

As we gain conscious access to subtle energies and higher powers, we must also open our hearts to the power of love. In my research, I was struck by the tendency of schizophrenics to be totally absorbed in their own inner experiences and especially their fears. Similarly, I’ve noted that many set themselves free from madness when they began to look beyond their own concerns to the needs of others. The more they grew to care about other people, the more they were lifted out of all-consuming fears for their own well-being, much as the mystic transcends the ego to reach for the Divine. By shifting toward love, they raised their vibration, which naturally led them to a higher level of spiritual experience, empowerment and understanding.

I’m sure love and faith sound like naive remedies given the devastating nature of psychosis. However, if we study people with biologically healthy brains who experienced traumatic breaks from physical reality and went on to lead healthy lives, it does seem that spiritual growth and healing offer the most effective cures for psychological distress. While modern medicine can work wonders with the body, when it comes crises of the mind and soul, spiritual healing and support are essential.

 

– Soul Arcanum

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Determining the Meaning of Psychic Symbols

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I’ve been searching for a site that offers interpretations for visions. Sometimes a slide show will dominate my field of vision. Usually my eyes are momentarily closed when this happens, like when I’m brushing my teeth or showering. This has happened a handful of times in my life, and my most recent experience is puzzling. It was a cup and saucer, and a pot poured the cup full of black coffee. It looked like a commercial. In trying to figure out what coffee means, I’ve guessed that it’s a stimulant. Coffee isn’t my cup of tea, but I do drink it away from home. My late father was an avid coffee drinker. I’m stumped as to what this vision might be showing to me, and searched for a site that lists the meanings of certain symbols. I’ve visited a local psychic and her interpretations are often strange to me. Are psychic symbols personal or universal? Can this be taught? I read your article on developing your ability to have visions and found it very helpful. Thank you.

Eileen

Dear Eileen:

The intellectual interpretation of psychic visions is more complex than one might assume because we are in constant interaction with all sorts of subtle influences on an unconscious level. It’s therefore wise to finely develop our intuitive faculties, but more on that in a moment.

The meanings of symbols in dreams and psychic visions are indeed ultimately personal. This is confusing because there are some symbols that are nearly universal and many that are natural given our cultural conditioning. For example, nearly everyone would interpret a smiling face to represent happiness and a frowning face to represent displeasure. In the U.S., most people would interpret a green traffic light to mean ‘go.’

In this article, I’ll refer to the model of the psyche developed by Carl Jung because his terms are so well known. Imagine that our minds are composed of three different aspects: the conscious (that which we are aware of), the personal unconscious (that which we have personally experienced but are not currently conscious of), and the collective unconscious, which is like the personal unconscious expanded to include all of humanity throughout time. I would expand this further to include all that is, has been and ever could be. Having a psychic vision is like the conscious mind receiving a message from the personal or collective unconscious.

To determine the meaning of a dream or psychic vision, I believe in beginning with the personal, for this usually eliminates a lot of fishing around. Thus the first things I would ask someone having your vision is what associations they have with coffee, and what feelings this vision evokes for them.

You have already done this and come up with your father, which explains why he may use this particular image to try to get your attention. Someone else may associate coffee with waking up, in which case such a vision could be a prompt from Spirit to ‘wake up and pay attention.’ Yet another person could be hunting for a job and see this image because they’re being guided to apply at a company related to the coffee industry, or perhaps they’ve been praying to find a soul mate, and this is a sign that they’ll meet the one they’re looking for in a coffee shop.

Once you’ve identified your own personal associations with a vision, ask yourself how it makes you feel. There is always some emotional charge to a psychic vision, so if it feels utterly flat, it may not be a meaningful psychic vision at all. Even when such visions have a strong emotional kick to them, there may not be a meaningful purpose behind them for you. This is where we get into the subtle influences that can complicate the whole matter.

One of the first things to rule out when you’re spontaneously hit with a psychic impression is the possibility that you’ve simply wandered into a thought form. Two of the most common places I always encounter thought forms is on bridges and airplanes. I will be about to cross a bridge when suddenly I have visions of the car going over the side accompanied by a wave of fear. Similarly, I’ll be taking off in an airplane when I’m suddenly hit by thoughts of crashing.

These are not my own phobias. For one thing, I never give these matters a second thought when I’m not in those situations, and for another, once I remind myself that these aren’t my own thoughts and feelings and I disengage from them, they completely disappear.

Just as houses have a certain feeling to them, so do places and things like air planes. When we approach a bridge, we have to travel through a space that is full of the fearful thoughts and energies of all the people who have traveled there before us who are afraid of going over the side. Similarly, air planes carry lots of fearful thought forms and energies. People who are sensitive naturally pick up on these, where others remain unaffected.

It’s also possible that you’re picking up on another person’s desire for coffee. You mentioned that you usually have this vision while you’re showering or brushing your teeth. If your spouse or another person you’re close to is craving his first cup of coffee or even drinking it downstairs in the kitchen, you could pick up on it, especially if they really love their coffee, for this would give the idea lots of energy.

I believe we can even pick up TV and radio transmissions, so the fact that this vision looks like a commercial is interesting. It’s possible that you’re tuning in to a certain commercial showing on TV even when your TV is off or tuned to a different station. Many people have had the experience of hearing a certain song in their heads only to turn the radio on and discover that song is playing.

So given all of these possibilities, how do you determine what this vision means for you? Since you associate the coffee with your father and he is in the Spirit world, I would assume that this is a nudge to try to get your attention. It’s probably not a message in and of itself, but more like a spirit calling card. To determine what he’s trying to tell you, you’ll have to wake up and start paying attention on a subtle psychic level when you receive this prompt.

To confirm that this is him, you can also ask for him to nudge you in a different but particular way. For example, I always know that my grandmother is trying to get my attention when I notice images of her house and yard running through the back of my mind. You can pick something that you strongly associate with your father and mentally ask that he use that image to get your attention.

Once you’ve been nudged, you’ll have to step things up in terms of using your psychic faculties to determine the message coming your way. It’s also important to realize that there may not be any grand message, for often spirits just want us to know that they are sending us love from beyond. To open up to deeper messages, you might meditate and open your heart to hear whatever spirit is trying to tell you, or journal on the vision and see where that leads you.

To move beyond the level of brief, cryptic, spontaneous visions, further psychic development is essential. By developing a strong relationship with your spirit guides and controlled use of all your psychic senses, you can cultivate the power to shift into a state of consciousness where all you have to do is ask for more information and it will come to you. To begin this journey, I recommend you find a local Spiritualist Church where you can join a development circle or ask the minister for other local resources.

Soul Arcanum

 

 

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Tired Sensitive is Overwhelmed by Voices and Visions

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

When I go to bed at night and close my eyes, I see many people. For a long time I’d see a random stranger’s face while falling asleep. This went on for years, and then over the last year it has escalated. Now when I go to sleep, if it’s not faces, it’s voices. I hear people talking and having conversations. One night I heard two men having an in depth conversation about old cars. I don’t know these voices. I’ve moved out of town into a rural setting, and I live alone. Usually these conversations are boring and I feel like I’m wasting my energy with all of this. When this happens, I do something I learned in a meditation class: I ground myself and ask everyone to leave. This helps but it is getting harder and harder to do. Last night, I saw a man I’ve never seen before. He was looking at me and smiling at me. He was all in white, like a white robe with a white thing around his head. Why is this happening to me? How can I get it to stop? I’m not schizophrenic; I’m psychic but have never had time to develop my abilities. I work full-time and am exhausted. If you were to pick my letter to answer, it would be a blessing. Thank you.
Rose

Dear Rose:

You would be amazed at how many people have the same experiences as they’re falling asleep, for when we quiet our minds and go within, we close out the input of the physical realm and open up to awareness of All That Is. It may comfort you to know that all of this exists when you’re wide awake – your mind is just too focused on the physical to notice this subtle input. When people who are sensitive quiet their minds, they naturally begin to perceive all sorts of things that escape others’ awareness. Hearing voices is not unusual; it’s only when one can’t cope with hearing voices that mental health issues arise. Instead of passively watching and listening to all of this strange stuff, the key to greater peace of mind is for you to empower yourself to manifest the quality of experience you desire.

To rid yourself of this tiresome pattern, you’ll have to learn to focus your mind and gain greater control of your receiver, so to speak. You say you haven’t had time to develop your mental powers, and I believe you’re being pushed to put this higher on your list of priorities. (You’re uncomfortable now because you’ve been fighting this idea for a long time.) If you want things to improve, you can’t continue to put this off. Otherwise, you’re like a person who is physically out of shape who complains that she gets winded every time she climbs a flight of stairs but also makes no time for exercise. To gain more control over what happens in your mind, you’re going to have to make time for mental/ spiritual development.

There are endless theories about what it is you’re picking up on. Some say these visions and voices come from the spirits of people who have died, while others say they are people who exist in another dimension, space or time. Some believe them to be spirit guides and angels; devils and demons; fairies and elves or even aliens. Scientific types tend to view them as snippets from our own subconscious minds, while paranoid folks fear they are the work of government agencies or occultists bent on mind control. You may also be picking up on the private thoughts of other people in this or other dimensions, or remembering snippets from past lives – the possibilities are endless.

It’s important to discern if these voices seem to be talking to you and/or about you or if you are just overhearing them. It sounds like you’re mainly overhearing them, which suggests you are picking up on sounds from another place or dimension.

Imagine that your mind is like a radio. When we learn how to control the mind, we develop the power to focus on what we want to focus on, and via meditation, how to quiet the mind as well. To ease into this, you might begin by consciously focusing on something in particular as you fall asleep at night. If this is challenging, you can try a guided meditation or hypnotherapy recording. Some recordings will help you to fall into a deep, restful sleep, while others will simultaneously guide you in achieving some other desirable aim as you’re drifting off. Once you get the hang of this, you can skip the recording and run your own mental program.

For example, when I have trouble falling asleep, I often visualize what I want to manifest in my life. This is not the same thing as worrying about all I have to do the next day; I just imagine my life as I desire it to be. This has two great benefits. First, I’ve never found anything that puts me to sleep faster – the next thing I know, I’m waking up in the morning. Second, this is a very powerful time to work with the law of attraction. We’re in a relaxed, trancelike state, and since we’re doing this before we go to sleep, we’re programming our subconscious minds to help us manifest what we desire while we slumber. Then we may have an enlightening dream or wake up with a new idea and the fresh energy we need to make good progress the next day.

Another favorite of mine is to count my blessings: Instead of counting sheep, I begin to mentally list all the things I’m grateful for. This raises my vibration and helps me to focus my mental and creative energy on maintaining all the positives in my life.

Obviously, however, not all of what you’re perceiving is random. I feel the man in white who was smiling at you is a spirit guide. (Spirit guides tend to appear all in white like this, and of course they are naturally kind and friendly.) He may have shown up in answer to your prayers for help with these phenomena, which is perfect, since one of my main suggestions for gaining control of unwanted spirit communication is to develop a strong conscious relationship with your spirit guides. I don’t have room to go into working with your spirit guides here, but there is a lot of information about that available elsewhere.

In addition to working with your spirit guides, you can try to communicate with any other spirits who make contact with you in this way. One young woman heard voices like this for years: She’d hear snippets of conversations, music, noises, etc., none of which seemed to have anything to do with her. Then one night it occurred to her to ask (out loud) what the two people she could hear were talking about, and they actually answered her!

If these are spirits who intuit that you are sensitive and will be able to perceive them, it may greatly help you to speak to them and ask them if there is something you can do to help them. If they are troubling you late at night, then set aside time during the day for just this purpose. You might wake up 15 minutes early and tell any spirits that pop in that you’ll be happy to speak to them in the morning. I know this sounds nuts, but it has helped many budding mediums to get a good night’s sleep and take control of their experiences.

There is so much that you can do to transform this pattern. If nothing you try brings relief, you can always see a hypnotherapist. If there are conscious entities involved, they should make themselves known again when you’re in deep trance, and then the therapist can dialogue with them and work out a remedy. Whichever approach you choose, I feel if you set aside more time and energy for this during regular waking hours, you won’t be deluged with psychic input at the end of the day.

– Soul Arcanum

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Empathy and Emotional Control

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Dear Soul Arcanum:
I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder a few years ago, and while I agree with the diagnosis, the label doesn’t quite fit me. I am fairly psychic and more so all the time. I’m clairsentient: I feel too much, care too much (though I don’t think that’s really true!), and I’m always feeling other people’s feelings. Sometimes the energy of others is so strong it can make me go nearly insane. One big facet of borderline personality is an unclear sense of self. I can’t be in a relationship because days into one I’ll have a flip and think, What the hell am I doing? I don’t like this person! and I’ll bail. Some days I see through the eyes of a poorly evolved person; other days I am lost in the glory of Spirit’s sight. It is a true gift but also a curse because I can’t fit into this human world. I don’t expect you to cure me. I know this is my fate. I just want to know if someone like me can find peace between the two worlds I inhabit, or if I will always struggle. Thanks for listening, Soul Arcanum.
Your friend wading through the unseen worlds with her pants hitched up…
Ingrid

Dear Ingrid:

It sounds like you’re a highly sensitive, empathic person. All empaths have an unclear sense of personal boundaries; this is what enables them to feel what other people are feeling.

I recommend you resist being labeled, for you are so much more than BPD or any other abstract idea. Not long ago, you would have been seen to have an impulsive, sensitive, perhaps artistic nature, but no one would have considered you mentally ill. My sense is that you are able to basically function in life, so I would take a spiritual perspective on your struggles instead of accepting a medical diagnosis like this one.

As for whether or not you will always struggle, it’s important to remember that you have the power to create what you want in your life. Much of what you’re dealing with is challenging for all human beings. We are all affected by other people’s emotional energies; some of us are just more affected than others, or are more aware that those vibes are originating outside of us.

Your relationship issues are also pretty normal. They may be a bit more dramatic for you, or perhaps you are extra self-aware and able to observe yourself in relationships and question why you do the things you do. It is important for empaths to realize that sometimes the emotional swings they experience result from shifts between their own feelings and the feelings of others. For example, if someone really likes us and feels good around us, and we tune in to their emotions, we will feel really good around them too. When we later center in our own truth, we may feel very different. So learning how to stay centered in your own emotional truth is key.

As for creating what you want in your life, it sounds to me like you are already on a path to greater spiritual growth and positive change. You are highly sensitive, self-aware, and clearly desirous of a higher level of experience. You know that you want to find a greater sense of peace, and you are manifesting answers and guidance from the Universe, such as this very article. So in my view, there is no need to feel wrong, incomplete or hopeless; things are not so bad, and they’re getting better all the time.

Ultimately, this is a matter of emotional and psychic control. When we get out of balance in terms of development, we experience struggles like those you describe. For example, when someone is centered in their lower chakras, they may work like crazy but without planning or foresight. Someone who is centered in their heads will tend to be overly rational and analytical, and out of touch with their bodies, hearts and spirits.

In your case, you seem to be at the mercy of your own and others’ emotional energy. Since it’s never wise to repress or deny your feelings, in order to create a better sense of balance, you need to bring other aspects of your being up to speed.

On a physical level, this may mean getting more grounded, strong and healthy. Since you also need to learn how to control emotional energy (your own as well as the psychic energy of others), training in a martial art like Chi Gong may prove very helpful. This will also strengthen your aura, which is your natural defense against outside psychic influences. Yoga would also help you get centered energetically and give you a way to find a calm center within whenever you start to feel frazzled or overwhelmed.

On a mental level, meditation should prove perfect for you, since you need to find a way to get calm and gain control of your emotions. By strengthening your mind, you will learn to control your impulses and also become more aware of what is yours energetically versus what is coming from other people.

On a spiritual level, I recommend learning how to control your psychic sensitivity, and developing greater faith. To control your sensitivity, you must get centered within yourself. When a sensitive person lacks a strong sense of self-awareness and self-control, they’re like a tree without a deep, strong root system: with the slightest breeze they can be blown right over. If you get grounded and centered in your own truth, self-awareness and sense of well-being, you’ll develop personal strength from within. Then no matter how the wind may blow around you, nothing will topple you.

This is all about learning how to set your own tone. This means you decide how you want to feel and you consciously cultivate that vibration from within. Basically, you are deciding who you want to be and how you want to feel, and you are consciously generating that vibration and radiating it outward instead of soaking up the energies all around you.

You can still be sensitive and helpful to others if you do this; in fact, you can be far more helpful. For example, to save someone who is drowning, you don’t want to dive into the water and start drowning yourself; you want to remain stable on the shore, throw them a lifeline, and then pull them in. When you are rooted in a high vibration, you can lift those who are struggling up to a higher state of being.

Faith is absolutely essential, for when you have faith that all is well and everything happens for a good reason, you can remain centered in your higher self even when others are going down. When your faith is sound, you can feel compassion for others without having to literally feel their pain. Some people think they are better healers or counselors if they are empathic, but I disagree: two people in pain is NOT better than one. It’s better to have one person in pain and a caring person who is feeling great who can lift the one who is hurting to higher ground.

Finally, despite what many people may tell you, I encourage you to let go of the idea that you need to be protected from other people’s energy. I know that because you are sensitive, you often feel overwhelmed, but that’s mainly because you resist intense energies out of fear. You’ve been overwhelmed for a long time, and you’ve survived just fine. Instead of trying to protect yourself from intense, dramatic or unsettling energies, RELAX. Trust that everything is and will be fine. Send love to everything and everyone. This will reverse the flow of energy, so instead of being bombarded by others’ feelings, you will radiate your own vibration outward. Divine love will then flow through you, which will make you feel wonderful and may help others in many ways as well.

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Keeping Spiritual Views Private

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I’ve been on a spiritual journey for a number of years now, and for the most part I’ve kept this to myself. Now and then, however, I get questioned about my beliefs, and for some reason, I’m really uncomfortable talking about them. For example, the other day I gave a coworker a ride home, and she noticed a spiritual book on the seat of my car and started asking me about it. Do you think I should be more open about my beliefs? It sort of feels right to keep them to myself.
Margie

Dear Margie:

I can totally relate to your question. In fact, most acquaintances know only that I’m a writer and editor: they have no idea about my spiritual work and beliefs.

For one thing, I have no desire to engage in endless intellectual debates. My ego used to get a kick out of that sort of thing, but I now feel it’s just a waste of time that I could be using for far greater purposes. Years ago I asked the Universe to do me a little favor. I requested that if someone would benefit from hearing about my spiritual views, then they would find a way to ask me about them that made me want to open up and share. I also asked that if such a conversation would prove less than uplifting or beneficial for either party, then I would be spared the hassle. Ever since, I’ve not really had a problem with this issue. I also don’t discuss politics, nor do I debate parenting styles with other parents, for these sorts of conversations tend to breed conflict instead of love and harmony.

Nevertheless, there are times when I do feel called to explain my spiritual beliefs to others. Before I go into how I do that, I would like to remind you that you are never required to reveal anything about your spiritual beliefs to anyone else. There is nothing more personal than your relationship to God or the divine, so give yourself permission to hold this area of your life close to your heart and protect it as sacred. Also, always listen to and trust your intuition. If you feel called to stay mum, then you’re wise to do so.

My next observation has become something of a cliche in New Age circles, but that’s in part because it has a lot of truth in it: its the idea that many free thinkers alive today were religiously persecuted in past lives, or witnessed other people being ostracized, tortured and murdered for their religious beliefs. This has naturally made us wary about opening up about any uncommon or unusual views we may hold. From former pagans who were burned as witches to the many people alive now who were murdered during the Holocaust, there are many in New Age circles who have been through hell for their spiritual beliefs and learned that it’s just not worth it to rock the boat.

We enjoy far more religious freedom now than we have since the dawn of civilization. For many lifetimes we’ve had to either conform or keep our views quiet, so this is a long-established habit. Keeping these things in mind can help us understand our hesitation to put our beliefs on the chopping block.

There is a bright side to this dynamic, however, as it creates some ideal spiritual challenges for us. We are all learning to think for ourselves and trust the voice whispering in our own hearts more than our priests, teachers, parents, therapists, or any other outside influences. As this is a huge step forward spiritually, it naturally entails the need to overcome some fears and other ego issues. We’re all learning to rise above worrying about what other people will think of our spiritual beliefs so we can fully honor our personal truths and put our relationship with God first.

We’re also learning the fine balance required to honor our own truths while respecting others’ at the same time. Arenas like politics and religion offer us great opportunities to practice finding a wise approach. So if you think you’re a good diplomat and you want a new challenge, you might see how things go when you try engaging others in deep conversations about their spiritual beliefs.

I also don’t see any real need to discuss these matters unless we feel called to do so. In my view, everyone is just where they’re supposed to be, and the law of attraction will deliver what everyone needs when they need it, so I feel no duty to pursue or avoid anything in particular in this domain. If someone asks me about my beliefs and it feels right and good to open up, I do so. If I feel at all anxious or uncertain, I just keep things light and general, and shift the focus back to them. (Fortunately, people love to talk about themselves, so this is never a hard thing to do.)

Besides, I already know my own theories and stories, and I am genuinely interested in others’ spiritual views and experiences, so I prefer to be the one asking the questions instead of doing all the talking. My goal above all is to remain open-minded and open-hearted, so really listening to others is essential.

In fact, when I encounter someone who is really intense about their beliefs, I always stop and ask myself how I’ve attracted this person and if I’m just as rooted in my own views as they are in theirs. I can get just as complacent as anyone else, and have to be reminded that there is much I haven’t learned yet. This sort of conversation is great for illuminating our own ego issues, whether they involve self-esteem/fear of rejection or the arrogant assumption that I’ve got things figured out better than the other person.

When talking to others about this sort of thing, I do find it really helpful to focus on my experiences more than my beliefs. I also find it wise to convey how I used to be much more mainstream (perhaps just like them) and was just as blown away by the things that happened to me as anyone else would be. This tends to diffuse any ego tension in such conversations because people will argue with general ideas but they can’t argue with what you say happened to you personally. Instead of getting defensive because they think I’m trying to convince them of something, when I just explain what happened to me, people tend to be more open.

Despite my careful approach, sometimes people do reject me for being strange or different from them. They don’t usually say that out right, but since I’m super sensitive, I know what they’re generally feeling. I’m the sort of person who wants everyone to like me, but I’ve learned that this desire is also rooted in ego, so I’ve learned to be at peace with rejection. (On the bright side, I figure being rejected saves me from continuing to try to connect with someone I wouldn’t want to spend any real time with anyway.)

If you find yourself feeling worried about what others think of you, you might view it as a red flag that you have an ego issue rearing its ugly head, and seize that opportunity to work on your relationship to yourself, which is far more important than any relationship you’ll have with another person. You’ll know that you’re free of ego issues when you can open up and share from the heart with respect for the other person’s feelings but no concern for how they may judge or perceive you.

– Soul Arcanum

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