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Receiving Spiritual Guidance via Dreams

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I am a Hindu by religion. Recently sages or ascetics have been appearing in my dreams and preaching some mantras. The problem is that I forget them totally after I awake. What does this indicate?
Dr. Rao

Dear Dr. Rao:

For those who are unfamiliar, in the Hindu tradition it’s considered wise and powerful for spiritual seekers to have a guru (spiritual teacher) to guide them through the twists and turns of the journey to enlightenment. These gurus are usually physically incarnate, but they can also be beings from beyond this dimension.

Whether they are incarnate or not, they may visit their students in dreams and even manifest to them across great distances when they are awake. It’s unclear if they leave their bodies via astral projection to achieve this feat or if they somehow bi-locate. (Great spiritual masters are said to be capable of all sorts of amazing feats, and are known to be highly cryptic when questioned.)

It’s also believed that gurus, sages and ascended masters will sometimes visit a student in his dreams to initiate him into a higher level of spiritual power and experience. This may be achieved by giving the student a special mantra to chant during meditation or by delivering some profound spiritual knowledge/wisdom. This initiation sparks the release of kundalini and thus a new level of spiritual awakening for the student.

A mantra is a word, phrase, or collection of sounds designed to lift one into a higher vibration or achieve a certain aim. Many people are familiar with the mantras Om, and Om mani padme hum. There are many mantras common to certain spiritual paths, such as those of kundalini yoga.

It is said that a mantra that is given to a student by a guru is far more powerful than a common one, for it is personal to the student and is charged with the guru’s divine essence and wisdom. In fact, some say that when the guru gives the mantra to the student by speaking it out loud, the student may be spontaneously awakened at that very moment by its power.

Our dreams reveal much about who we are deep down and where we are spiritually at the time. When we have recurring nightmares, for example, we know that there are some big fears at work deep in our psyches. When we have generally pleasant dreams, it’s a sign that we’re on top of things in our waking lives. Remembering dreams like the ones you describe is unusual, for these are the dreams of a highly developed spiritual seeker.

We all work out problems and receive guidance in our dreams. Most of the time when we dream of spirit guides, we don’t realize that is what’s happening. In our dreams, spirit guides may take the form of another person who tells us where to go or what to do. We may dream of sitting in a classroom, listening intently to a teacher lecture, but not be able to remember anything that was said. (This is entirely different from dreaming that we’re in school again and can’t get our locker open or haven’t done our homework.) Spirit guides may also appear in dreams as doctors, therapists, coaches or healers of some kind. They can even get messages through to us by simply speaking as a disembodied voice or creating a scene we watch in the dream like we might watch a television show.

I believe that the spirit guide many of us experience as a nameless, faceless presence in our minds is often that part of us that remains in the Spirit world – what some may call our own higher self. I also know that we can communicate with our own selves in other times and dimensions; thus our future selves can deliver a message to our current selves and come across as a different individual.

I mention this because I believe the key to consciously accessing spiritual guidance is to trust in our own higher selves/inner wisdom, for this is the bridge between our conscious mind and all that lies beyond this world. I don’t think it really matters whether the guidance we need comes to us from our higher selves, a spirit guide or a guru, or even if these are fundamentally different in nature: the important thing is to be able to work with our experiences in a constructive way.

To draw information from dreams into our waking awareness, we need to create a bridge between the subconscious and the conscious mind. I assume you’re already writing your dreams down as soon as you awake. If not, this is the first thing to try. If you make a habit of this, it will get easier to remember your dreams, and you will also attract more spiritual guidance through them. It’s like telling the Universe: I’m paying attention now, so send more my way!

You can also program yourself before you go to sleep to dream of whatever you want or need at that time. When you close your eyes, affirm that you will not only receive what you’re wanting in your dreams, you will also clearly remember it all when you awake. You may also find it powerful to develop the ability to lucid dream and astral project. This will enable you to visit with spirit guides and gurus and forge a strong bridge between your conscious and subconscious, which will make a far broader range of spiritual insights and experiences available to you.

To consciously access your guide while you’re awake, you need to raise your vibration and then alter your state of consciousness. You can do this most readily via hypnosis or guided meditation. The goal is to make what is subconscious conscious – to bridge the gap between the two. Basically, you will reenter the dream state while maintaining at least a thread of conscious awareness.

As this is tricky, it can be very helpful to have a skilled hypnotherapist guide you. The therapist can then ask you questions and record your answers should you not be able to remember what you experienced when you are brought back to full conscious awareness. If I were working with you as a hypnotherapist, I would guide you into a very deep trance, into a dream within a dream within a dream. Once you were there, I’d have you recall the dream in which you received the mantra, and simply ask you, If you could remember the mantra, what would it be? If that failed, I’d dialogue directly with the spirit guide through you.

Your own higher self can guide you to what you’re seeking, but to do this, you must get into a high vibration and then let your conscious mind step aside and your intuition take over. If I were you, I’d get into a high vibration via yoga and meditation and then just begin to tone. Start by vocalizing an Ahhhhh sound, and then let your voice just open up. (It’s best to do this when you’re home alone, so you don’t feel inhibited.) Allow your voice to shift as it will, and any pitches, words or sounds to just flow out. As you relax and open up, you’ll find that something begins to shift your voice without you being consciously aware that it is going to happen, and soon you’ll be repeating tones, melodies, words and phrases, which may lead you to the perfect mantra for you.

Finally, it’s wise to trust in our experiences – even the blocks that frustrate us. There is a reason why we remember some things and not others. So if you can’t remember this mantra for now, it may be that you’re doing work in your dreams that you’re not meant to be doing yet in waking life. At the same time, you can trust that your keen desire to remember is leading you somewhere, so keep pursuing this – just do so with trust that you will have what you desire when the time is right for you.

– Soul Arcanum

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Do Some Spiritual Arts Conflict with Others?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

Do you think I may be limiting my success or working against myself by trying to improve my psychic skills and spirit communication abilities while at the same time studying Wicca and spell crafting? – Kim

Dear Kim:

I think it’s natural and healthy to explore all sorts of different paths and teachings in search of what works best for you. Most people who consider themselves to be spiritual as opposed to religious have done this to at least some degree. In my opinion, it’s a sign of true intelligence and open-mindedness! After all, how do you really know the best path for you until you explore your options?

That being said, there is definitely a difference between spiritual dabblers and spiritual teachers or masters. For one thing, the dabblers are seeking something, while the masters have found something and chosen to pour all of their beings into that path. This does not necessarily mean that one is in some way ahead of the other, for every time we evolve into new potential, we begin to seek new truths and practices that resonate with who we have become. As we need different things at different stages in our journeys, our inner beings are ever calling us toward whatever we need most at that time.

I’m wondering what is behind your concern, and whether it arises from a sense that what you’ve been doing isn’t really working for you, or whether it’s a question that came up because of some outside comment or influence. Discerning the difference is the real issue here, for you are in the process of learning to trust your own judgment and inner guidance.

Your question reminds me of when I was in training to become a Spiritualist minister, and one of my teachers occasionally made disparaging remarks about Wicca. As I had practiced Wicca for a number of years and had some of the most incredible spiritual experiences of my life in Wiccan rituals, my ears really perked up.

Since I greatly respected this teacher, I found myself questioning my own experiences with Wicca. My own truth rang through strong and clear, however, while what my teacher was saying did not reflect my experiences. I then gave up questioning my views and instead tuned in to try to determine why my teacher was so down on Wicca.

When I asked Spirit about this, I was made to understand that she had had a very different quality of exposure to Wicca, and that her understanding of it was superficial. She didn’t know what Wicca could be or is really all about. This would be comparable to someone forming an opinion of the Catholic Church based solely on what they had read in the paper about priests sexually abusing children.

This surprised me, as this teacher was clearly very spiritually open otherwise. It also made me realize that everyone makes snap judgments sometimes, myself included. For example, if someone mentioned they were into Satanism, I know I would instantly have a negative reaction to the whole subject. I must also confess that I don’t know much about Satanism, have no desire to know more, and am quite closed minded on the matter!

I have since often encountered a disparaging attitude toward Wicca not only in traditional Christian religions but also in other Spiritualist circles. While much of this can be explained by people not having true understanding of the Wiccan/pagan path, it can also be attributed to at least two other main factors.

First, Westerners have been socialized in a culture that is still strongly influenced by the Catholic Church, which of course condemned and persecuted pagans for centuries and falsely demonized earth-based religions. Sadly, not many people are intelligent enough to think for themselves and question all of this, or ambitious enough to seek out a true education on the subject. (Believe me, what we’re taught in school is not what really happened!) It is only those who have explored these matters for themselves who know how hypocritical the Church was in demonizing earlier religions, for most of the rites and rituals of the Catholic Church are pagan in origin.

The second reason I think there is a bit of a clash between Spiritualism and paganism is because pagans and other earth-based religions tend to work with lower vibrational energies of the earth, nature spirits and the elements, while Spiritualists reach for the divine and planes beyond the physical. Again, we have been socialized to view the earth as less than heaven – the body as sinful while the spirit is divine.

To sort this out, I strongly urge you to listen to your intuition and pursue whatever calls to you, for in this way, ultimately you will end up with what speaks most to your own soul and works best for you. You are wise, however, to ask yourself what teachings and practices will best help you fulfill your personal goals.

If you want to develop your mediumship abilities to work with the grieving, Spiritualist training is a great choice. If you want to be able to see fairies or work magick, then Wicca might be better. Please remember that you can do both and more, of course! In fact, if you want to become a medium in order to free earthbound spirits, a combination may be best, because you would be connecting with spirits of a lower vibration. If instead, you want to channel divine healing and messages from guides and angels, you might find it easier to attain the high vibration needed for that sort of thing through Spiritualism or some other channel.

I am not in any way suggesting that any one path is better than another, as I do not believe that is true. That would be like saying that the color blue is better than the color red. I do, however, believe that we all travel a natural order of progression, and are ever rising in vibration. Thus people tend to get interested in more earthly psychic phenomena before they are drawn to explore higher realms. We must also remember that evolution is not a straight line; it’s more like a spiral. If we focus on only one aspect of development, we’ll only get so far before we are led to circle back and bring the rest of our being up to speed. So someone who was a master at working with earth energies could be much more evolved than a dabbler who happened to be into angels at the moment. On top of all of this, we are all unique, and are wise to honor our special gifts and pursue our personal passions.

In summary, the ultimate authority on what will work best for you is YOU. Trust your own experiences and your own inner being/intuition, and don’t let anyone else tell you what you should be doing on your spiritual path, or what you should stay away from. Remember too that often the paths that people may fear and warn you against are simply both misunderstood and very powerful.

I recommend you ask Spirit to guide you to whatever you need now, and forge your own path by taking the best of what you find along the way and leaving behind whatever doesn’t resonate with you as true or useful. With this approach, you will naturally tailor your spiritual journey to your true Divine self, and honor your connection to Spirit as the most sacred, personal relationship you could ever have.

– Soul Arcanum

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Mental Voice Predicts Future Relationship

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

A few years ago I took a seminar, and I raised my hand to ask a question of the teacher. Right after I asked my question, I heard a voice in my head. It was perfectly clear, and it told me that I had just met my future husband. I was so taken aback that I actually looked around the room to see if anyone else had heard or noticed anything, but everything seemed normal. I live in the same town as this man, and I haven’t seen him since, but this experience still pops in my head now and then, especially since I’m still single. Do you think it’s possible that this man is indeed my future husband? Either way, what in the world was this voice? Thank you so much!
– M.

Dear M.:

I know this sounds crazy, but if my own experiences hold your answer, I’d say this man IS your future husband!

One of the most powerful psychic experiences we can have is the recognition of someone we’ve known well in a prior incarnation. Even people who aren’t into psychic matters are open to the idea that there are some people we meet with whom we have a special sense of connection.

Scientists may attribute this to sensory clues such as the way that person looks, smells, or uses body language. However, there is a magical quality to some meetings that transcends biology; it’s a special feeling that arises when we meet someone we already have a very strong psychic bond to – someone we have had important experiences with in another life.

Whether that other person is a potential romantic connection or not, usually these feelings are strongly attractive. For example, we may experience “love at first site” with someone of the opposite sex, but we may also experience a sense of kinship upon first meeting someone who will become a good friend, mentor, teacher, boss, etc.

Such feelings aren’t always positive, however. Sometimes we may feel instantly repelled, scared, uneasy or cautious. This happens when we meet someone who has caused us pain or suffering in the past. In my experience, the attractive feeling is far more common, but that may differ by person. If someone has a hard time with relationships, they may have more painful experiences, and when they meet up with people again in the future, it would be natural for them to have more negative reactions.

I can only think of two times I had strong negative feelings about someone right off the bat, and despite my desire to stay far away from those individuals, I ended up having very trying experiences with them. I believe that premonitions like this are reflective of both the past AND the future: we recognize that person as familiar from the past, and we sense the karma that lies ahead.

In the case of negative reactions, the pain we experienced in another life is brought to the surface, and our soul recognizes that we’re about to face some big lesson or deal with some heavy karma. In the case of positive reactions, the love and happiness we experienced in another life is reawakened, and our soul recognizes that we’ve found someone we’ve been missing for a long time � someone we perhaps didn’t even know existed.

I can’t think of a single important relationship in my life that didn’t “announce” itself with a weighty feeling the first time I met that person. Think through the key relationships in your own life: your best friends, favorite teachers, boyfriends, etc., and review what happened the first time you met them. If you don’t recall anything special, it may just be because the volume on your psychic abilities isn’t turned up far enough for you to hear anything but the “loudest” emanations. Meeting a soul mate/future husband would certainly bang a big psychic gong!

I believe that “true love” reunions carry the most intense psychic impact, because the strongest experiences I’ve had with that voice you describe occurred when I met my husbands. (It happened with both my first and my second/current husband).

At the time I met my first husband, I was in college and very independent and ambitious. As my mom had been married and divorced a number of times, I was not a big fan of marriage in general, and planned on never marrying myself. Then one night I went to visit a friend at his fraternity, and on my way in the door, I saw my ex for the first time as he was on his way out. A jolt went through me when I saw him, but at this point, my psychic abilities were dormant, so I didn’t know what this meant.

Later that night I attended a party at that fraternity, and he was there. There was a strange buzz in the air, though again, I wasn’t processing any of this consciously. It felt like I had been placed there and was going through motions I was supposed to go through – like this had all been planned in advance. While I felt attracted to him, it was far more intense than any attraction I’d ever felt before.

When I got back to my room that night, my roommate and some other girls who were hanging out asked how my night had gone, and without thinking, I blurted, “I just met the man I’m going to marry!” It was only as I said those words that I consciously realized that this was indeed what I’d been sensing. My roommate said, “I thought you were never going to get married,” and I replied, “So did I!”

Perhaps some readers are questioning the quality of this experience, since that marriage didn’t last until death did us part. I sincerely believe that we were meant to come together to bring our children into the world, but that we were not meant to stay together forever. I don’t have space to explain it all here, but a number of other spiritual experiences support this view.

As for my current husband, the first time I saw him, he was sitting with someone else in a restaurant, and the same thing happened: time seemed to stop and I was riveted. By this point, however, I had developed my psychic abilities, and I knew that he was going to prove to be a very important person in my life. “Coincidentally,” two weeks later I joined a new gym, and the first day I walked in, he was there. It wasn’t long before I knew we were destined to be together romantically. (He, however, didn’t wake up to this fact until a year later. Needless to say, that was a very long year for me!)

If one individual of a destined couple is highly psychic like you and the other is not, often the psychic person knows they are destined to be together, while the other one doesn’t realize it until the time is at hand. This can be really nerve wracking for the one who senses the truth, unless that person remembers that if something is indeed destined, it will happen. If it’s not destined, then there’s no point worrying about it. Knowing the future before it is due to happen can be really challenging unless we have the faith to relax and trust in a higher plan.

I believe the voice or feeling you describe is a psychic alarm that goes off when we meet really important people we’re destined to develop relationships with. I’ve heard many stories about first meetings with future spouses that are similar to those described here, and time and time again, despite all sorts of obstacles (like living on separate continents!), those prophetic feelings proved true.

If I were you, I’d ask Spirit for confirmational signs about this man. If you then you start hearing his name, bumping into him around town, or something similar, for heaven’s sake, smile and make eye contact! While destiny is powerful stuff, it never hurts to help things along. Perhaps instead of just predicting the future, that voice is trying to nudge you to step back into your lover’s arms.

– Soul Arcanum

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Could She be Getting Messages Through Soul Arcanum?

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Dear Soul Arcanum::

I always enjoy reading your column. Do you think it’s possible that I’m getting spiritual messages through your website? I’ve noticed that when an issue arises in my life or I’m thinking about different spiritual matters or questions, the next issue of Soul Arcanum will have an article with the answers I need. For example, I signed a contract for my house at 11:11 p.m., and said to my girlfriend that there are so many experiences of 11:11 in my life, then the next Monday there was an article in Soul Arcanum about the spiritual meaning of 11:11. Another time my dog got sick and the next thing I saw in your magazine was an article on how to meditate with your dog. I could give you a lot more examples. Soul Arcanum definitely plays an important role in my life! What do you think – am I really getting messages this way? Thank you!

– Ellen

Dear Ellen:

You are not imagining things; everything in the Universe is interrelated, and the more conscious we become of that truth, the more we notice connections like those you describe.

The common term for what you’re experiencing is “synchronicity.” It was a favorite topic of Carl Jung’s, who noticed that many so-called coincidences are statistically inexplicable. For example, one of his most famous experiences of synchronicity occurred as he was listening to a patient describe a dream she’d had about a golden scarab beetle. As he listened to her, he heard a tapping noise at the window behind him, and when he turned around to investigate, he saw a beetle at the window. When he opened the window, the beetle flew in, and it looked just like the beetle his patient was describing in her dream. We might say that this experience “blew his mind,” and launched him on a journey of exploration into the nature of synchronicity.

We’ve all had experiences like this that strike us as highly improbable. They’re usually laced with a sense of meaning; something deep inside of us makes us sit up, take notice and wonder at what is happening. Since there is no obvious rational explanation, many people’s minds just shut down and they brush the experience off as a coincidence. Those who are more mystically inclined, however, are able to use their intuition to bridge the gap between common reality and the subtler realities beneath the surface. In this way, we find meaning in synchronistic experiences where others do not.

So how does synchronicity work? Sometimes there are intelligent forces like spirits using such means to communicate with us, but more often, we are simply answering our own desires and questions via the unified field beyond the dimension of time and space. Our conscious minds are tuned into three-dimensional, physical reality, but there are other aspects of our minds that abide in what we might call more expansive dimensions. When we become more spiritually aware, we begin to link our conscious mind with these other aspects of ourselves, and they begin to work together more adeptly because they are more “in synch.”

At a quantum level, the universe appears to be a “magical” place. Things can move from one place to another without traveling the distance in between. Time collapses at this level of experience. This is basically what is behind the experience of synchronicity – when we are vibrationally in harmony with something (such as an answer or an idea) it will come to us or we will be led to it. For example, perhaps you needed the information in that article about 11:11 BEFORE you began noticing those numbers popping up in your experience, and that is WHY you began noticing them.

When we begin to look for signs, we open up a vast new realm of potential ways that we can receive them. If we set an intention of having certain dream experiences or accessing certain information in our dreams, our dream life will blossom. If we look for signs in the spoken conversations of others, or in random books, or any other way, those avenues begin to expand for us.

This leads me to why I am so in love with the internet. The internet is as close as we come in the physical dimension to that vast unified field wherein everything is connected. Nothing tangible actually “exists” on the internet, and it is not an actual “place,” yet we can all visit it and have very real experiences there. We can quickly access whatever we need to know or connect with whomever we desire, even if they are on the other side of the planet! Just as we can access information and understanding by mentally “dipping into” other realms, the same is true of the ‘net. As it is a half step above the level of space/time, the internet is a very powerful channel for synchronicity.

I’m suggesting that you had a certain need or desire that led you to Soul Arcanum in the first place, and that you subsequently defined Soul Arcanum as a great avenue for finding the answers you’re looking for. In this way, Soul Arcanum became a key channel through which you receive synchronous “answers” to your questions.

Now you’re probably wondering how your questions could be answered as opposed to the questions of all the other seekers out there. Here’s where things get very complex but also very interesting. Practically speaking, you probably read a lot at Soul Arcanum that doesn’t “grab you,” and you naturally latch on to those articles that have special meaning for you. Your eyes may glide ride past anything you don’t need and go right to what you’re most interested in.

At the same time, however, it’s natural for you to resonate with most of what you find here. From a higher perspective, those of us who read and appreciate Soul Arcanum are a virtual spiritual community based on our shared interests and experiences. Along what we might call “the spiritual path,” everyone passes through the same territory. It’s like driving from L.A. to Las Vegas: While a few people will get lost or wander off the beaten trail, most people will follow the same basic route, and along the way, there will be various landmarks that EVERYONE passes. (Some will notice some things more than others, of course.) Now imagine that Soul Arcanum is like a travel guide devoted to this journey from L.A. to Vegas, and you’ll see why when you’re reading it, you often think, “Hey! I just noticed that myself!”

Further, since we are in the same virtual “community,” we are in communication at a subconscious, energetic level. The articles I choose to run are thus being influenced by your needs and desires. In fact, long ago I set the intention of choosing articles and topics intuitively; I just go with whatever feels right. So if you’re sending a strong signal, I may just receive it. At the same time, YOU may be picking up on what I’m doing. I work about a week ahead, so it makes sense that articles would either appear shortly after you sent that signal, or you might develop a sudden interest in the topics I’m working on at that time.

It’s exciting to know that the more we look for synchronicities, the more we’ll find. When we clearly define what we want to know or experience and then watch for signs and synchronicities, we weave magic into our lives.

If you’d like to experience even more of this magic (and who wouldn’t?), begin to focus on it and ask for it. Try manifesting answers through other specific sources and see what happens, or try writing down some theme, question or subject you’d like to explore further. Tape it to the wall behind your desk or carry it in your wallet or pocket. Then just watch for something related to this subject to grab your attention, and instead of brushing this experience off as a coincidence, celebrate it as validation that through synchronicity, the Universe can work for us in wonderful, mysterious ways.

– Soul Arcanum

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How Do Loved Ones Watch Over Us from Spirit?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I’ve often heard it said that someone in Spirit is “watching over us.” How does that happen? I mean, what do they do to try to help us?
– Bob

Dear Bob:

Just like our living friends and family, loved ones who pass on will do all sorts of things to try to protect and help us. While spirit guides and angels have their own methods, here I’ll focus on the ways that our loved ones watch over us from Spirit.

The most striking ways spirits intervene on our behalf usually involve warnings of danger, for in matters of life or death, the desire to help us is so strong that it can produce seeming “miracles.” These interventions may manifest in ominous feelings or intuitions, such as a strong sense of foreboding that causes us to change our plans. I’ve often heard from people who had “feelings” that caused them to cancel a trip or reconsider their trust in a certain individual. While sometimes these feelings had an uncertain origin, other times folks had vivid dreams in which a loved one in Spirit was warning them, or they heard or otherwise perceived that spirit communicating a warning.

Occasionally, spirits even seem to be able to affect physical reality. For example, in the moments before a major car accident, a driver may sense the presence of a loved one in Spirit and then somehow emerge from the accident unscathed. Sometimes they may feel the steering wheel gripped by an invisible force, or they may brace themselves for a seemingly unavoidable impact that never comes.

I had such an experience myself long ago. I was driving late at night and I was very upset. I was crying and feeling reckless. I was driving through a deserted parking lot when in my despair I mentally reached out to my first love, who had died many years before. Instantly I felt his presence in the passenger seat. When I looked to see if he was actually there, my moving car shifted from drive into park!

The most amazing part of this experience was the fact that when I was 15 years old, he was the one who had taught me how to drive a car. At one point, I wanted to continue out onto a main road, and he told me not to. When it became apparent that I was going to do just what I wanted, he very calmly grabbed the center gear shift and put the car in park. So the night he put the car in park from Spirit, he was both preventing me from driving when I was upset, and confirming his presence in a very personal way.

Fortunately we’re not in danger often, but whenever something is very important to us, our desire will draw love and support from loved ones in Spirit just as it does from those who love us here on Earth. If we are longing for a health cure, a new job or a soul mate experience, our friends in Spirit will try to help us by guiding us to the answers, opportunities and people who can aid us in fulfilling our dreams.

They do this a number of ways, most of which involve planting ideas, impulses and suggestions in our minds. Sudden urges to go somewhere or do something are hallmarks of spiritual intercession. As this is similar to our own instincts and intuitions, we usually fail to recognize that these “nudges” came from an outside source.

Spirits can plant ideas in others’ minds as well. For example, if we’re desperately needing a new job, they may plant the idea of going through a certain employment service, and then when we’re in an interview, they may plant certain feelings and impulses in the interviewer. That person may inexplicably have a “good feeling” about us or an urge to give us the job. Similarly, when we suddenly find ourselves wanting to help someone or “seeing them in a new light,” it’s often because spirits are casting them in a different light so we will like them and want to help them.

Now, if you’re having a hard time in life, it doesn’t mean you lack friends “upstairs!” We determine the amount of help we can receive from Spirit. Nothing outside of ourselves can energetically align us with what we want – we have to do that. We also have to ask for help through prayer or at least clear longing. In my story above, I prayed with all my heart to connect with someone in Spirit, and “magic” happened.

Further, the more receptive we are to being guided, the easier it is to help us. If we’re blind to our faults and weaknesses or stubbornly insist on feeling sorry for ourselves or blaming outside influences for all our problems, then Spirit is not going to be able to break through our denial to help us. (We might call this “learning the hard way.”)

The people who may be able to help us must also be receptive. The more open and sensitive they are, the more impulses from spirits will be able to “get through.” Mediums often receive nudges from loved ones in Spirit to help the people they care about here on Earth. It only makes sense if you think about it, for we’re psychically sensitive and also already engaged in helping these folks with their biggest problems.

For this reason, mediums must remain especially conscious of strong impulses to “go the extra mile” or “save” clients. There is a difference between caring about people and the intense love of a personal connection. When I suddenly find myself wanting to “adopt” someone, I look to see if someone in Spirit is trying to care for them through me.

I recently did a reading for a woman whose teenage son died a few years ago. This young man is very devoted to his mother, and doing all he can to help her to heal from her grief and find fulfillment in other areas of her life. In the week prior to her reading, all sorts of “coincidences” started to crop up.

For example, she lives on an island, and suddenly, I was encountering references to this place right and left. It was mentioned in movies, books and conversations. I met people from this obscure place and had other people tell me stories about it from out of the blue. I also had a strong urge not only to go there, but to make this woman my new best friend, help her solve all her problems, and devote my life to facilitating communication between her and her son.

When these coincidences finally got my attention, I realized that her son was behind them. As soon as I became conscious that he was trying to get me to love her on his behalf, his influence over me ended.

People who are open and sensitive but unconscious or mentally weak are easy to influence both by the living and “the dead.” As all sorts of entities will try to influence us for both loving and selfish reasons, it’s very important that we are conscious enough to make our own choices. Since I have devoted myself to doing the work of Spirit in the world, my guides often send me on missions, and I have no problem with that. When loved ones in Spirit try to “slip under my radar” however, it’s important to make sure I’m acting of my own free will. If we are conscious of where impulses are coming from, then we’e free to choose to honor them or not.

This is one reason developing the ability to consciously communicate with Spirit is so wise and powerful. Then we can reject those ideas and impulses that won’t serve us well, empower our loved ones and guides to help us, and consciously choose to serve Spirit by honoring kind impulses from beyond. This intuitive way of life is rich with synchronicity, “magic” and endless blessings!

So the next time you get a strong impulse of some kind or you notice others suddenly wanting to help you, stop and put out your feelers for spiritual intervention. If you sense some force working on your behalf, ask for some sign or evidence to validate that intuition. The more you honor and give thanks for all the magic in your experience, the more you’ll empower your loved ones in Spirit to watch over you.

– Soul Arcanum

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She’s Weary of Her Spiritual Mentor

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

Lately I have felt stagnant in my spiritual growth and practices. I had a friend that was kind of like a mentor to me, but within the past six months, I have grown very tired of her and weary of anyone trying to “mentor” me. Am I being stubborn, going through my own growing pains, or is it something else?
– Jennifer

Dear Jennifer:

I do feel you are being stubborn – not because you are resistant to others’ guidance, but because you are resistant to letting go of relationships you have outgrown.

As we grow and evolve, we are led to the people and experiences that can help us learn what we need to learn next or become what we want to become. When we first discover those people or experiences, we feel strongly attracted to them. This is our inner guidance telling us that we’ve found what we’ve been looking for. Our feelings of interest and excitement are signs from our inner compass that we should go in this direction. This is why it is wise to “follow our bliss.”

As time goes on, that which once was blissful and exciting naturally loses some of its shine. Challenges arise. Now we’ll either move beyond the surface to deeper levels of understanding, or lose interest and move on. This holds true both for new teachings/practices and for new relationships.

Think about it: when we first make a new friend or start dating a new lover, that person seems wonderful and fascinating. After a while we get beneath the surface, however, where things are more complicated. In addition to all the good things that first attracted us, we discover new stuff that we struggle to understand. We may not be sure what to think of it, and spend a good amount of time really weighing it out. That “struggle” is at the heart of personal growth.

If we hang in there, over time we learn how to work it all out: how to be patient and understanding with these new issues and push through the rough spots. If this relationship or practice really works for us, we may stick with it indefinitely and make it our own. If it continues to bring us joy and blessings, that will be easy. If it brings new lessons and challenges, we’ll be motivated to keep it alive – at least as long as our desire for growth outweighs our fears and insecurities.

If, however, we discover that there isn’t much for us to chew on beneath that surface, we’ll start to experience feelings of stagnation, boredom, frustration, etc. These are signs that we have outgrown the relationship or situation.

As we are always looking for “the answer,” “the key,” or “the one,” when we find something or someone that feels like it might be it, we tend to grab it with both hands and refuse to let go. We want it to be all we have been looking for, so we define it as such. Then later when we’ve outgrown it, if we fail to redefine it in light of all we’ve learned, we may feel confused because it doesn’t “do it” for us anymore.

Just because a certain person, practice, course of study, etc., is what we most need at one time, that doesn’t mean it will always be what we need. Even something of great power can become a hindrance if we cling to it too long. We can no more force ourselves to stay in relationships or situations that we’ve outgrown than we can force ourselves to wear the same pants we adored when we were six years old. Over time, they will become more and more uncomfortable until we finally discard them for something that fits better.

This is a natural process. It doesn’t mean we’re missing something, failing to appreciate our blessings or resisting our lessons. If you felt angry, inadequate, overwhelmed or challenged, I’d recommend you look within for how you may be resisting the wisdom and experience this teacher may have to offer, especially if you admire her and would like to become more like her.

By contrast, boredom, weariness and indifference are signs that it is time to move on. When we find ourselves saying, “I’m so tired of” this or that, or “This is getting really ‘old,'” it’s time to ask ourselves why we’re still in that situation. Usually, it’s because despite our lack of interest, we’re still living according to that obsolete definition, which keeps us hanging on.

To get unstuck, you just need to update your mental files and redefine this teacher’s role in your life in light of where you are NOW. It doesn’t really matter what you once got out of this relationship; what matters is how well it fits who you have become and where you want to go in your life from here.

While it’s wonderful to be grateful to everyone who blesses us with new wisdom and experiences, gratitude is not the same as obligation. Let go of any guilt you’re feeling about wanting to move on so you can celebrate how far you’ve come!

Now, this teacher aside, everyone on a conscious spiritual path at some point grows weary of others trying to mentor them. This is a very important turning point. I feel your inner being is telling you that you don’t need to be led by anyone outside of yourself anymore. Your next step on your spiritual journey will involve you developing your own conscious connection to Spirit and listening within for your own answers. You may still take classes or read books, but instead of assuming these writers and teachers know more than you do, you will weigh all input against your own inner wisdom.

You’re very wise to be questioning yourself. That means you have developed the ability to rise above your ego for higher awareness. It’s ironic: the more we can ask ourselves if we are just being “stubborn” due to ego issues, the less likely it is that this is true. Since you’re able to question your reaction objectively, I feel that you need to trust your feelings and honor them by doing what does feel right and best.

None of this means that you’ve learned everything there is to learn! It means now you have learned enough to dig in to a new level of experience, to apply what you’ve been taught and make some new discoveries of your own. This is very exciting.

It can be unnerving to begin to forge our own spiritual trail. It’s sort of like moving from a reader of great books to a writer of great books, or like moving from a child to an adult. Instead of trusting others to take care of us, guide us, and have all the answers, now we have to figure things out for ourselves.

Nevertheless, just as a child grows and realizes that her parents are not all-powerful and do not have all the answers, at some point in our spiritual journeys, we also realize that our gurus are not gods, and there is no one person out there with all the answers we’ve been seeking. While we can still learn from others, we realize that no one is a greater authority on our own spiritual truth than we are. No one else can direct us on our spiritual journeys better than we can ourselves by listening within for guidance and answers.

So when friends, jobs, teachers, etc. grow weary for you, ask yourself why you’re still there. Odds are good it is because you just haven’t updated your mental files on this situation in light of what you’ve learned and who and where you are now, or you’ve grown accustomed to being led and are reluctant to forge your own trail.

Whenever you feel stuck, call to mind the things in your life that you’re weary of, and for a moment, ponder how they are just one tiny possibility in an infinite sea of potential. Think of how many spiritual teachers there are! Contemplate how many friends, lovers, jobs, books, ideas, etc., you’ve yet to encounter. Let the immensity of all that potential stir your soul and draw you out of what has been into all that could be. If you listen to your weariness, it will eventually guide you into exciting new beginnings and discoveries.

– Soul Arcanum

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How Does Psychic Information Help Us Create Change?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

A little over a year ago, I fell down some stairs and hit the top of my neck. It’s been a long path to healing, but when I realized that I could consciously relax this area, the level of chronic pain became much more bearable. What hasn’t really helped was the information given to me by a healer who said that the reason I hurt my neck was because in a past life I was tortured and killed by a “dark energy cult” who did something gruesome to my neck. It’s not like I find this unbelievable or even particularly frightening; I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do with it. I’ve experienced plenty of things in this life to explain why I remain inert in the face of approaching danger or why I walk carelessly down a wet spiral staircase. To what extent are we defined by our past lives? I find it difficult to imagine why I would recreate a shadow experience of something terrible. Are we even supposed to know what happened in past lives? I ask this because I have never found self-awareness to be a major impetus for behavioral/physical change.
– Karla

Dear Karla:

I think this question is really about the power of conscious awareness. Whether the experiences affecting us at a subconscious level stem from our past in this life or another life, if we are unaware of why we are doing what we are doing, then those experiences are controlling our behavior. When we become conscious of why we do what we do, then we gain the power to make a conscious choice to do something else.

Here’s a simple, classic example that is sadly all too common: Let’s say that when Sandy was little, she was molested by her father. She may have a vague recollection of this, or have totally repressed her memories of it. It doesn’t really matter, so long as she is not conscious of how those early experiences are affecting her today.

Fast forward twenty or thirty years, and now Sandy has a hard time getting close to men. As soon as a man begins to get too close, she finds fault with him or starts acting “crazy” and pushing him away.

She may come to me for a reading, asking, “Why can’t I find the right guy?” Or, if she has some self-awareness, she might ask, “Why do I sabotage these relationships? Why do I always treat the nicest guys like dirt?”

Well, Sandy learned at an early age that it is the men you should be able to trust the most – the ones who are supposed to protect you and take care of you – that you have to watch out for. When a man says he loves you, beware. Thus as soon as a guy seems to care too much, she feels panicked and starts to flail around to get out of the relationship.

If she can get conscious about why she is doing what she is doing, then she can work through the irrational, self-defeating aspects of her belief system, and choose a more empowering and fulfilling approach to relationships.

I know this works myself. When I was a teenager, like many girls that age, all I wanted was to be pretty and popular. I put a lot of effort into being skinny, attractive, etc. Then I was stalked and raped by a man who saw me as so “desirable” that he had to have me for himself.

In the wake of that experience, I blamed myself. I said things to myself like, “Well, you wanted to be irresistible! That’s what you get!” I then started gaining weight and wearing huge clothes. I stopped wearing makeup. I stopped getting a lot of male attention. I wasn’t happy being out of shape and unattractive, but I felt safer.

I woke up one day and realized WHY I was overeating, not exercising, and dressing in baggy clothes. I then decided to “empower” myself by getting very strong and fit. I started eating right, lifting weights, running, and training in karate. I became obsessed with being fit and strong.

To this day, I still work out a lot. There are some healthy, positive reasons for this, but there is also a bit of that desire to be able to protect myself too. Maybe that’s unhealthy, or maybe it’s just wise given the nature of the world. I do know that becoming conscious of why I was doing what I was doing freed me to find the healthiest way to deal with it. I’m happy feeling strong and fit. I feel empowered.

Our past lives often do continue to affect us. The more intense/traumatic an experience in our past was, the greater its potential power over us will be. Since we don’t usually remember our past life experiences, they tend to influence us in unconscious ways.

When a big past life trauma is swept under the rug of our conscious awareness, it forms a lump in our lives that we can’t really see. We then trip over that lump again and again until we make a connection between walking in that area and getting hurt. Then we may be able to walk around it to avoid it, but of course, the hazard is still there. If we aren’t “paying attention,” we could trip over it again. If we consciously address that lump – if we lift up the rug and drag it out into the light and clean it out of there, we won’t have that vulnerability anymore.

Just because something happened in a past life, however, that doesn’t mean that we’re doomed to experience it again. While I won’t comment on the accuracy of the unusual reading you received, I find it rather strange to be seeking the reason for an accident in a past life in the first place. Accidents happen; they don’t always have some deep or higher meaning. We can have an accident if we simply fail to consciously manifest well-being. If we’re not grounded, not paying attention, not fully in our bodies, then accidents happen, and we’re snapped back to reality. If we keep finding ourselves in the same sort of pattern of experience, however, then it may be helpful to seek the metaphysical reasons why.

You asked if we’re even supposed to know about past life experiences. I found that a most interesting question. Why indeed would we generally not remember them unless there was a good reason?

I asked Spirit, and it was explained to me that we gain access to power and information as we become ready for it. Thus the more evolved we are spiritually, the more spiritual abilities we’ll gain, and the more awareness we’ll have of things like our past lives, the deeper meaning behind our experiences, etc. Spiritual evolution is a journey of ever expanding conscious awareness. We can trust that if we are made aware of something, it is natural and right for us now.

I feel that this fall sparked a big surge forward spiritually for you. Often accidents release a surge in kundalini. If you look back, you will see how this fall launched you into a period of deep spiritual questioning. That may not have been its “purpose,” but it was the result. Take it for what it is, and make the most of it. Instead of looking back and asking “Why?” look forward and ask, “Where do I want to go from here?”

We are not doomed to repeat past life experiences. In fact, the whole point of accessing past life information is to become more aware of any unconscious programs that are driving self-defeating habits so we can create what we want instead. Regardless of what happened in the past, we have the power to choose what we will create in our lives now.

We’ve all had hard times and dark experiences in this and in other lives. Becoming conscious of the deep fears we carry as a result of these experiences can empower us to release them. As all great spiritual teachers have taught, the path to realization is one of self-awareness. The more we know ourselves, the more empowered we are to consciously work with natural spiritual law.

– Soul Arcanum

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When Your Intuition Conflicts with the Advice of Psychics

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

Most of the psychics I have consulted have told me to wait for this married man because they see us together someday. He has been married about 35 years, and although the marriage is not good, I have a hard time believing he will ever divorce because of family pressure. We had a brief relationship two years ago, when I fell in love with him. I have waited for him to divorce so that maybe we could have another chance at a relationship. A number of psychics have told me they see us together possibly next year, and that he will decide to divorce. Should I trust what I feel inside (that it’s not going to happen), or am I just being insecure and wanting more than he can give me right now, and thus clouding my intuition? Should I listen to those who have “gifts” I don’t possess, trust that they see something I don’t, and take their advice to wait for this man? I do love him and would like to have the faith that they tell me to have, but the waiting is hard and I also don’t want to be stupid. I am advised to wait more often than I am not, but frankly, I don’t hear from him much any more.
Thank you!
– Rosanne

Dear Rosanne:

Basically, your question is what you should do if your own gut/intuition disagrees with what a psychic tells you. The answer: always put your own inner truth first! When we go against our own instincts to do what our parents tell us to do, what our spouse thinks is right, or what a psychic advises, we grow away from our true path and feel more and more like something is missing in our lives. We also find it harder and harder to access our inner guidance, so we end up feeling more and more lost and frustrated.

You are the ultimate authority on your own life, not just because you are the closest to it, but also because what you believe will happen is what you will generally experience. We get what we expect in life because we do create our own realities. Thus a hundred psychics could tell you that you will marry this man, but if you don’t believe it’s possible or destined yourself, it won’t come together. A hundred psychics could tell you that you won’t find true love, but if you believe in your heart you will, then you WILL.

It is very important to view psychic readings as simply one perspective on your situation. Hopefully, that perspective will prove to be a source of comfort, inspiration, encouragement and enlightenment. It will help you to determine how you really feel, what you really want, what is really happening beneath the surface, where things are heading, and how you can align with true fulfillment. The guidance in a reading should resonate with you deep within. If it doesn’t, throw it out!

One of the first psychics I ever consulted (many years ago) told me that I had no psychic gifts and would never end up working in this field. As soon as she said those words, I knew how wrong they were. I learned a lot from that experience – like what NOT to do as a reader, as well as what I knew to be true myself.

I encourage every one of my clients to trust their own inner knowing above anything I might communicate in a reading. Here is an excerpt to the introduction I always use in my email readings:

“I pray that you will listen to your own inner guidance in interpreting this reading, and disregard anything that does not ring true to you. You already know the answers you are seeking, but perhaps have trouble believing those answers or consciously accessing that knowledge. When something in this reading makes you say to yourself, ‘Ah, yes, that is so true,’ that is you recognizing that which you already knew to be true in your heart.”

We all have an inner compass that gauges the truth for us. When someone says something that really “hits the nail on the head,” this little switch inside lights up. When someone tells us something that is untrue or off somehow, it feels like something in our guts actually pushes it away, rejecting it.

We become confused or unsure of our true paths when we’re blinded by attachments to things going a certain way, and can’t be objective. The reading process is designed to lift us above this confusion born of ego/fear/desire. This will only happen, however, if we infuse the reading with this power by taking a sacred approach.

While there are many advantages of consulting psychics online or via the phone, the downside is that it’s too easy to be casual about it. When you go see a spiritual counselor in person, she can draw you into the sacred vibration of true communion with Spirit. When you’re consulting with a psychic from a distance, you have to take responsibility for that yourself. When a reading is approached carelessly, it’s not going to prove powerful and useful, for the energy you put into it will determine what you get out of it. If you pray sincerely for answers to come to you from Spirit, then THEY WILL COME. They will either come to you through the words in the reading or through your own inner knowing. As I described above, sometimes that inner knowing is a strong rejection of what the psychic says. If this happens in a reading, the psychic may not have come through for you, but Spirit sure did.

Which will you trust more: a psychic stranger, or the Divine whispering in your own heart?

As for your situation in particular, I see a man who is all tied up in knots, and while he may claim that others have tied him up, those knots are of his own making. If you think about it, he really is “free to go.” He is choosing to put other matters before his feelings for you. That’s entirely his prerogative – but it’s not what you really want in love.

You are being urged to rise above the question of whether this man is going to get a divorce to be with you and simply focus on what YOU want in love with faith that it will come you. Visualize a man who puts nothing before his love for you. Imagine yourself feeling like the center of someone’s universe: adored, cherished and appreciated. You deserve more and better than waiting for some guy you had a fling with two years ago to wake up, get a divorce, and devote his heart to you. The odds of him choosing to do this are slim, while your ability to manifest the kind of love you want in general is infinite – provided you work with the law of attraction to manifest this in your life. If you align with fulfillment then this man might step up to the plate, but if he doesn’t, then another will. Stay open to your good coming to you through whatever channel is most open. Your only job is to become the adored, cherished lover you wish to be in your own mind and heart.

Psychics are not infallible any more than stock brokers, therapists or doctors are infallible, and even the best psychic won’t prove powerful and helpful to a client who is blocked or blinded by her own fears and desires. I advise everyone to check what they are told against their own inner knowing. If you regularly consult psychics and often feel they’re “wrong” then quit consulting psychics – you don’t need them anymore! If you find a psychic who always resonates with your own inner knowing, who knows how to help you to get clear on what you want and should do, then stick with her. If she should ever feel “off,” however, keep her words in mind as you move forward, but go with your own gut.

We’ve all been given a divine inner compass to help us feel our way through life. The more we listen to our intuition, the stronger and clearer it will get. To be truly fulfilled, we have to do more than just listen, however; we have to honor our intuition by basing our choices on it above all else.

– Soul Arcanum

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Do You Sometimes Feel Disconnected from Spirit?

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Dear Soul Arcanum: Do you feel that once you are connected with Spirit, you are always connected with Spirit? As a psychic, lately I have been feeling extremely disconnected from Spirit, almost as if my guides have stopped speaking to me, but it seems to always happen right before Mercury goes retrograde.
– B.

Dear B.:

Thanks for this great question. I think many people view a consciously developed connection to Spirit sort of like “enlightenment.” Once you attain it, you’re “enlightened” and will be so forevermore. In truth, there are many things that can cause us to feel disconnected.

Staying connected is sort of like “staying in shape.” Getting there in the first place is the hardest part, but we can’t then forget about it: we have to maintain it by practicing the habits that led us to success in the first place, and by paying attention to how we feel and what is needed on a regular basis.

Basically, to consciously communicate with guides and others in Spirit, we have to maintain a high frequency or vibration. I’ve written about how to go about this in depth in many other articles. If we stop doing things to keep our vibration high, or start doing things that will lower it, then it’s natural to get disconnected.

Since this is a recurring experience for you, I’m assuming that you’re not doing anything obvious to disconnect, like using your ability in ways you know you shouldn’t, or making life choices that you know are wrong. Once we’ve been “allowed past” a certain point spiritually, so to speak, we not only have greater power to work with spiritual laws, but we also suffer greater consequences when we fail to honor them. If most folks are walking through life, then consciously connecting with Spirit is like learning how to fly. We can see farther and go wherever we want to go much faster, but if we crash, we have a long ways to fall.

I don’t feel you’ve blundered, however. What you’re experiencing is much more common – what we might call natural “wear and tear” on your conscious connection to Spirit. We all struggle with this, because unless we constantly counteract it, life itself will tend to make us disconnect. Every time we react to an experience with negative emotion, our vibration lowers. Every time we get stressed out about anything, we pop out of connection mode. Life these days is harried and full of distractions and stress. Maintaining a clear, healthy, conscious spiritual connection is a lot like maintaining a strong, flexible, radiantly healthy body. Even with daily care and attention, everyone gets “sick” or weary sometimes.

So while we can aim to remain constantly, perfectly connected, we should be prepared for life to happen. It’s human nature to get distracted by dramas or to start to take things for granted after a while, and when we do that, they naturally start to slide. When we see them sliding, our appreciation of them is renewed, and then we put more focus and effort into them to restore them. We go through this up and down cycle in all areas of our lives all the time.

Since we’re both psychics, let’s look at readings as an example. When we first begin to read for others, it’s all fascinating and amazing. We love to tune in and work with people this way; we can’t get enough of it. Years later, however, it’s become routine. Now we’re more interested in our personal lives or our latest spiritual interest, and we may start to rush through meditation or readings so we can do what we “want” to do. This is when the disconnection starts. Spirit hasn’t changed: we’ve changed. As a church bulletin near my house reads, “If God [Spirit] feels far away, who moved?”

So the first thing to do when you feel disconnected is to examine how you may have changed. Look for the patterns involved. This is where Mercury Retrograde comes in. While I’m no astrologer, I do know that Mercury rules the mind and communication, and when a planet is retrograde, it means the issues it governs will be obscured or unavailable. Thus it makes perfect sense that Mercury Retrograde could throw a glitch into spirit communication.

Instead of feeling thwarted by this astrological influence, however, I recommend you decide that this is a helpful period of realignment. This is a time when life is forcing you to stop and get back on track in whatever ways you’ve gotten off. It’s a period when you’ll be pushed to move past your prior limits, reevaluate your approach, and repair or resolve issues that need your attention. It’s a time when it will be easier to see your life and your spiritual path in a new light. Feeling disconnected will motivate you to remember how important your connection to Spirit is, and to restore and recharge it if need be.

So whenever this happens, stop and ask yourself how you have changed from times when you felt strongly connected. Have you dropped some of the habits that got you connected in the first place? If not, do you need to let go of them and try something new? Has your desire for and appreciation of your connection grown dim with time? Have you gotten lazy with your meditation or other disciplines? Has your faith become tarnished by your interpretation of your life experiences? Are you being hard on yourself, and thus lowering your vibration? Has your personal life become dramatic and distracting? Has your enthusiasm waned?

I go through periods of feeling disconnected too, and it is usually the result of an emotional upset that threw me “off center,” distracted me from my higher purpose and lowered my vibration. To remain consciously connected, we have to constantly work through the hurt, fear and anger that arise in response to our life experiences. If we don’t deal with our own “stuff,” we won’t be able to help others deal with theirs. When I don’t know how to realign with my best self and my peak abilities, I just start doing the things that have worked for me before: meditating, eating really well, exercising, reading positive books, eliminating negative or distracting influences, energy healing work, practicing kindness and compassion, cultivating gratitude for all I’ve been blessed with, and remembering my many amazing spiritual experiences.

Don’t be dismayed or think you’re doing something wrong if you feel disconnected sometimes. Throughout history, shamanic cultures around the world have undertaken vision quests to consciously reconnect with Spirit. Even Jesus went off for 40 days in the wilderness, and the Buddha fasted and meditated for 40 days under the Bodhi tree. Now and then, we all need to work at transcending mundane reality and elevating our awareness of Spirit. If the simple suggestions above don’t work, you might explore the idea of going on your own vision quest. It doesn’t have to be a week of fasting in the wilderness; it can be any day that you set ordinary life aside for the express purpose of reconnecting with Spirit.

– Soul Arcanum

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How Can Psychic Deal with “Difficult Clients?”

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

About a year and a half ago, I started giving readings professionally. I love my work with one exception: some of my clients are “difficult.” When I have a client like this scheduled, I just dread the whole reading. I’m nervous, on edge, and find my confidence wavering. My intuition tells me it’s not going to be worth it to work with them, but I often do it anyway, as I feel I have to rise above my negative feelings and find a way to use the gifts I’ve been given. I give great readings to clients who want to work with me, who are open and easy to connect with. How do you deal with “difficult” clients?
– Maria

Dear Maria:

Thanks for this wonderful question. I can relate!

I have a long-time client who is a kind, brilliant young man. He’s a research physicist, and he always has some heavy questions for me about his latest theories. Fortunately, he also has some brilliant scientists working with him from the other side. I usually don’t understand half of what I channel through for him, but he tells me that he does, and that he always finds my readings helpful.

Given his scientific mind, he tends to want to test me. He will request a reading with vague or confusing questions, such as, “What does Spirit have to say about the molecular gravity simulation thingamajig?” Now, I don’t really need to understand all the jargon, but “what does Spirit have to say about…” is wide open. So when pursuing his latest reading a few months ago, he threw some really vague, confusing questions at me, and when I wrote to tell him that he was going to have to formulate something clearer, he said, “Well, I trust you and I trust Spirit. It always works out. I want to see what you get with this.”

This is where I tripped up. It felt wrong to me, and I knew I was not going to be able to bring through the sort of clear, helpful, useful information that I insist upon in my work. Something in me decided to defer to his judgment, and I said I’d see what I could do. It was one of the worst readings I’ve ever done. I had to strain for every answer, and when I got it, it made no sense to me. I was exhausted when the reading was over, and I didn’t feel I’d even produced anything really valuable for all that effort. The worst part of it all was that I KNEW better than to go ahead with this reading, yet I did it anyway.

He was surprised at the disappointing quality of the reading as well. I then laughed and apologized to him, and told him that I had made a mistake and would do the whole thing over on one condition: that he provide me with clear questions. He agreed, and in the second reading, we accessed the clear, helpful information and insights he was looking for.

This whole experience made me realize anew that it is my job to stay “in charge” of the reading. After all, I am the one performing it! If my clients don’t want to work with what works for me, they can always go see someone else. Through many years of experience, I have learned that it’s never wise to ignore our intuition, and this includes pushing forward before the energy is fully aligned for the reading (which in my case means that both the client and I clearly understand what he or she wants to know).

As it is a huge honor and responsibility to read for someone, we must approach this work with great care. We hold our clients’ inner lives in our hands; they hang on our words. This is why it’s so important to always approach issues from a positive angle, and to make sure that our true meaning is understood, for people can have intense, life changing emotional responses to what they THINK we’re saying, whether that’s what we’re trying to communicate or not.

Young or novice readers often struggle with “difficult clients” because they’re unsure of asserting themselves as the authority in the reading process. I began reading when I was in my mid twenties. When delivering spiritual advice to people twice my age, I had to keep reminding myself that I was just a channel for Spirit, so my personal age and wisdom had little to do with it. Readers must be able to stand tall in their authority to maintain the energetic integrity of the reading process.

Further, regardless of our field of work, we are all wise to learn about the law of attraction and to consciously align the quality of people/experiences we desire. When I first started reading, I was foolishly thrilled to work with anyone who wanted to work with me. I quickly learned to be more discerning. I vividly remember the turning point: I had a young woman who got angry with me when Spirit gently informed her that her ex-boyfriend (who was now engaged to another woman and living in another country) was not going to be reuniting with her this lifetime, and that she had to let go of this attachment to tap the new love potential on the horizon. It just was not what she wanted to hear.

After this experience, I asked Spirit to send me only kind, sincere clients who are self-aware and honest both with me and with themselves, and from that point on, I began attracting the most wonderful clients in the world. They are warm, wonderful, appreciative people who have deep questions and issues at stake – not folks who just want winning lottery numbers or spells to make a lover return to them.

So while I never meet “difficult clients” anymore, I know they’re out there. As even great clients may need some clear boundaries and direction, we have to stay awake and keep listening to our intuition. Since our business is “being psychic,” this is especially important!

Also, while it’s great to be appreciative of your gifts, you’re not really serving Spirit if you’re hurting yourself. There are many valid reasons you might refuse to read for someone. I don’t recommend reading for people who are fooling themselves and seeking validation for their subjective perspective; who recently got a reading on the same subject but didn’t act on any of the advice given in that reading; are coming to you from another psychic in hopes of hearing a different answer; are rude, pushy, or trying to get something for nothing; are too close to you personally such as a very close friend or family member (because of how it could affect your relationship); have a closed and challenging attitude; have ill intentions such as revenge or selfish gain; want you to “save” them as opposed to wanting you to help them help themselves. Nothing good will come from working with such clients, so there is no need to feel obligated or guilty for deciding you deserve a higher quality of experience.

In summary, I highly recommend that all readers clarify and affirm what they want in terms of quality of experience. In return, promise Spirit that you will do your very best for clients who are open, friendly, kind and sincere, etc. Then embrace your authority as a reader by honoring what works for you, and by sending anyone who wants you to compromise your truth on with your full blessings. I firmly believe that this approach will greatly enhance your reading practice, both for you AND for your clients.

– Soul Arcanum

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