Dear Soul Arcanum:
You recently did a reading for me and brought through some specific details and communication from my departed son. Do you think I can communicate like this with him too? I know I feel his presence and have dream encounters with him, but this is nothing like the specific communication you are able to bring through. It would mean so much to me to be able to see things and hear things from him like you do. Is it difficult? How can I learn to communicate more clearly with him?
– Liz
Dear Liz:
I absolutely believe you can learn how to do this. It’s a bit like learning how to draw portraits: some people will have a natural artistic gift, while others will find those skills elusive. I don’t believe spirit communication is difficult, but then again, artists probably don’t believe what they do is difficult either. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to “perform” at a certain level right from the start, or in frustration, you’ll just hinder your own success.
Spirit communication basically requires five ingredients. They are: desire, openness, a high vibration, trust and skill. If you can cultivate these ingredients, you can make this happen.
Here’s what I recommend:
Desire: You have this part down pat. As I wrote in a recent column, many natural mediums only discover their ability after someone very dear passes on, because that is the first time they have a desire strong enough to bridge the chasm between this world and spiritual realms. Your strong desire to communicate with your son will carry you far in this endeavor. I believe this is the most important ingredient in successful communication.
Just “playing around” with spirit communication doesn’t usually produce powerful results. If one does not have someone dear on the other side that they long to reconnect with, a passionate curiosity about life’s mysteries may be enough.
Openness: You must believe that spirit communication is possible. This actually involves a number of related beliefs. You must at least be open to the idea that we continue on after death, and that it is possible to communicate with those who have passed on. Your personal encounters with your son since his death have of course underscored your belief in the afterlife. The reading we did further deepened your belief that it’s possible to achieve clear, evidential communication with spirits. If we believe something is impossible, it’s highly unlikely that we will experience it.
So anyone desiring spirit communication would be wise to examine their beliefs about this subject, and if they find they are skeptical but at the same time desire to experience something that proves to them that this is a valid phenomenon, I recommend they work on their belief system by reading books about the subject, visiting gifted mediums, spending time in Spiritualist churches or with people who are already believers, etc.
High Vibration: Everything in the Universe is energy, and the non-physical exists at a vibration higher than ours here on Earth. To connect with those in the non-physical, we thus have to raise our vibration.
By way of metaphor, imagine that the quality of everyone’s personal vibration can be seen as a color. Here on Earth our colors range from red to violet. Folks of a “lower vibration” here may look “red” and folks aligned with a high vibration may look “violet.” We might say that earthbound entities (those dark spirits who haunt our ghost stories and horror movies) are infrared, while spirits, guides and angels are ultraviolet and beyond.
Our vibration is not static; it is constantly moving through our own personal range. The more spiritually evolved we are, the higher our vibration will tend to be, and thus the closer it will tend to be to the “ultraviolet” band of the non-physical. To communicate with spiritual entities, we must step up our vibration and they must reach down to us via desire. Thus we meet in a middle ground somewhere between violet and ultraviolet. (Please remember this is just a metaphor.)
We can raise our vibration by being “high-minded” – thinking high vibration thoughts and feeling high vibration feelings. This is why those who are deeply grieving often can’t connect with the one they are grieving for; their vibration is just too low. It’s also why we often have encounters with loved ones in Spirit when we are thinking of them with love, for that love lifts our hearts and spirits up where we are able to perceive subtler energies.
There are many other ways to raise your vibration. Some of them are simply habits that many psychics and mediums practice on a regular basis in order to be able to do this sort of work whenever they need to. Some methods include: adopting a healthy diet and exercise regimen; meditating; doing yoga; practicing right action, kindness, integrity and positive thinking; cultivating an attitude of gratitude, walking a conscious spiritual path, etc.
I continually strive for all of the above in order to remain a clear channel. When I initiate spirit communication for a reading, I also clear my aura and fill myself with light, say a prayer, set a very high intention, and center my awareness in my heart chakra while sending love to the one I’m reading for and those in Spirit who are being sought. I basically “lift my heart” up to Spirit in order to connect clearly.
Trust: This is probably the hardest thing for most people. It involves trusting whatever you perceive and remaining mentally open to various manifestations of Spirit. While one medium may channel long verbal speeches from Spirit, there are many others ways for communication to come through, and they don’t all work for everyone.
At first, messages from Spirit may not even come to you mentally; they may come through signs in your outer experience, the words of others, your dreams, etc. You must trust those experiences in order to move into a deeper range of potential. The more you trust the communications and signs you receive, the more you will progress.
Skill: Rounding out our mediumship abilities takes a lot of practice. This is where skill comes in. At first you may only receive messages from Spirit in the way that is easiest for you and most natural for the spirit communicating, which leaves no way to “check” the meaning of the message or “round it out.” If you’re very visual and the spirit is very kinesthetic, for example, it may be very hard to ever achieve clear communication without the helpful intercession of a guide. At this point you have to begin to refine all of your skills, especially those that are hardest for you.
At this point you simply experiment with various methods and work at them in order to improve. You might try working with a pendulum for starters, then feel drawn toward automatic writing or the use of another divination tool, and in this way naturally progress. Trust Spirit to guide you via your intuition. There are lots of books and classes on various spirit communication methods; explore whatever draws your interest.
To find the best way for you, devote yourself to working with your chosen methods, evaluate your results, and keep refining your approach as you go.
May you have many wonderful experiences of Spirit!
– Soul Arcanum
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